In love already!!!

LegacyUser

Ok so met my soulmate bout 6 weeks ago..... Knew as soon as I first met him, you know when you just know.... You automatically feel so comfortable in front of the person, feel like I’ve know him forever... basically Im in love with him already... my friends are telling me im crazy, how can i love someone after such a short amount of time... but i really do... And its not as if im a child, im 29 years old... now they have me thinking im a mad!!!

Can you love someone in such a short amount of time... do you think its possible??

barbiegirl

Yes you can feel a lot very quickly, but still take things easy or you'll frighten him away :-) Wait for him to tell you he loves you first and see how it goes.

Karen_*

Thats brilliant OP! Yes its possible to love someone quickly. Delighted for you!:)

Curvy Vixen

No you can't....

You can feel lust, obsession, desire and a great sense of need but imo 'proper real true love' comes when they are farting under the duvet, wafting it in your face and you would still lick their smelly feet!

dr.bollocko

Is this a pattern for you? Do you fall in love easily? Get heartbroken easily? Whirlwind romances are common and many end well so it is not anything to be scared of. But just be weary of being in a honeymoon period vs. really feeling true love.

TheZohanS

lovelovelove wrote: »

6 weeks

Can you love someone in such a short amount of time... do you think its possible??

It's possible, but if you tell him all this, and he's not in the same place(emotionally) as you, you might frighten the be-jesus out of him.

So relax and enjoy it!

beertons

Yes, it is possible. I knew my current love was my soul mate before Christmas. Got together in January, moved in together in June, and still as mad about each other since the night we hooked up. She feels the same too, and we tell each other every day.

Your friends probably don't realise the connection you two have, they're just looking out for you. They'll see the signs soon though.

Yes yes yes you can!!!!

I would take Barbie Girls advice on this one though, just take it slowly, you don't want all that love to burn out quickly!

I met my other half 10 years ago, he told me he loved me within weeks and was going away travelling when we were together around 2 months, after just 1 month travelling he came home cos he missed me and we're now married 5 years! So it can totally happen that quickly, infact, I'd be the one to say, if you don't know then it's not the right one - but that's just me and I know there are lots of people out there who will disagree based on their experiences!

Aw yay for you! Best of luck

LegacyUser

Thanx all. I new i wasnt crazy:) its defo not the normal thing for me, I'm not in and out of whirlwind romanaces as someone suggested.This is the first time iver ever felt like this about anyone

He has already hinted to me bout the big L i suppose just testen the water as they say!!!

Thanx all again:)

AckwelFoley

lovelovelove wrote: »

Ok so met my soulmate bout 6 weeks ago..... Knew as soon as I first met him, you know when you just know.... You automatically feel so comfortable in front of the person, feel like I’ve know him forever... basically Im in love with him already... my friends are telling me im crazy, how can i love someone after such a short amount of time... but i really do... And its not as if im a child, im 29 years old... now they have me thinking im a mad!!!

Can you love someone in such a short amount of time... do you think its possible??

Is that you Michelle?




Yes, yes im 31 and have been thru the fair few women in my time but out of no where i met a woman shes 26, since ive met her 3 months ago, ive only spent 1 night away from her, we feel like we know each other years, she knows what makes me happy, now and in the future and i know she wants the same.

She has a young 6 year old son, so its pretty like one of those ready made value pack families i just found myself and i couldnt be happier. She has her own home, but i asked her to move in with me.

I say best of luck and go for it!

Overheal

Aww Snyper you don't get to hold her hair back over the toilet? No morning sickness for you

I have to agree with The Zohan though: don't scare him off.

brianthebard

snyper wrote: »

Is that you Michelle?




Yes, yes im 31 and have been thru the fair few women in my time but out of no where i met a woman shes 26, since ive met her 3 months ago, ive only spent 1 night away from her, we feel like we know each other years, she knows what makes me happy, now and in the future and i know she wants the same.

She has a young 6 year old son, so its pretty like one of those ready made value pack families i just found myself and i couldnt be happier. She has her own home, but i asked her to move in with me.

I say best of luck and go for it!

Wait synper is like a real person and stuff???
J/k, congrats dude. Also congrats to the OP, can't say I've ever had that sort of immediate love but I do think its possible.

AckwelFoley

Overheal wrote: »

Aww Snyper you don't get to hold her hair back over the toilet? No morning sickness for you

Oh but there will be.

I plan on many snypletts

Overheal

God Helps Us All.

AARRRGH

It's infatuation - not love. Love takes a long time to grow (and a long time to die.)

Have fun

Wibbs

Depends on the person. Me, I would say no. The shortest time I have taken is 6 months. I personally have always slightly distrusted those who say they fall in love that easily. It feels too impulsive to make such a big decision. Maybe the biggest in your life.

Yes the person may trigger certain needs in you and you feel they fit that template in your head very easily. Because of that all too often they can jam a square peg in a round hole to back up their original feeling. In my experience few enough of those would last in the scheme of things beyond the honeymoon period(anywhere from 6 months to 4 years).

In the end of the day, you have those feelings. Enjoy them and see how it goes. If he hasn't said it then I wouldn't say it in case he gets the heeby jeebys. Love is by definition a two way street. Let hm meet you halfway.

Then again maybe I'm an oul cynic.

MagicMarker

lovelovelove wrote: »

Ok so met my soulmate bout 6 weeks ago..... Knew as soon as I first met him, you know when you just know.... You automatically feel so comfortable in front of the person, feel like I’ve know him forever... basically Im in love with him already... my friends are telling me im crazy, how can i love someone after such a short amount of time... but i really do... And its not as if im a child, im 29 years old... now they have me thinking im a mad!!!

Can you love someone in such a short amount of time... do you think its possible??

Nope.

Quite simply, you don't know him well enough to love him.

Four-Too

What if one falls in love like this with a married person, or someone in a relationship? Is it very hard for these people?? Are they heartbroken to find out the person has a partner?

Marksie

Its enitrely possible and depends on the person and situation.

However, if you do love him, do so without expectations that it will be returned for the now.
In other words let it be and see where it leads: too many fall in love with the expectations that it should be returned.
And too many when hearing those words feel panicked and pressured because they believe they feel it should be returned in equal measure, even run away. if you can talk openly about it then you are doing ok.
However it depends on the relative maturity of your OH. Some can accept, some will be childish and run, yet others may see it as an opportunity to use you.

So yes its possible to love very early on, but be aware of what might happen, dont expect it to be returned and be open

John Mason

its not love, for a start, there is no such thing as love. this concept was manufactored by the Bronte sisters and Hollywood.

What you are feeling is a obsession probably cause he pheromones - it will wear off soon enough.

Wibbs

There's no such thing as romantic love? A tad bitter of you, is it not? Romantic love is a well recognised psychological state, usually coming between simple lust/obsession/infatuation and long term attachment. Hell I'm cynical, but I hope never to get to your stage.

pickarooney

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

its not love, for a start, there is no such thing as love. this concept was manufactored by the Bronte sisters and Hollywood.

What you are feeling is a obsession probably cause he pheromones - it will wear off soon enough.

You old romantic!

OP, FWIW, TBH and IANAS it's entirely possible. It happened to me.

orlyice

it really is possible to love someone that quickly. i knew the night i met my OH that he was the one for me, we had the same outlook on life, the same sense of humour, everything!! he told me a week later he was falling in love with me, i told i felt the same way. we were saying i love you a week after that, 2 weeks after we met and pretty much moved in together after that. now 2 and half years later, the honeymoon period is over, but we have a deeper love than before, and we still tell eachother how much we love eachother a few times through the day. IMO when you know, you know!! if he's testing the water OP, then give him hints you feel the same way. he wont be long saying it then.

MJOR

There i was a cynical oul hag..... thinking theres no one on this earth I'd ever love in that way.... I was gonna be that old woman with cats and a brown sofa.

Incidentially i have a brown sofa by also an OH which I fell in love with after about six weeks!!!

A year and a half later we are engaged and i still get butterflies everytime i see him!!

John Mason

Wibbs wrote: »

There's no such thing as romantic love? A tad bitter of you, is it not? Romantic love is a well recognised psychological state, usually coming between simple lust/obsession/infatuation and long term attachment. Hell I'm cynical, but I hope never to get to your stage.

yeah, it is a psychological state which wears off. its all to do with pheromones, thats hardly being cyncial rather more realistic

Burial

lovelovelove wrote: »

Ok so met my soulmate bout 6 weeks ago..... Knew as soon as I first met him, you know when you just know.... You automatically feel so comfortable in front of the person, feel like I’ve know him forever... basically Im in love with him already... my friends are telling me im crazy, how can i love someone after such a short amount of time... but i really do... And its not as if im a child, im 29 years old... now they have me thinking im a mad!!!

Can you love someone in such a short amount of time... do you think its possible??

I dunno if this is possible, (Never happened to me), but don't scare him off and blurt everything out to him. Happened with a girl, I was seeing... One week and she told me that she loved me and was planning our future... I was out of there pretty quick...

not yet

If you dont chill out and relax it'll end in tears,take it for what it is, let it grow and then come back and say he's your soulmate. goodkuck anyways!!!

Karen_*

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

its not love, for a start, there is no such thing as love. this concept was manufactored by the Bronte sisters and Hollywood.

What you are feeling is a obsession probably cause he pheromones - it will wear off soon enough.

And bah humbug to you too!

Ah its lovely OP, your post would put a smile on anyones face. Except for miseryguts up there.

Long may it last. And its worked out or loads of people and hopefully it will for you too.:D

AARRRGH

MJOR wrote: »

There i was a cynical oul hag..... thinking theres no one on this earth I'd ever love in that way.... I was gonna be that old woman with cats and a brown sofa.

Incidentially i have a brown sofa by also an OH which I fell in love with after about six weeks!!!

A year and a half later we are engaged and i still get butterflies everytime i see him!!

Sorry to sound unromantic, but initially you were infatuated, and then eventually in love.

As someone who has been infatuated and in love, there is a big difference between the two. The main difference being, in my opinion, that love stays with you forever. For example, I still love my ex-girlfriends, even though some of them turned out to be idiots. However I am no longer infatuated with the girls I was infatuated with...

tbh

what you're feeling - I'd say - isn't love, it's more a case of, so far so good. You don't know every aspect of this guy yet, and so by definition, you can't "love" him. But it's all semantics anyway, if you're happy now, you may well still be happy six months from now.

Wibbs

pink fluffy bunny wrote:

yeah, it is a psychological state which wears off.

Which means it exists then

its all to do with pheromones,

Actually the role of pheromones in humans has not been proven. You may be mistaking partner selection due to immune response differences. That has been proven somewhat.

thats hardly being cyncial rather more realistic

Naw it's being cynical. It's your "thing" in these parts it seems, but that's cool too as both sides are needed in any debate.

AARRRGH wrote: »

Sorry to sound unromantic, but initially you were infatuated, and then eventually in love.

I'd agree with that. In any case at a year and a half you're still well in the honeymoon phase.

tbh wrote:

what you're feeling - I'd say - isn't love, it's more a case of, so far so good. You don't know every aspect of this guy yet, and so by definition, you can't "love" him. But it's all semantics anyway, if you're happy now, you may well still be happy six months from now.

That would sum it up for me pretty much.

TheDriver

Of Course you can be in love at this early stage but it could be infactuattion. If you have been in a few relationships and know how you feel towards people and never felt this before or even know what love is like, then you can well say this is love. If you are 18 and excited about a first boyfriend, then maybe not. As most posters will say, its experience will let you know when you do indeed know!
Have fun and its a brilliant feeling, well done OP

pickarooney

If you can love a child the moment you lay eyes on him/her (oi! I'm talking about your offspring here), is it that much of a stretch to think you can do the same for an adult? I know we're talking about two very different types of love, but instant bonding is very much a reality.

AARRRGH

pickarooney wrote: »

If you can love a child the moment you lay eyes on him/her (oi! I'm talking about your offspring here), is it that much of a stretch to think you can do the same for an adult? I know we're talking about two very different types of love, but instant bonding is very much a reality.

I disagree. I think the love for a child is an instinctual thing you are "forced" to feel so you will look after your children. I don't think this applies to strangers...

TheDriver

different strokes for different folks maybe??

pickarooney

AARRRGH wrote: »

I disagree. I think the love for a child is an instinctual thing you are "forced" to feel so you will look after your children. I don't think this applies to strangers...

Forced by society or forced by some instinct? A lot of people don't feel it in either case.

ah you're all miserable gits, you don't think it can happen because it's never happened to you!
I'm sure the OP would have said the same before she was swept off her feet! And as for pink fluffy bunny, you don't sound too pink and fluffy, I can't imagine living in a world where I thought love was non existent, what'd be the point??

Faith

I don't understand those of you saying it's not possible. Love isn't quantifiable, ergo you can't say whether you definitely do or don't feel it. If the OP thinks she's in love now, that's essentially the same as actually being in love IMO. If two people tell each other that they love each other after 2 weeks, then 6 months down the line realise now they're actually in love with each other, it doesn't invalidate the initial feelings.

OP, whether you're actually in love or not, I say just relax and enjoy the feeling! If you feel you want to say it to your other half, you could just say something casual like "I think I'm falling for you" and then there's no pressure for them to say anything back if they don't want to.

ILoveDolphins

hi
i totally believe that love can be fast. i too was cynical until i met the most amazing man, realised i was madly in love after about four weeks, drunkly told him the following week and he replied that he felt the same! still it took another 11 years before we took the plunge into marraige because i like to be sure of things before i make a decision!!:rolleyes: but falling in love wasn't a decision or even a conscious action - it just happened.

littlefriend

A friend of mine proposed to her boyfriend after 3 weeks - not only that but they hadn't even slept together at that stage. They married a couple of months later and their 10th anniversary was in August. They both always say when you know, you know.
So providing you know he feels the same way, have fun and enjoy, enjoy, enjoy

Curvy Vixen

Just call me Little Miss Cynical here but I think that we all probably know at least one couple that were in love in 3 minutes and are now married 200 years....but I bet we all know more that were in love after 3 mins and broke up after 2 years :cool:

I'm not dissin' what the OP feels, I'm very happy for her but she did ask our opinion on whether we think that love can happen so quickly and I honestly don't think that it can. You get some sort of chemical rush when you really click with someone but as someone else already said, proper, real love is something that grows over time. I wish her the best and would love to think that in 10 years time she will be on boards posting about her 10 year anniversary with the man of her dreams that we doubted...but I still doubt it....

Curvy Vixen

Curvy Vixen wrote: »

You get some sort of chemical rush when you really click with someone but as someone else already said, proper, real love is something that grows over time..

Is love not a chemical rush?

Redpunto

Quick reply, havent read all the threads.....but if you are at a certain stage of your life where youve been through relationships and are ready to settle down, then definately it can be love at that stage of your life.

Liam Byrne

Fast dive in usually = fast dive out. Worthwhile stuff builds slowly and lasts.

Knew someone who was planning a year ahead on the second meeting with her new b/f; getting jealous if he even spoke to another girl, completely "into" the idea, and two months later she wrecked his head before finally admitting that she wanted out.

Stranger things have happened, but you'll have to control the urge (without playing games) if you want it to grow into something lasting.

But best of luck - it's a strange world and meeting people who even "might" be worthwhile hanging onto is getting more and more difficult......

Curvy Vixen

Deleted User wrote: »

Is love not a chemical rush?

No it isn't. Love is something that my parents who are married 50 years this year (and need to get a room!) have. The initial attraction is not love. It's what Hallmark call love!

From Little Miss Cynical!

Shapes

Op, I hope to God that what you have found is real because otherwise I will have been waiting all this time for nothing. I either find what you have found or I will be spending my life alone imo.....

abi2007

I'd love that to happen to me, I get bored of most guys I date and the ones I do like just stop contacting me after a few of weeks.... starting to wonder what is wrong with me! I hope it is Love.

Shapes

abi2007 wrote: »

I'd love that to happen to me, I get bored of most guys I date and the ones I do like just stop contacting me after a few of weeks.... starting to wonder what is wrong with me! I hope it is Love.

There's nothing wrong with you. You just haven't met the one who will give you what the OP has.... Patience is a virtue, I just wish it would hurry up

comongethappy

OP, I do think that you do love him... but I don't think it's true love, I think true love takes many years to develop. Potentially, there is a lot that could happen a year from now that could cause you or him to end the relationship. True love is when you really know the person inside out, all their flaws, and want to worship them inspite of their imperfections. It's what makes a person ride out the really tough times.

I can say that I did fall in love with my husband around the same point you're in your relationship now (and we hadn't met face to face!). Though I do agree with others about not laying it on him straight away, my OH had told me sooner that he loved me and it kinda freaked me out, made me want to run away from it (especially considering we hadn't met in person!). But we'll be 5 years married next year, and I can say what I felt then is nothing compared to what I feel now. Enjoy how you feel now, and I hope your relationship will realise it's full potential in years to come

seahorse

Well OP, I knew within six weeks of meeting my partner that I wanted him in a very big way. Of course, being a woman of the world, I knew it was best to keep my mouth shut about that, lol. We're now together six years.

evil-monkey

Curvy Vixen wrote: »

'proper real true love' comes when they are farting under the duvet, wafting it in your face and you would still lick their smelly feet!

+1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1 +1

here here to that sister!! soundest advice that has been posted yet. speaking of which, i think i need to fart, and my girlfriend is awfully close at hand...