Interested or Not??

LegacyUser

Just a bit confused……

I was out for a drink a few weeks ago a met a guy I use to know, we had a quick drink together and then he had to leave. I sent him a text the next day saying it was really nice to see him again, he replied. Subsequently I asked him for dinner which he agreed to and said he was looking forward to it. A few days later I suggested a date, he replied very apologetically saying he couldn’t make that, he was going to a stag, I replied jokingly “Ye ye I get the hint :-P” and suggested another date.

I haven’t heard anything since……

Now maybe he’s no interested, I have thought of that but I also know that he is interested in some way. I can’t explain it, it’s like a spark, he’s naturally very outgoing and flirty but it’s more than that….

I’m not expecting anything more than dinner from him, but I’m just confused to the sudden lack of response.

Marksie

Did you phone him?
Why don't you simply pick up the phone, dial his number and ask him how his stag do went. Take it from there

Don't text.

LegacyUser

The stag is tonight I was planning to wait a bit and then contact him if he doesn't contact me. Calling is much better than texting, texting is just easier :-)

Karen_*

He didn't reply to your text asking him out? He just ain't that into you! I'd leave it now. If you text again and get no reply then you'll feel crap. The ball is in his court.

Marksie

so you suggested a date whihc conflicted with the stag..which is this weekend.
?

How long before the stag did you suggest the date?

Tis important as he may very well be focussed on that and waiting til after.

Yep i agree let the stag happen then phone

fasty

I agree with all those saying to phone. Texting is grand if you're saying "I'll be late" or "Are you free later" but texting when it comes to dating is a minefield of misunderstandings.

These days when someone texts me, I just phone them back.

LegacyUser

I suggested the date on Monday, and he replied on Monday saying he had the stag. I'll probably leave it until after next week as I'm away next weekend and he knows that.

Has to be a weekend as we live in differect counties and with work and stuff it's not really viable to go out during the week

LegacyUser

Karen_* wrote: »

He didn't reply to your text asking him out?

He did reply to the text asking him out and said he'd love to go, my first suggestion of a date clashed with plans he already had, my confusion is coming from him not replying at all to the second suggestion

krpc

1458 wrote: »

He did reply to the text asking him out and said he'd love to go, my first suggestion of a date clashed with plans he already had, my confusion is coming from him not replying at all to the second suggestion

I'd say turn the suggestion into something more concrete - ask him out for dinner again (he may have forgetton the first time you mentioned it), guage his response and if he's eager then suggest a day and tell him you will arrange it and let him know the him the details (date, time and so on).

LegacyUser

1458 wrote: »

I suggested the date on Monday, and he replied on Monday saying he had the stag. I'll probably leave it until after next week as I'm away next weekend and he knows that.

Has to be a weekend as we live in differect counties and with work and stuff it's not really viable to go out during the week

You're in different countries? well maybe he just reckons it's too much hard work

beth-lou

If he didn't get back to you when you suggested another date then I'd be inclined to think that maybe he doesn't want to get involved. But if you reallylike him you have nothing to lose by suggesting another date casually.

BeardyGit

Texting to ask someone out is childish. Plain and simple. Last time I checked, adults prefer to communicate vocally.

If you're old enough to buy a packet of crisps in the shops without your mammy holding your hand, you're old enough to use a phone. So do it.

Unless you've bought and eaten so many crisps that you can't pick out individual keys any more. That said, you could always use a pencil.

No excuses. Make the arrangement via phonecall, then text if you really must.

Oh yeah - good luck!

girliegirl

Call him after the weekend (definitely do NOT call him if he's on a stag, sure he'd only forget about the call :rolleyes: )

It may simply be that he texted back and the text didnt go through due to no network coverage/credit etc etc and he thinks it did.

I dont think you should write it off as a simple "he's not interested", as it may be a misunderstanding. If you like him, avoid any further misunderstandings by calling him. Either way you'll know where you stand.

LegacyUser

girliegirl wrote: »

Call him after the weekend (definitely do NOT call him if he's on a stag, sure he'd only forget about the call

God no, there's no way in the world I'd call him while he's on the stag but ye I think a phone call would sort the whole situation out.