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My mother is annoyed with me

  • 29-09-2008 3:14pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Basically I was planning to sit some Law schoold entrance exams today but I didn't because I haven't done enough work.
    My mother is frantic about it. She advised me to sit them anyway and chance my arm.
    I didn't because I didn't want to waste my holiday time.

    Now a couple of caveats
    [1] I am 39
    [2] I have a good job already

    All I want to know is how to calm her down as this is really none of her business.


Comments

  • #2
    G&T
    Closed Accounts Posts: 303 ✭✭G&T


    Move out:D

    Her roof her rules = Your roof your rules


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Have you not worked out how to deal with your mother at this stage of your life?

    You are 39 so you should know that you should either lie to her so she doesn't know what you are doing or tell her the truth, know she'll be annoyed but not let it get to you.

    It is your life.

    BTW, if you are still living at home, she should be very annoyed with you.


  • #4
    MysticalSoul
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,266 ✭✭✭MysticalSoul


    The OP has not indicated whether living at home or not from how it reads to me.

    OP - it is your life, and it is up to you what choices you make, and working in a legal office myself, know from others, how tough those exams are. If you feel you are not ready you are wise not to sit the exams, but don't allow fear of failure, for instnace, stop you from pursuing it at another time, if that is what you choose to do.

    I would say, just explain to your mum, as calmly as you can, how you felt unprepared for the exams, and that does not mean you are not going to pursue it, but have just put it on hold for now.

    Parents sometimes come across as overbearing, but at the end of the day, they only do that because they care. Although it can be frustrating.


  • #5
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    No. 1, you should have done them anyway, if you don't play you can't win.

    No. 2, if you're really 39 asking a bunch of strangers on the internet how to deal with your mother then you have issues far more important than some law exam.


  • #6
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    No. 2, if you're really 39 asking a bunch of strangers on the internet how to deal with your mother then you have issues far more important than some law exam.

    Couldn't agree more with this.
    Why, at the age of 39 is your mother telling you how to run your life, and more importantly, why are you listening????


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I don't live at home.

    I just don't know how to deal with my mother she wrecks my head.


  • #8
    craichoe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,706 ✭✭✭craichoe


    Mummys Boy wrote: »
    I don't live at home.

    I just don't know how to deal with my mother she wrecks my head.

    Mothers are mothers, stop telling her about the in's and out's of your life and she won't be able to comment on something was right or wrong.


  • #9
    cafecolour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    Stop telling her stuff about your life for a while. Simple as that. Turn into a teenager again 'everythings fine'. If she keeps prying, ask questions about her life or random relatives she'll gossip about to keep the conversation going.


  • #10
    Movershaker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 67 ✭✭Movershaker


    Mummys Boy wrote: »
    I just don't know how to deal with my mother she wrecks my head.

    You need to be firm with her and get your point across in a no-nonsense manner (in other words - grow a pair).


  • #11
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OK no magic bullet. My mother's just bossy and pushy my son was commenting on it the other day. Still I love her but I find her hard to deal with and I don't want to hurt her feelings.


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  • #12
    McCrack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,991 ✭✭✭McCrack


    Haha I'm sorry but this has to be one of the funniest threads in a while. One part of me thinks this is a piss take and if I give my opinion/advice I'll be falling for it.

    I mean come on 39 ffs and you say you are a parent yourself? Good grief.


  • #13
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP you must know at 39 that you can please some of the people some of the time but you can't please all the people, all the time.
    Your issue here is not that your mother is upset. The decision was yours to make and so if she didn't like your choice, she's entitled to express her feelings but you don't have to let it get to you.

    I think your issue is that you don't know how to deal with disappointing people. You just have to remind yourself that you made the best decision you could based on your circumstances, and stand over your decision by telling her "I'm sorry you're upset, but please respect the fact that I am an adult and had my reasons. I know that you want the best for me but I will do this at my own pace."


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