Broke up with my bf

LegacyUser

Hey guys.

I posted on this before about my boyfriend having serious alcohol problems and everyone told me to end it.
Unfortunately i took him back. with the promise he would change, which now, has all gone down the drain.

We were at a mutual friends apartment and i aksed beforehand if we could leave at 8/9ish, since i had school the next day. I'm doing my leaving cert this year. So i bought him his drinks, i had 3myself, but he has no money whatsoever so i' buying him his cigarettes and everything.
So it's nine o clock and i said can we leave and he looks at me like i'm being some horrible person depriving him of fun. I was like yeah but you told me we'd leave whenever i wanted, and he was like fine well u can go home and i'll see you later.

F*ck that. Like i'm going to go back to his and WAIT for him to come back, all drunk and disgusting. I had to go to his anyway to get my stuff, so he just let me walk about on my own getting a bus to his getting my stuff leaving his keys outside and getting a bus back to mine which takes an hour. I didn't get home til 12.

He textes me off his friends phone saying no, stay at mine, i'll be over really soon i'm waiting for a bus now. which was a complete lie cause when i rang him 10 mins later he was still in the gaf... He just lies and lies when he's drunk.

Then i get home and he goes to me on msn, i wish you were still here for when i came home.
What the **** am i, some sort of pet? there for when he comes home?
Then i told him it was over and he goes ''i could do alot better anyway''
That was so low.
how could anybody be so cruel. The thing is, he couldn't ever do better. I have put up with him for 13months. Before me his longest relationship was 2 months. Which just makes me a fool for putting up with it.

I told him last time we broke up i would help him get help, if he stopped drinking. I'd come over to his and we could have quiet weekends. he promised me. He said he wanted to change. And i really wanted to make it work cause i love him.
And he spat it back in my face. He's 23 for f*cks sake.You'd think he'd learn to grow up.


This isn't even an eight of everything that's ever happened. i could go on for days about all the **** he has doen to me to make me upset., pushing me against stairs, going on ten day binges, making me cry every single time we go out...the list is endless.

I know i've done the right thing but i just don't know what to do with myself now.
Should i speak to him?
Should i just ignore him?
He's been my first ever real boyfriend. I can't concentrate in school and i feel so angry at him for making me feel this way.

I'm sorry it's so long. I don't really know what advice i want to hear, but ...yeah.

Craft25

the sooner the better you learn to forget this Tool... you can do ALOT better than this, what an ***hole!!

Sumire

That all sounds pretty hard, I would think you're best off not talking to him just to make sure you don't end up back together again.
I've had that anger before, and it does go away eventually, but it takes a while.

There's not really a lot I can say to make you feel better, except it sounds like you've done the right thing.

Wagon

Ignore the ****. Don't reply to any texts, don't get in touch, don't go back. Simple as that.

Beruthiel

F*ckitlike wrote: »

This isn't even an eight of everything that's ever happened. i could go on for days about all the **** he has doen to me to make me upset., pushing me against stairs, going on ten day binges, making me cry every single time we go out...the list is endless.

You've finished with him.

Now turn your back, walk away and never contact/talk or see him again. Delete his contact details from your phone and computer.

You are young, you have your whole life ahead of you and you certainly don't need that sh!te from anyone.

Because you're young and don't have too much experience on relationships, perhaps you think this is normal. It's not. He's toxic and nobody can help him until he is ready to help himself.

Get on with your life, work on your self esteem (you don't have any or you wouldn't have put up with that crap for one second).
The day will come when you'll find someone worthy of your love and who will love you back.

Jimmy Bottlehead

You can do so much better than this d!ckhead. Well done on making the right decision... its easy to think you've let go someone thats irreplacable but this guy was not good enough for you.
Don't contact him - ignore him, and get on with your life. Enjoy being single

jim o doom

Well you stuck with a horrible dude for a long time & got it together and dumped him, which shows strength of character, so I reckon you will be fine once you get over the heartbreak. A clean break is always best, so completely (and I mean COMPLETELY) break off contact, no calls, no texts, no emails - the works. In my book, when a serious relationship really does end, there isn't point in getting back together, because there's a strong chance the problems will only crop up again. Cutting off contact completely helps you resolve your feelings and get back on track mentally, so it's generally the only way to seperate yourself from any echoes of the feelins you had, which could trap you back into the same bad situation, which nobody wants (except perhaps your horrible sounding ex).

Jimmy Bottlehead

You can do so much better than this d!ckhead. Well done on making the right decision... its easy to think you've let go someone thats irreplacable but this guy was not good enough for you.
Don't contact him - ignore him, and get on with your life. Enjoy being single

spinandscribble

he's an idiot, you know he is so don't waste time thinking about him.

Wibbs

Bullet dodged and no mistake.

Dragan

This is going to sound really weird but personally i am really happy for you.

Your 18, your doing your Leaving Cert this year. It can be a very important time for you. You'll be starting work, going to college or travelling or whatever it is that you decide to do.

In about 12 months time the world is your oyster.

And now you have that dead weight off your back.

Look, i know it's crap to be mistreated by someone, it's hard to care about someone and not have them care for you.

But sadly, it's something nearly all of us will go through at some time.

From now ignore this parasite, don't let him near you and don't entertain him.

Time to spread your wings i think.

LegacyUser

i'll be blunt here.
leave the scum bag before something awful happens and you'r up the duff.
your seem to have a drive in yourself so move on other wise your liffe will turn to crap,

Hedone

spend more time wit ur friends to keep ur mind off it cause u kno its better for urself to keep away from him, he'll just gonna make ur life miserable. really like u're so young still, all u need to worry about rite now is ur school. after a year things will b so much different u'll b so much happier

best of luck

dudara

Thread closed. Please do not drag up old threads.

dudara