too much to drink

LegacyUser

I need your opinions on this. is it possible that someone can drink too much , so much that they almost turn into a different person. ?been with my oh 7 months and we just went to a friends wedding. leadng up to this we have been getting on soooooooo well but this night at the end of the night and after a free bar, i just drank 1 to many and all of a sudden flipped and got annoyed with my oh for no reason as they had been so attentive all night etc.....i stormed off, they got upset and no wthey are still angry.

should i give it up altogether in a bid to save this relationship. ?

Dizzyblonde

In my experience, if drinking alters your mood/personality then it's a problem. If you want to save your relationship you may have to stop drinking if you can't drink without this happening.

run_Forrest_run

Dizzyblonde wrote: »

In my experience, if drinking alters your mood/personality then it's a problem. If you want to save your relationship you may have to stop drinking if you can't drink without this happening.

I think drink changes everyone's mood/personality, it's how you can manage and control the change is what's important.

Dizzyblonde

run_Forrest_run wrote: »

I think drink changes everyone's mood/personality, it's how you can manage and control the change is what's important.

Ok then, if it changes your mood/personality for the worse and if it makes you treat people badly it's a problem

rediguana

This is a good website for anyone concerned about drinking too much.

http://www.aim-digest.com/gateway/S&Pinterim.htm

Jack Sheehan

Drink can do strange things to peoples personality, frightening at times too.

Piste

Drink doesn't "give" you a new personality, saying so is a copout. There may be parts of your personality you don't like to reveal- for example you could have a jealous streak that you can normally keep under control- and alcohol often brings this out but it's always there in the first place.

So you either have to deal with any issues that may be in your mind while sober, or if there is honestly no reason you can think of for flipping out just drink less.

gaybitch

There is a Chinese saying "Alcohol doesn't create flaws but reveals them". However, I don't agree with that 100%.

Personally speaking, I have felt on occasions that drink has made me do something I would never even think of doing while sober. In some cases, it can alter someone's personality - making them louder, less inhibited, but also more aggressive, with a shorter fuse.

If you don't like the kind of person you turn into when you drink then the answer is staring you in the face - cut down on the drink, don't get so drunk that you don't recognise yourself and can't control your actions.

Cut back a bit on the booze, give the relationship a chance to grow over the next few months - and in the meantime, just apologise and explain you're not used to getting so drunk and you won't be doing it again any time soon.

Your OH just isn't used to seeing this side of you - once you explain it was just a one-off and you've learnt your lesson, you should be okay. Good luck.

Bastack

A friend of mine can not drink Red wine as it makes them all paranoid and moody! No other type of drink has this affect with her! Maybe you have the same reaction to a certain type?

AnonoBoy

In short - yes. Drink can change you or bring out bad sides of people that never would emerge if they were sober.

I have a friend (female) who went through this - drove many many people away from her because she couldn't control herself when she drank.

She's sought help now and is sober and is back to being the girl that we all know and love.

If you're starting to think you're drinking too much and it's affecting your behaviour that I would be pretty sure that you are drinking too much and you can be pretty sure that others have noticed this too.

LegacyUser

Thanks for all your replies. I think maybe I should give it up anyway as I get awful hangovers . Its just strange as my oh and i would drink regularly and never ever row or argue and i dont kwno what happened friday night, i just flipped for no reason, stormed out and called him every name under the sun.

he called last night to get his keys, didnt want to talk, said we would talk today. I tried to explain it was a one off . im scared im going to get dumped, do you think he would have said it before now. he has said he loves me but cant be treated like that which is understandable

Vyse

I was in a similar situation, drink could just bring out either the very best or the very worst in me. When I think back to all the stupid things I did in my life I did them when I was drunk (jumping into the Tokla river on the way home from Quinns springs to mind). Drinking totally clouds your reasoning and can bring out parts of your personality that you'd rather keep under wraps.

Cutting drink out altogether can be quite hard. Maybe try drinking beer shandies instead. I did this. They are so sweet that it is very hard to drink too many so at least you're always in control.