New Relationship

WomanInWhite

Met up with a guy for a first date last week, hadn't thought that anything would come of it at all but as it turns out we got on really well and the evening became pretty intense!

I'm not much good in the aftermath of these situations and what I am looking for advice on is how to express my feelings of attraction towards him without coming across as desperate or a boiler....!

I want to make it clear that I like him, what do I say that isn't too much?

We have arranged to meet up in a couple of days.

MagicMarker

If you've granted him a second date then you need not say a thing.

Just go with the flow and have fun.

krpc

Absolutely, agreeing to or suggesting a second date is enough to indicate that there is an attraction.

In short, go with the flow and let things naturally happen. Don't force it.

aidan24326

Yeah the fact that you obviously had a good evening together and you've agreed to meet him again should be enough to let him know that you like him.

You could compliment him on how he looks but I think that tends to work better on girls than us guys, since we don't tend to put the same level of effort in getting ready and looking nice, so maybe just tell him that you really enjoyed the other evening while showing your attraction in the usual other ways such as flirting, touching, that sort of thing. It's early days so you don't have to do too much else yet. All of the above will let him know you're interested, I wouldn't be getting too hot and heavy with any Mills and Boon declarations just yet!

Loose Lips

OP: Don't let things go as far on the second date. Let him do the work. Give him enough to keep him interested but not so much that he feels that he has a free hand with you. He will not be long in bringing things to the level you want them.

Enjoy!

Liam Byrne

Loose Lips wrote: »

OP: Don't let things go as far on the second date. Let him do the work. Give him enough to keep him interested but not so much that he feels that he has a free hand with you. He will not be long in bringing things to the level you want them.

Enjoy!

Ah, come off it! :P Games like those just end up wrecking everyone's head!!!!

What if he were to get and follow similar advice ? They'd both be sitting there thinking "the last night was great, how come this one feels different ?" and it'd all go to pot!!!!

OP, be yourself, just as you were the first night; if it works again you're on to something, if not then why would you want to be with someone you can't be yourself with ?

Best of luck!

aye

Loose Lips wrote: »

OP: Don't let things go as far on the second date. Let him do the work. Give him enough to keep him interested but not so much that he feels that he has a free hand with you. He will not be long in bringing things to the level you want them.

Enjoy!

what would that achieve? just annoy him enough so he doesnt bother with the OP anymore.

Petrolium Hat

Yeah take it as it comes, dont start proclaiming anything over a couple of drinks!

Above all have a laugh.

SpookyDoll

OP, Dont say anything at all, he will be able to see by ya if you are attracted to him!

Enjoy!

PS Just a thought, have you only met him the once? If so I wouldn't be using the word "relationship" just yet......

star-pants

MagicMarker wrote: »

If you've granted him a second date then you need not say a thing.

Just go with the flow and have fun.

This kinda says it all really - the fact there's a second date proves ye are both interested in getting to know each other more. You don't need to say 'hey I like you' - I think showing up for the date and being happy should say it all.

As MM said - just relax and go with the flow

WomanInWhite

Great feedback, thanks to you all!

I guess the thing is that I really don't want to play games, I want things to be transparent between us and the advice I will take from here is that accepting a second date is indication enough in itself that I like him, I needent actually say anything, I will be myself and let things develop on their own.

Right, sorted!

Thanks again guys!

MugMugs

WomanInWhite wrote: »

Great feedback, thanks to you all!

I guess the thing is that I really don't want to play games, I want things to be transparent between us and the advice I will take from here is that accepting a second date is indication enough in itself that I like him, I needent actually say anything, I will be myself and let things develop on their own.

Right, sorted!

Thanks again guys!

Let him get laid and then you've got a keeper !

MugMugs

3ie4_mwn wrote: »

ask him what kind of financial plans he got for next 30-40 years..priority 1 out of the way.

has he got health insurance? or some policy..? mortgage?

hey, mortgage is like a marriage, get real, its important, no matter what them stupid conservatives say about "traditional" garbage..money is the key.

your priority is to find out if he has house already or planning to get one, then string him for about 4-6 years, always hinting that "life is short" - make that slave work!! you got it babe.

then divorce the fool, take half his money, set yourself up from there...its easy.

Did we go out ?