Calling girls back after scoring

LegacyUser

hi,

im a guy early 20s and have a bit of a problem.

when im out (parties or clubs) whenever i score (as in kissing, not sex) a girl i will generally ask for her number with a view to contact them later. usually they oblige (or give their email address as is understandably becoming more and more common).

generally ill contact them the nex day (text or email), sometimes they reply, sometimes not, ok fair enough. when they do reply ill generally have a bit of a chat and ask if they would like to meet up again some time. the answer is almost exclusively 'no'. usually along the lines of 'im not looking for anything now', 'oh i only got out of a relationship recently/dont want a new one' or 'oh i think id rather we just be friends' (odd).

its very frustrating. id like to be given a chance to prove myself once in a while but it seems like i just cant get one. i always hear girls complaining aout guys who dont call them back and how theyre such jerks but whenever i do contact them they generally just flip me off.
whats up with that? or am i doing this wrong?

- thanks in advance.

Victor

The problem is they are drunk and open to suggestion. Then they sober up and realise that "Hey, I know nothing about that guy and I have no particular reason to like him."

newballsplease

OP, if it was me, i would just txt them the next day and see how they respond to you, are they txtn short one word answers or lines,or are they asking you questions and seem interested?
theres no point jumping into things, like you only met the girl the night before 9/10 wouldnt meet up right away because they dont know you.
txt/ring them the odd day, then leave it for a few days, if shes txts/rings you back and seems interested then find out when shes going out again,and say ya might see them out. if you do then play it from there...........

dudara

Firstly, stop using the word "scoring", it's vile and reserved for teenagers.

Secondly, give it a day or two before you call/contact them. If you're in touch straight away the next day, then that will feel too soon.

Additionally, clubs/pubs etc (where drink is involved) is not the ideal place to meet someone and have them get to know you properly. You probably need to look for other means of meeting women.

good luck

LegacyUser

thanks for the good reponses.
anyone got any suggestions as to alternatives to clubs/parties etc.? starting to get a bit disilisioned with taht whole scene.

*and for the record, no, not every girl i approach is drunk (or even drinking). so its not a case im me being some sleazeball who seises the opportunity to score (for lack of a nicer term of phrase-sorry) girls who dont have their wits about them(sorry if i came across that way). in fact i prefer my women to be sober

TheZohanS

If you meet a nice girl and get to the point of exchanging numbers just tell them that you don't have your phone and give them your number instead.

That way they can contact you if they're interested, and if they don't no harm done, maybe the next girl will.

You seem like a genuine guy so you'll meet a really nice girl sooner or later. But one thing to remember is don't come across as too needy to girls via texts etc., it's a big big turn off. Take it easy and play it cool.

Best of luck.

Craft25

Try something that makes it less of a big deal...

Hey, me and the lads heading into town/ X club.. saturday night, give me a shout if you're out with the girls.. would be lovely to see you again.

do it around wednesday, give her a chance to get a posse together..

the phrase 'to score' makes it all out as just a game with winners and losers, and while some people say thats exactly what it is, others like to hold onto the hope of there being some kind of magic involved

gary the great

Just give her your number, see if she texts you, then shes probably intrested.
I never bother my arse texting them back most of the time (unless I really like them), no point in wasting everyones time.

LegacyUser

Rules.

1) Kiss them
2) Get their number
3) Ring them 4/5 days later out of the blue randomly with no prior contact
4) Speak confidently and be a bit cocky
5) Ask them if they would like to meet up again (this hint should have been dropped at some stage on the night you kissed her i.e. "If you are lucky, I might consider calling you again" if of course you did like them enough and they were being receptive of you in the first place i.e. they were enjoying your cocky, witty and free spirited "nobody owns me" behaviour

6) These rules work if you have a sense of humour, good people skills and of course the better looking you are, the better, but that's life and it does work.

Bottom line: be confident, witty, random, little bit cocky, presentable and smart and do not be clingy, boring, over sensitive or get sucked into deep emotional conversations with women about their ex's, guys they like etc. Just don't go there.