A very frustrated young couple

LegacyUser

I was visiting my girlfirend abroad over the weekend. We were together a year yesterday so I went over. We are both virgins and we recknoed we were both ready to take it to the next level. So I got myself protected and we attempted to have sex.

Unfortunately nomatter how hard I tried I couldnt "get it in". Im a pioneer and she was just slightly tipsy so drink was not an issue. I gave her oral and the finger so I know where it should go. I was left frustrated and felt bad for her as im sure she, like myself, had it in her head what her first time would be like.

Where could I have gone wrong and where can I go for help or has anyone any tips on how to do it for the first time. Ive heard the stories that maybe im too big or maybe she is still very tight. Im 21 and she is 20 btw.

Im greatful for any help you can offer.

oeb

If a baby can fit out mate, I doubt you are too big.

Alot of it is probably just anxiety. She is understandably worried, because it is her first time and she may be concerned that it will hurt etc. This is causing her to tense up and causing difficulty with penetration.

Spend some more time on foreplay (As she gets more aroused she will loosen up), and get her relaxed as much as possible. It may be easier if you both can look at this as fun rather than as serious business.

Also, if you are not fully erect you will have difficulty getting it in (especially with the conditions above)

Chinafoot

2 things you should always remember.

1) The first time, more often than not and particularly for girls, will be crap. It'll probably hurt, there'll possibly be blood and it'll probably be brief. Don't expect it to be some earth shattering, blissful experience because chances are it won't be and you'll both be very disappointed. It gets better with practice and time though.

2) Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. Lots of kissing, lots of touching, lots of oral. Her body will take longer to be ready than yours will. Also sticking your finger in might not do a whole lot for her, pay attention to her clitoris also. Perhaps consider using some lube too.

Make sure she's mentally ready too. She could be really nervous and she needs to be relaxed in order for you to get it in there.

Best of luck!

trio

Use lube.

G&T

trio wrote: »

Use lube.

+1

Not too much though or neither of ye will feel a thing.

Start with a small amount,its easier to add more than take some off.

NADA

Have this problem with my girlfriend sometimes. Usually you just to make sure she's turned on more. Her vagina should be really quite wet before you penetrate her! Give her plenty of oral.lick her clitoris and rub your finger on the enge of her vagina until she begs you to penetrate her! Also make sure You're remis is hard. Even being slightly soft can cause problems. I've had your exact problem!

Bored-Stupid

NADA wrote: »

Have this problem with my girlfriend sometimes. Usually you just to make sure she's turned on more. Her vagina should be really quite wet before you penetrate her! Give her plenty of oral.lick her clitoris and rub your finger on the enge of her vagina until she begs you to penetrate her! Also make sure You're remis is hard. Even being slightly soft can cause problems. I've had your exact problem!

Where is the clit and where is best to rub, im totally new to it all so its just a mindfield and I didnt get much in the area of sex ed.

Thanks all for your help, she counts this as her first time because I got it in slightly but I didnt cum or anything so im begging her to think of herself as still a virgin!

Nevyn

Bored-Stupid wrote: »

Where is the clit and where is best to rub, im totally new to it all so its just a mindfield and I didnt get much in the area of sex ed.

Ask her, better yet get her to show you and how she like to be touched.

NADA

Her Clitoris will be under where the two lips meet about an inch and a half above her vagina. It's small and fleshy. Woul know when wmt find it. She'll find it sensitive. Just lick it gentley. Wmt don't wanna hurt her. Also i found it hard to ejaculate the first time i had sex. And about ten times afterwards if i'm honest. Alot of people out there your age talk about sex but alot of it is talk. Don't be under pressure because you didn't ejaculate. It's more normal than you think. i found this out the hard way. Sex takes practice. It will get better!

Talliesin

Or get her to guide you in. As well as putting her in control of position and speed, it could both reduce anxiety and increase stimulation (since her hand will be on your penis as she does so) for you, and hence prevent it going soft as you go in.

LegacyUser

Thats great thanks for all your help.

Think the best thing might be for me to pluck up the courage and talk to her about it. No point in fiddling about for ages and it doing nothing for her, far better to concentrate even for a wee while where she likes touched most in order to get her ready!