Need advice regarding male appearance!!!

mrDuke

Hope this is in the proper section.

Im a outgoing, fun 23 year old guy, have lots of friends, many female who really enjoy my company, im confident, funny and have a pretty great social life. However i do have 1 major issue. I have never had a serious relationship with a girl and i very rarely meet someone who is attracted to me.

Now i do know for a fact the reason women are not interested in me is becuase of my appearance and no other reason, the 4 main issue's with my appearance are:

Large gap between my front two teeth (i look like a squirel )

Damaged facial skin, nothing major but my skin isnt smooth, it has lot of bumps and small imperfections maybe becuase of a bad diet or spots when i was a kid.

I am slightly over weight

Large nose that looks like theres a ramp in the middle

Now i really want to fix my appearance and i have lost considerable weight, to the point im nearly average in weight and I plan to start to getting fit and maybe enlarge my muscles too. So this problem i can fix.

However the gap in the teeth, bad skin and large nose are all an issue and i want to fix them.

So i need to know what can i do regarding my nose, face and teeth? Is it all fixable? is it expensive? Where do i go? and is there any major side effects from this sort of stuff?

speedboatchase

Read this, your looks aren't really that important:

http://www.play.com/Books/Books/4-/3515092/The-Game/Product.html?cur=258

Cupcake_Crisis

confidence is the most attractive thing a guy can have, its good that your working on fixing things you dont like but dont go overboard!
peoples imperfections are what makes them interesting

SpookyDoll

The teeth can be fixed alright, two main methods, regular braces or Invisalign.
Look up Orthodontist in the yellow pages and go to a few and get consultations, ask to see before and afters of previous clients. Dont let yourself fall for the "hard sell" though.

Regular braces might be the thing for you if the gap is large.
Invisalign is a series of clear plastic moulds worn over the teeth for months (depends on the severity of the problem) -there are pros and cons with them, but not everyone is a good candidate for them and they are expensive and require discipline.

The skin, see a dermatoligist, depending on the severity of the problem they may recommend something like dermabrasion or if worse a chemical peel.
Dermabrasion is gentler -a diamond tipped wand is passed over the skin, it can often be done in a good salon and the results are good.
If its acne scarring that is pitted and there are keloid scars (scar tissue) you may be a candidate for a chemical peel. This is a harsh treatment where acid is applied to the face, it will basically remove the top part of the skin so you would be off work for up to 5 days, your face will weep and peel. Its not for the faint hearted. Again speak to a dermatoligist.

The nose, you would be looking at Rhinoplasty, it starts from about 3k and the results are not guaranteed. You would want to be very sure you cannot live with your nose the way it is now. You will have black eyes after the surgery usually and could be off work for 2 weeks.

Anyway, all this stuff may just be in your mind but if you are determined those are a few starting points!

Good luck!

fonpokno

Afaik you can fill the gap in your teeth too. A girl I was in school with got that done, she had a big gap between her front teeth and got them filled in somehow as opposed to getting braces.

As said above though, people can look past this stuff. Be confident and people will love you! Personality sparkles a lot more than looks imo.

Slice

Braces for the teeth and a chemical face peel for the skin. If that's a bit extreme then try improving your diet, drink more water, curb your alcohol intake and give up smoking and plenty of sleep. Diet and hydration are the two most important things when it comes to maintaining good skin. Also, cleanse, exfoliate and moisturise your face once or twice a week (well actually the cleansing and moisturising should take place every day). There's always a nosejob for the nose. But really you should try the little things before resorting to the more drastic solutions

mrDuke

fonpokno wrote: »

Afaik you can fill the gap in your teeth too. A girl I was in school with got that done, she had a big gap between her front teeth and got them filled in somehow as opposed to getting braces.

As said above though, people can look past this stuff. Be confident and people will love you! Personality sparkles a lot more than looks imo.

In an ideal world this would be true, but in reality its not,
Im the most charming, confident, funniest, most outgoing person you will ever meet so this is definately not the problem.

Maybe i will start with the chemical face peel and look at the braces for now, unfortunately all this stuff is very expensive!

Anyone know anything more about this too filler stuff to make the gap less?

mrDuke

mrDuke wrote: »

In an ideal world this would be true, but in reality its not,
Im the most charming, confident, funniest, most outgoing person you will ever meet so this is definately not the proble

dont forget MODEST:D

AnonoBoy

mrDuke wrote: »

Im the most charming, confident, funniest, most outgoing person you will ever meet so this is definately not the problem.

Well you're not short on self-esteem anyways!

mrDuke

I know what im good at and what im not, come on ladies face the truth you would all shag colin farrell even if he had no personality and none of you would shag him if he had the best personality in the world but looked minging and thats the truth of it.

dudara

Ah come now. I know many guys that have 3 out of 4 of the "imperfections" you've listed.

You can take steps, as outlined by other posters, to improve these issues, but once they're fixed, you'll still be nit-picking at yourself.

Try to think a little deeper, beyond your looks and into your personality and actions.

BTW, I'm not saying don't go to the gym or look after yourself. I'm also not trivialising how you think you look. Deal with those issues, but also look deeper.

Gillo

mrDuke wrote: »

In an ideal world this would be true, but in reality its not,
Im the most charming, confident, funniest, most outgoing person you will ever meet so this is definately not the problem.

That may be part of the problem though, you see yourself as charming etc but other people may see you as a smug arrogant git.
I'm not saying you are OP, but it may be worth baring in mind.

stovelid

mrDuke wrote: »

In an ideal world this would be true, but in reality its not,
Im the most charming, confident, funniest, most outgoing person you will ever meet so this is definately not the problem.

This sounds like a fairly conceited appraisal of yourself to be honest. Are you sure that the women you meet share this appraisal and that your looks are actually the issue?

I know this is a generalization, but in my experience, in the dating game, people tend to underestimate their looks and often overestimate their personality.

Genuinely charming people rarely describe themselves as such. Perhaps you are trying too hard, as the 'imperfections' you listed don't sound like much to worry about.

Not to say I'm right with any of this of course, just opinion.

mrDuke

well i have as i said lots of female friends, that love my company and whom many consider me as one of there best mates if not there best mate but none of them have ever been sexually attracted to me.

Iv been to night clubs when girls have walked up to my mates and thats it they have pulled, that never happens to me, and sometimes in a night club if i get chatting to a girl she will make her excuses and leave.

Of course your female friends don't find you sexually attractive, your in the zone.
The vast majority of women do not approach men in clubs. Thats your job sorry.
Most everyone in a club would welcome a chat, not everyone is looking for the same thing as you.
Appearance make first impressions, not charm. If you passing that hurdle and getting to talk to these ladies. I'd be pointing the finger at what you were saying before they ran away.

Looks are less important to most women.
The nose and the teeth are probably desirable.
Our race is doomed if slightly overweight people will have difficulty procreating.
Bad skin never looks good but everyone has minor flaws.

B L II N K Z

dont worry about it i have a chipped tooth from when i fell when i was young not really visible but still i have a fractured nose thats just noticed from the side like a lil bump in the middle and ive marks from when i had acne so there ya go lol

Pythia

I had braces for 4 years to correct awful teeth and it was abolsutely worth it. Good teeth are always extremely attractive. Just watch out for the price. It will be expensive. There's a dental forum you can ask in too. My dentist is based in Blackrock, Co Dublin. I think there's a long waiting list with him though (I got it done about 13 years ago when he was starting off).

I'd recommend some microdermabrasion for your skin. It's good for acne scars and isn't too invasive.

The weight will fall off with regular exercise and portion control.

I'd leave the nose until you have everything else fixed, guys can carry a strong nose a lot easier than woman can and it can look good.

Good luck OP!