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How to come clean

  • 17-09-2008 7:49am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    Hope to get some advice here. Met a girl a couple of years ago as a one night stand but we actually kept in touch, On the night we met I told her a couple of things that were untrue. Now I'm actually really attracted to her and was wondering what the best way is to come straight with her. I know I was wrong to lie but back then i had really low self confidence and didn't think just being myself would be good enough now all that's changed and I really have to make it right before I ask her to commit to a relationship.
    Any help would be appreciated.


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  • #2
    SuperGrover
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 991 ✭✭✭SuperGrover


    Sit her down. Tell her. Come clean.

    Did it 14 years ago. Happily married to this day.


  • #3
    themullet
    Closed Accounts Posts: 66 ✭✭themullet


    How serious are the lies you told her? Because that will matter a lot. To be honest if they were only small lies, then just come clean and explain to her exactly why you lied. I'm sure she'll understand. Just tell her exactly what you said in your post. That you didn't feel you were good enough for her, you weren't sure how you felt back then, that you really like her now and you don't want to lie to her anymore and that you'd like to commit to her.

    You just need to bite the bullet. Sit her down and explain all this. Sooner rather than later


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Told her some small lie, I know it doesn't sound like a big deal but it's just that it has gone on for so long that she might see me in a different light and also told her other things about my life that seem unbelievable and am just worried that she could think everything I told her is a lie which it wasn't it was just the one thing. Just would'nt really be a great start to a relationship if she is doubting thing's I told her in the past from day 1.


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