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Solitary Man

  • 15-09-2008 9:37pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I moved away from home recently and am desperately lonely.

    While living at home I was lonely in terms of not having anyone of the opposite sex in any shape or form, but now I realize how much I miss my family that I'm not around them.

    I'm 24 and have only had sex once and that was nearly 4 years ago. I couldn't continue or sustain a relationship with that girl back then even though we both wanted it. The situation at the time mean it wasn't a viable option.

    I've not kissed a girl since her, or not even got in a situation where ANYTHING could happen. I'm really awkward in social situations, it takes me months to get comfortable enough with people for me to "be myself" and even then I've very little to say. I seem to walk around the place with the weight of the world on my shoulders. I'm not into the whole drinking scene and generally tend to keep to myself out and about.

    I didn't think it at the time but I now realize that I love the girl mentioned about. She's the only girl who I'm genuinely attracted to, and I felt at total ease when I was with her. I seemed to be able to hold a conversation with her and laugh with her, something very foreign to me. Problem is she has a bf now, thus unavailable. She is constantly on my mind.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    wow, that could almost have been written by me, seriously!! haha.

    Anyway, to yur problem, I think you just have to make an effort to get out and about and meet new people. join a group, take up an activity etc that you have an interest in where you will meet people whom have similar interest in.

    I think maybe your attachment to that girl is simply due to the fact that you felt comfortable with her, there was a connection there and its that connection and sense of comfort that you are longing for again. but like i said, getting out and meeting new people will open the door to other opportunities, maybe new women and possible relationships? then you might see that this girl wasnt really the one you wanted.

    for what its worth I'm in almost the same situation as yourself. Work on yourself first before you worry about relationships or getting close to women.


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