Meeting the mother!

LegacyUser

Hi I'm just looking for some advice - I'm meeting my other boyfriend's mother for the first time tomorrow. We've been seeing each other a short while but are pretty serious at the same time! Any words of wisdom or do's and don'ts for me! It's gonna be an informal lunch btw!

Nevyn

Good manners, listen more then talk, don't let her talk you into a corner mind.

Jpers

Ask some questions of your bf about her interests and chat about those to create some common ground between you rather than having to chat about the weather or having awkward silences....

nolly23

Be polite etc.... but above all be yourself. Be friendly and smile and its always nice to bring a little something with you if she is being kind enough to make you lunch. Doesnt have to be fancy maybe a box of chocs or something. No need if ye are eating out. Dont say anything negative about your bf even if she does. And DEFINATELY dont say anything negative about her after to your bf. He obviously cares a lot about his mum or you wouldnt be meeting her so soon. Best of Luck!!!!

Squeeonline

from experience, think before you talk.

probably a good idea generally actually. I should really follow my own advice.

LegacyUser

GirlyUnreg wrote: »

Hi I'm meeting my other boyfriend's mother for the first time tomorrow. We've been seeing each other a short while !

Other boyfriend?

krpc

Mothers love to talk about when their little boy was a youngster .. so maybe direct some discussion towards that.

Reganio 2

What you mean "OTHER boyfriend's mother"?

Squeeonline

Reganio 2 wrote: »

What you mean "OTHER boyfriend's mother"?

Sharp. I didnt see that.

So is this the second boyfriend you have on the go? Be careful then because they hear things on the grapevine that you would be surprised they know about. They will catch you out.

SpookyDoll

Definitely dont mention the other boyfriend or the other boyfriends mother.

John Mason

How about just being yourself without the swearing

hotlick

HAAHA oh you are in for a treat. You should be ok if she isn't madly possessive but if she is you will be hated for all time. good luck!

themacdaddy

just be yourself and think before you speak....dont try be someone your not but just be mannerly and polite! think about what you did when you met the "other boyfriends" mother haha

marti101

Dont drink to much,wear something conservative and dont mention the other boyfriend.Bring her something flowers/chocs and ask her questions about your boyfriend shell love that.Oh and dont get mixed up with the names or things could turn sour.

COH

Don't bring your other boyfriend either.

kmick

I believe the truism applies here..."Better to keep your mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt."

Don't say too much but be polite.

cafecolour

i-bloodhound wrote: »

Mothers love to talk about when their little boy was a youngster .. so maybe direct some discussion towards that.

If you're in the house, perhaps even ask about looking at some old photo albums.