Black tie baahh!

Dyr

Right, have to attend a black tie wedding, do i have to wear a dopey wingtip collar with the dickie bow? Would i be commiting some horrendous dress code violation if i wore shirt with a normal collar?

Ronan H

I'd say you would be safe enough with a normal collar and a slick black tie. Check out http://www.blacktie.ie/etiquet.html and see what you think. It seems to have a lot of info. that might help you decide (or else it will confuse you further, but hopefully the former)...

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mitsubishi1

If you're going to a black tie wedding and you're hiring a suit you're best bet is to wear a bowtie. The wing tip collar shirt is the shirt best suited to a bowtie. Are you hiring a suit for the wedding or not ??

dudara

Ask the bride and groom how they'd feel about a slick suit, or do they really want a full black tie. They might have some grand theme running through their wedding.

Thoie

To be honest I've been to a few weddings where the bride and groom have specifically requested black tie, and it really annoys me when guys turn up with just a normal shirt and tie. Even if they've been bought specially for the wedding, it looks like they've made no effort at all, and just took a work shirt out of the wardrobe at the last minute. As dudara said, ask the bride and groom do they really mean black tie, and if yes, and you like them, suck it up and get the dopey wingtip and dickie bow. It's only for a day.

mitsubishi1

Totally agree with Thoie. Have been to a couple of black tie weddings and went to the wedding with the full works. Tux with bowtie and wing tip collar shirt, and it really bugged me at the amount of fellas that went in a normal shirt with a black tie. Just wear the bowtie with the wing tip collar shirt. You'll feel better once you get there and its not that much hassle especially if you're hiring the suit in the first place from somewhere like Blacktie. Enjoy the wedding.

Dyr

nah I've decided that if im buying all this clobber then it's my choice and it ain't gonna be wingtip, I hate stuff being around my neck so they can count themselves lucky that I'm wearing the bow tie and monkey suit

as an off aside this is the reason i rarely attend weddings, someones missus expecting everyone else to endure their fecking schoolgirl fantasy about their big day out.

Thoie

Bambi wrote: »

as an off aside this is the reason i rarely attend weddings, someones missus expecting everyone else to endure their fecking schoolgirl fantasy about their big day out.

I don't mean to be smart, but why bother going then? Just tell them you can't make it.

I hate the fuss surrounding weddings, I hate the dictats about what to wear, and how to wear it etc, but if I'm fond of the couple I'll do their bidding for a single day out of respect for them and whatever their fantasies may be about their big day out.

It's their day, and if you can't make a clothing sacrifice for them for a day, do you really care enough about them to even bother going?

Dyr

Trust me, If I'd been told it was bleedin black tie before I accepted i wouldnt be going :pac:

Pigletlover

I don't agree with it myself, but if the invitation says black tie then it means a bow tie. If you're not willing to go along with that then don't go to the wedding.

My mother in law was at a black tie wedding recently and half the guests were wearing black ties. She couldn't believe how stupid people were to think that they were being asked to wear a black tie, she said it looked more like a funeral than a wedding.

Dyr

I am gonna a bleedin bow tie

So you're saying that people who were invited to a black tie event showed up wearing black ties? Careful what you wish for is the lesson there muhaha:pac:

SarahJ

Bambi wrote: »

Right, have to attend a black tie wedding, do i have to wear a dopey wingtip collar with the dickie bow? Would i be commiting some horrendous dress code violation if i wore shirt with a normal collar?

Ah dude, its only one night! Ya never know, ya might feel great,like James Bond!