Confused and cheated.

LegacyUser

Ok so Here’s the deal, there seems to be a lot of similar posts on here at the moment but anyway here goes.

Im in a relation ship for 2+ years with a girl who’s amazing in every way , like she’s worth 1000 of me.

Were in a long distance relationship, due to college, see each other at weekends. Right now, I’m very confused, lately I’ve been thinking, wow I’m only 20 years old and I’m trapped (right word???) in a relation ship that’s way too serious for our age. Now don’t take me up wrong when its good its good, heck its pretty much all ways good, we never fight , have never broken up, good sex life ect.

The main prob is my confusion as to what I want , I love her…. Sigh.

Last week I was at a work night out, I got smashed out of my head ended up getting with not 1 but 2 women just drunkin kisses. YES I KNOW IM A ASSHOLE. I feel like **** now , but im even more confused than ever now, this is first time ive ever done anything like that, and I normaly hate people who cheat, asked me the day before and I would have said oh id never do that. But alas here we are.

I fear I have ultimately sown the seeds that will end us.

I just want some advice. Do i


A) Forget about it take it as a realization that there’s no one better than gf and just say noting make sure it doesn’t happen again and go on loving her forever.

Tel her- which would destroy her and ultimately end the relationship

C) say noting but tell her we need a break to get head together

D) Secret option D - i dont know

I don’t need to be told im a asshole, scum of the earth, she deserve better, and 100 other variations, I assure you ive thought all about that. I spent the next day in tears at what id done.

Karen_*

Go for option A.

You're not an asshole. You're in bits over the whole thing and its not something you would normally do and you're miserable because you did it. Don't beat yourself up about it anymore but go easy on the drink.

Danco

Option A shouldn't be an option. You already said you were feeling "trapped" and questioning the relationship and now you've cheated on your girlfriend. I think it's time you gave her some say in all this. Tell her the truth and then she can decide what's best for her. Don't be so selfish as to not tell her just to make your own life easier. Take responsibility for what you've done.

beth-lou

Option A for now.

If it happens again either Option B or C.

Best of luck.

LegacyUser

OP, I kissed another guy 4months into my current relationship when extremely drunk. I never told my boyfriend because I knew I would never let myself do that again, I haven't drank like that since(I know drinking isn't an excuse but I honestly believe I wouldn't have done it sober).

Its now nearly 2 years since this has happened and I couldn't be happier in my relationship. If you know you're still madly in love with your girlfriend and you honestly know you won't do it again then stay with her.

I know your situation is a little different as you say you think you feel trapped, so you need to take that into consideration too. I just wanted to let you know it is possible to get over the situation.

LegacyUser

Ok thank you for your replies.

ive decided im going to break from my gf, just a temp break.

i went out again on wed and got with 3 random girls that night, i have a serious problem that i need to address clearly. i want 2 be with my current gf forever, but i cant seem to stop scoring random chicks.

i can not stand by and do nothing. hopefully during the break of a month or so ill come to my scenes, get this out of system and be ready to go back into a relation ship, if my gf will have me back that is.

Jimmy.Joe

Confusunreg wrote: »

Ok thank you for your replies.

ive decided im going to break from my gf, just a temp break.

i went out again on wed and got with 3 random girls that night, i have a serious problem that i need to address clearly. i want 2 be with my current gf forever, but i cant seem to stop scoring random chicks.

i can not stand by and do nothing. hopefully during the break of a month or so ill come to my scenes, get this out of system and be ready to go back into a relation ship, if my gf will have me back that is.

I think this is a good options for you. Hell you are only 20 and you feel trapped! There are plenty of girls out there and I would think you are a bit young to be making the big decision at this age. Varity is the spice of life go and live it up.

MagicMarker

Option A is useless, it's just ignoring a problem that isn't magically going to go away...

You think you're tied down and now you're getting a taste of singledom and you like it.

Break up with your girlfriend, if it has to be a temp break then 1 month is not long enough, you're basically telling yourself ''oh, ok well i'll break up with her, score a load of girls and then i won't feel guilty''.. Sorry man, doesn't work like that.

anonymous_joe

Option A of course.

Don't hurt two people.

But never do it again. Cheating's truly nasty, but if you really do regret it, move on and don;t cheat anymore.

Jesus Wept

Confusunreg wrote: »

Tel her- which would destroy her and ultimately end the relationship

Option B.

And she will get over you much quicker than you'd like to think.

The Sweeper

Confusunreg wrote: »

Ok thank you for your replies.

ive decided im going to break from my gf, just a temp break.

i went out again on wed and got with 3 random girls that night, i have a serious problem that i need to address clearly. i want 2 be with my current gf forever, but i cant seem to stop scoring random chicks.

i can not stand by and do nothing. hopefully during the break of a month or so ill come to my scenes, get this out of system and be ready to go back into a relation ship, if my gf will have me back that is.

Please note: if while you're on this break your girlfriend goes and has sex with two random chaps, you don't get to throw all your toys out of the playpen and call her a slut, mmmkay?