You And Your Siblings - Where Are You With Them?

DenMan

Just decided to put this together at the last minute. How would describe your relationship with your siblings? (brothers and sisters). Do you get along with them? Do they get along with you? Has your relationship improved with them over the years and/or are there many differences between yourselves. Be it lifestyle, music tastes, career, personality clashes. Anything and everything.

I'll start off. I have a brother and a sister. My brother and I are very different people and often clash on many issues. My sister is the youngest in our family and now has a family of her own. I would describe my relationship with my brother as being confrontational and tentative, but with a good understanding of each other and a mutual respect. With my sister it is much different. We are more similar and as a result rarely clash on subjects.

c - 13

One brother, one sister, both younger, sister being the youngest.

Get on well with the brother usually, similar sense of humour, similar interests. Only thing annoys me about him is he's exceptionally lazy. He's the sort that wouldn't move unless his life depended on it.

The sister is another case. She's the stereotypical spoiled brat. Despite whatever she gets gifted she's really disrespectful to the entire family, especially my parents, and this drives me mad. Have moments when I want to kill her. I'm hoping she'll grow out of it (13/14 at the moment)

My family are very laidback, accepting and caring. We all get on extremely well .

Dave!

I get along well with all my siblings. Was out at a club with one of my brothers (and my cousin) last night. Will probably go up to his apartment and play computer later. There's 11 years between my oldest brother and me however, so we don't go out together. Have a laugh with him over some pints though. Get on fine with my sister (we used to fight like cats and dogs), but we have nothing in common at all, so consequently aren't as close as I am with my brothers.

Thankfully the whole family is quite close though, so we see each other alot, spend time together and try to do things together.

Cupcake_Crisis

i never got on with my brother, we literally couldnt be left in a room together or we'd kill each other. its gotten better now thats hes moved out, but we still dont talk unless we need to.
I think its because of the age gap, hes 6 years older than be so by the time i popped along he was used to being the only child

Fresh Breeze

I suffer from middle child syndrome.

Older brother is 22, I'm 19 and younger brother is 13.

Older one can do anything he likes, if I try to do something, I get given out to. Basically, he can take his car and drive away for hours on end yet if I try to leave the house (and there's washup to be done!) I get an earful.

Younger one is spoilt rotten. I have to play games with him whenever he wants. He has a mean temper and is really stubborn.

If they're in the fault, somehow I still get the blame.

Having said that, I get on great with them. We argue alot but who doesn't? I think it's because we are so alike/spend so much time together that the littlest thing can piss each other off.

Genghiz Cohen

Used to argue alot with my older sister and younger brother, I hit college 3 years ago and everything changed, now I see my brother every weekend and my sister every second at least and we all get on great and have a grand aul timeh!

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Moonbaby wrote: »

My family are very laidback, accepting and caring. We all get on extremely well .

It sucks when people start playing the my-family-is-worse-than-yours game doesn't it? I always feel so left out.

I'm the oldest, one sister a year and a half younger than me and one brother six years younger. My sister is definitely one of my best friends, we have a relationship based largely on superficial things, but on the rare occasions when life takes a serious turn she'd be the first person I'd call, and vice versa. Now if only people would stop thinking she's older than me :mad:
The brother, bless him, not the sharpest biscuit in the race, but a pure legend of a kid, one of those people who just gets on with everybody, always in a good mood, just totally laid back and sound out. My only problem with him is that it somehow seems that he's been thirteen for about five years now

Ruu_Old

I have three brothers and one sister, my brothers always looked after us in school and took us under their wing. One chap was picking on my younger brother when he started primary school and he got a hiding. Of course we didn't get along all the time either. My older brother encouraged me to get through college and make something of my life because not many of us went that route. We are all very different though I would be the quieter one in the family.

Kold

I have a sister 10 years older than me, a brother 9 years older and another sister 4 years older.

My eldest sister has just had a child, my brother is living in his own house with his long term girlfriend and the other sister has gotten engaged this year. I have just taken a year out on my 3rd year of my 2nd attempt at college. I was deemed the kid with most potential and yet am seen as the **** up of the family as they all have their 2 1's first time. I'll be aiming at a first but I need this year to collect myself.

My relationships are alright at the moment, everyone's been very nice lately but I know that they all talk a lot more between themselves. I can talk football and games with my brother but I've been working for him for a few months... I'm not the best worker. I dunno, I guess they all see me as a bit pathetic and I don't blame them. I'm the biggest underachiever there is. I think they think it's a bit sad that I still live at home even though it just makes too much sense financially.

Gran Hermano

I talk to mine, you never know when you might need a kidney or bone marrow transplant

MJOR

Youngest of 4 brothers one sis. 2 brothers live in canada they are cool. Moved away when i was 14 so don't know them as well as i should. 1 brother lives and hour away he is just back after being abroad for 22 years so getting to know him his kids and step kids.Last brother lives around the corner he's pushing 50 and his kid is like my brother there's only nine years between us. I love them all but especially my sister who is 11 years older than I. Have lots of nieces and nephews that i really love too.

Weird i know that i don't know my siblings all that well but theyare all 10- 20 years older than i am.

Creamy Goodness

3 brothers one sister.

1 brother a cop in america, talk to him once a week.
1 brother lives about 20 minutes away, see him every second day or so
1 brother going to college over in london.

1 sister, only see her when she wants a babysitter or anything else.

taram

Either am my sister's best friend or her worst enemy. But mostly we get on really well, it helps I work full time so don't have her under my feet all the time, being the lazy bum she is

spurious

Moonbaby wrote: »

My family are very laidback, accepting and caring. We all get on extremely well .

+1
We don't see each other a lot, but I know if I ever needed any sort of help, all four (3 brothers, 1 sister) would be there in an instant. Likewise I would be for any of them.

We fought as kids of course, but nowadays it's very different. It makes me sad to hear some of the stories friends of mine tell about their families and what goes on.

ejmaztec

Gran Hermano wrote: »

I talk to mine, you never know when you might need a kidney or bone marrow transplant

Even Hannibal Lecter wouldn't touch my younger brother's kidney.


The pair of us just beg to differ, in a civilised manner these days.

Harpy

get on really well with my brother and sister, we used hang around with each other when we were younger aswell, where we lived all the kids kind of hung around together cause there wasn't very many so that probably helped with our relationship, still have the stupid brother and sister fights but they are over stupid things and i've never gone a whole day fighting with them..
haven't spoken to my bro in a while but thats just cause he's away, last time i talked to him was him slagging me over u united been beating by liverpool haha..
I'd say we have a really good relationship, i've seen other people who are still really childish with their siblings and always fighting over stupid things and i just can't understand it they're your brothers and sisters like..

Ross_Mahon

My house is nothing like the Brady Bunch, its war.

KnifeWRENCH

2 sisters, both older.
The oldest is 26 and she's married with a one year old son. We get on well, and I usually get on fairly well with my bro. in law aswell. I do feel awkward around my nephew though - I really really don't like children.

The other is 23 - since an argument we had in June (where she basically treated me like an idiot and refused to listen to anything I said) we only speak to each other when absolutely necessary. The one thing I have always hated about her is she can never, ever admit when she's wrong - in her mind, she's perfect. We used get along well, but I don't see us being close again. And tbh, I don't particularly care.

girl_friday

There's just myself and my (younger) sister in my family. I'm 27, she's 25. When we were younger we were what my mother would call 'street angels/house devils' as we fought like cats and dogs when at home!

As teens we tended to just avoid each other as we had nothing really in common... Then eight years ago I moved away for college and we had to make more of an effort to spend time together so it was quality time but less often! We live fairly near each other for the last three years and at first our paths never crossed...

Lately though we have been getting on really well and spend at least an evening a week in each others company depending what is going on... I've been through a really tough time since April and she was really there for me! She was away last week and I actually really missed her which actually came as a shock to me!! I can honestly say at this stage that she is one of my best friends.

eveie

was only discussing my relationships with my brother the other day.
ive one brother only 18 months older then me, hes getting married in 2 weeks, and for some reason i feel quite sad. his OH is a fantastic person and they are so well suited but i juist feel that my brother and i will never be any closer then we are now.....which is not very close.


fought like cats and dogs when we were kids, then went through the stage of pretending that we werent related in our early teens, then in our late teens became quite close. we both went to bording school which i think interfered with our relationship and basically put a stop to it.
right now we are not what id consider close although we do get on we are very different people and i suppose because theres only the 2 of us i would like us to be closer.

Clare Bear

I have a brother and sister, both older. My brother and I are practically clones on every level (eh except our genders obviously!)....same sense of humour, same views, we're best friends but annoy the fook out of eachother at times too. My sister is 11 years older and it really is for me just too big of an age gap for us to be best buddies. We are extremley different but we know that and work around it....she's probably the nicest person I know, would do anything for anyone and is a great shoulder to cry on. Now that she has kids I'd probably be closer to her because I spend more time with her but we'll always be too different personality wise to ever be very close. As a family we all get on great and just basically piss ourselves laughing at eachother most of the time. But I suppose I would like to be closer to my sister. We're just too different but we don't clash so I'm happy enough with it.

Clare Bear

Kold wrote: »

I have a sister 10 years older than me, a brother 9 years older and another sister 4 years older.

My eldest sister has just had a child, my brother is living in his own house with his long term girlfriend and the other sister has gotten engaged this year. I have just taken a year out on my 3rd year of my 2nd attempt at college. I was deemed the kid with most potential and yet am seen as the **** up of the family as they all have their 2 1's first time. I'll be aiming at a first but I need this year to collect myself.

My relationships are alright at the moment, everyone's been very nice lately but I know that they all talk a lot more between themselves. I can talk football and games with my brother but I've been working for him for a few months... I'm not the best worker. I dunno, I guess they all see me as a bit pathetic and I don't blame them. I'm the biggest underachiever there is. I think they think it's a bit sad that I still live at home even though it just makes too much sense financially.

I'm sure you're really not as much of a failure as you think you are. Don't be so hard on yourself.

Wurly

2 much older sisters. 9 and 10 year age gap.

They both live in Australia so we get on fine.;)

When one of them was home for the summer, we nearly killed each other. But that's cos she's a complete f*cking know it all. It gets on my t1ts.

Tbh - I don't think I could spend much time in either of their company. They're grand and all and I love them both to bits but we're all so different.

Our family has a difficult past though, so that might explain things.

I would have loved to have had a brother though. Maybe then I wouldn't have made the mistakes that i've made with men in the past. Being around a male mind and obtaining insight from him etc..

Ah sure, mistakes are what make us who we are, eh?

/gets coat.

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Tri wrote: »

I would have loved to have had a brother though. Maybe then I wouldn't have made the mistakes that i've made with men in the past. Being around a male mind and obtaining insight from him etc...

If there's one thing I've learned from having brothers and being a brother, the male mind is very uncomplicated when it comes to our siblings, here's a complete list of our thought processes:

• Everyone else is wrong

HalloweenJack

Two brothers, one sister, all older.

I get on well with my oldest brother. In the past, we fought a lot and I wasn't too fond of him but once we both matured we began to get on better.

My second brother is mentally handicapped so I can't have a proper relationship with him.

I'd say I have the best relationship with my sister. We get on really well and we've very similar personalities.

Overall, I have a good family.

ZzubZzub

2 brothers, both younger (17 & 13, I'm 19)

With the 17 year old, he's like a really good friend aswell as a bro! And a drinking buddy. I've had the best nights out with him!!

The 13 year old... Its a very older sister younger brother type of relationship! I look out for him, and scare anyone who's mean to him!!

MIN2511

I get on with some of my siblings.... My dad has other children who don't give a rats ass but my mums kids(3 of us) get on very well...
My brother is 18, 4.5yrs my junior and we go out a lot! I love him to bits, the last time i visited i bought him packs of condoms... Told him if he was gonna have sex he should use protection.

My sister and i are birthday mates(8yrs older) and she's 6ft tall!!!! Everyone thinks she's older than me

We get on okay, she's always taking my tops, makeup, bags
Because of the age gap we don't have much in common....

LadyE

I have an older sister, whom I am extremely close to even tho she doesnt live in the same country.

Two younger brothers, again both really close to.

We all have the same sense of humour, so are constantly laughing and taking the piss when we are together.

tony1kenobi

I have two brothers We get on grand but I couldn't share a cell with them.

Handsome Bob

Youngest of 7 brothers. I use to feel like I was endlessly being dismissed as the kid, even when I hit my adult years. Then one day I told myself I wasn't going to give a **** about what they say or think of me. We actually get on much better now, but I can't wait to finish Uni so I can get my own place.:)

Crumble Froo

i get on great with my younger bro and sis, 5 years older than my sis, and couldnt stand her til i was about ten... get on great now, though dont think either approve of me emigrating.

Piste

My sister is 14 and I find her really annoying most of the time, because I can see all my worst traits and personality flaws in her. I feel really guilty when she's nice to me though, like if i'm sick she'll do anything for me, but if it were in reverse i wouldn't really care. We only really talk if we have to and I doubt I'd ever talk to her if we lived seperately.

Fad

My sister is 16, (I'm 18) and to be honest we really dont get on too well. We're into way too different things to have anything major in common, like id listen to some Emperor* or something she'd be swooning over Chris Brown.

That said we get on when it matters.


*Just an example, I am in fact not a goth

Zangetsu

I get on really well with my brother (older by four years). He has hospitalised me 2/3 times (no joke) and I've kicked him so hard in the nads he has pissed blood and missed a week of school but that aside we get on great. If anything it has made us respect eachother more...

We're both completely tapped in the head which helps...

rainbow kirby

I'm the oldest of 3 - I'm 24, my brother is 21 and my sister is 15. I don't really get on with my brother, we have absolutely nothing in common. He's a 4th year carpentry apprentice, obnoxious as hell and incredibly argumentative. I'm a final year Comp Sci student and am incredibly nerdy and pretty quiet. I get on better with my sister, but again we are very, very different.

fonpokno

I get on alright with my siblings. I'm the youngest of 3 with 2 older sisters (25 and 22 and I'm 19).

I get on grand with my eldest sister since she moved out, she used to drive us all mad at home and can be a bit crazy selfish and stuff.

With my other sister we don't really have anything in common and don't really talk that much. She's away for the year since the start of september and i think i've spoken to her twice and that was her asking me to send stuff over.

We wouldn't really be the type of sisters to be best friends or have girly chats or anything. My life is my life and their lives are theirs really. Ah well. Might change as we get a bit older!

Kiera

I've two brothers and two sisters, all a lot older than me. One of my brothers and one of my sisters are very like me. We have the same sense of humour. The other two are a lot quieter but I get on with them just as well just in a different way.

We've all had our moments and some talk to others more but I get on with them all and love them equally.

Mackman

Ive got 1 brother, he's 5 years older than me and we get on great. he always looked out for me in school etc. we hang around in the same circle of friends, same taste in music, both musicians and we were even in a band together for 5 years. ive moved about an hour away now and i dont get to see him as much as id like to

DenMan

Zangetsu wrote: »

I get on really well with my brother (older by four years). He has hospitalised me 2/3 times (no joke) and I've kicked him so hard in the nads he has pissed blood and missed a week of school but that aside we get on great. If anything it has made us respect eachother more...

We're both completely tapped in the head which helps...

Bloody hell, that's bad. Your username (Zangetsu) means moon cutter. What is your brothers? Does he have one?

Zangetsu

Nope he hasn't been cursed with a boards account yet... :P

DenMan

rainbow kirby wrote: »

I'm the oldest of 3

I don't really get on with my brother, we have absolutely nothing in common.

incredibly argumentative.

I get on better with my sister, but again we are very, very different.

This is alarmingly very similar to my situation.

She Devil

I have four brothers, they are all younger
25, 23, 21, 17
Oh boy are they all different! But they all get on so well, since i am the only girl its harder for me to get on with them as they get on with each other, when we get together we have such giggles though, because they are genuinely so funny! I love them to bits, but when we argue boy do we argue!
Espec with my youngest brother, he slyly tells my parents everything!
Do we ever grow up eh! But i am living away now and wish i had a sister because boys arent great at phone contact and ringing for casual stupid chats!

Nerin

I have a half brother on my 'fathers' side. I've never talked to him,and intend to keep it that way.

Kya1976

I got 3 sisters dont get on with any of them, probably my fault for being a bitch though:o:o

DenMan

Nerin wrote: »

I have a half brother on my 'fathers' side. I've never talked to him,and intend to keep it that way.

Hey Nerin

I'd bet his location would be Cultured Plains as opposed to Savage Wildlands. Stay away.

Nerin

DenMan wrote: »

Hey Nerin

I'd bet his location would be Cultured Plains as opposed to Savage Wildlands. Stay away.

three doors down actually

DenMan

Nerin wrote: »

three doors down actually

My point exactly. There has to be a threshold between two points.

Moonspell

I have only one brother, bout 3 years younger.

And well... When he was only 3 or 4 broke a fire truck, a gitf from dear auntie to him before he even saw it! Did break the knews about no santa, when he was around 6/7.. a couple of years later told him he had to be adopted (blame the health class teacher) creating major upset..

But have to say, all adding up we are best friends. Even while I was still back in Porto, thou sometimes wanted to kill him, would kill for him anytime!! And he feels the pretty much the same way...

Stench Blossoms

Two sisters, both younger, one of them died.

Youngest was born after my other sister died and I took an instant disliking to her. Used to tell people she was actually a boy and her name was daniel.

Get along grand with her now except when she steals my clothes.

Spore

Get on well with my bro now, after years of mutual hatred. Turns out our personalities are too close and we clash a lot. Now though, find I can agree with him on a lot of issues. My sisters are a different breed. Oldest I'm closest to, second oldest was a bit of a hitler growing up and I still hold it against her.

Funny how things turn out.