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  • 18-09-2008 2:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi there, will try keep it short....
    I have been seeing this guy for the last two months, we are exclusive as yet(we havent had "the chat"). I split from my ex last year after seven years, since then I have met a few nice guys but it just isnt there, they were just dates, never anything serious. I think I was forcing the issue a small bit to try and get over my ex.
    Anyway back to the current situation,it feels like the same again, this guy is really really into me and I am just not into him as much. I was doing fine and had no doubts about him until last weekend when I met my ex's sister.The conversation was all about me and my ex and was there any chance we could work it out between us.I was fighting back the tears at the end of the conversation,it was my first time meeting her since the split and we were very close.We had lost contact cos it was an extremly bitter split and I didnt want any contact whatsoever with his family.Killed me but it was for the best at the time.She said that she thought of me as a sister, and her parents were also distraught when it ended. I was heart broken, we had broken up cos afer seven years I wanted to settle down and he didnt know what he wanted, said he hadn't even thought about it. Two weeks later he had a new girlfriend who is still on the scene.
    So even though it was always in my head that I wasnt fully over my ex, I did meet this lovely guy and put my best effort into making a relationship out of it. He is very sincere and sweet and thoughful but last weekend make it more solid that I wasnt over the ex.
    Is this just a phase and should I give the new guy a chance?I had been good until I met her, and now I feel like I am back to where I was six months ago. I dont feel like I am really being fair on the new guy though and he is too genuine an individual to mess around.

    What do I do,try and make a go of things or tell him the truth about my ex or not as the case may be??Is this always the way its going to be for me.


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  • #2
    citeal
    Closed Accounts Posts: 40 ✭citeal


    no, you won't always feel like this. if this new guy seems nice then I say go for it, but take it slowly, you don't need to make any huge decisions around him or your feelings towards him.

    As for the ex, that will fade, its to be expected after spending so long with someone, it takes a while to get used to them being gone.


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