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LegacyUser

i love my gf to bits and wouldnt want to upset her or anything but our sex life isnt the best , she wont give blowjobs because she thinks their disgusting and i have never had one she doesnt know that , id love to be able to go down on her but she isnt very groomed she has quite a forest so to speak . how would i go about asking her to even giving it a trim without upsetting her or anything

LegacyUser

wow no blowjob? what do you guys do when you do it? just stick it in? how awkward :[
hairy twats are a downgrade brother.. my girlfriend waxes, so i haven't got that problem
just tell her and be completely honest, don't make jokes about it or anything, just be direct. if she can't take ur honesty then maybe she likes being lied to, i dont know
if she cares about making u feel good she will at least consider trimming the hedges.
ps- a lot of hair is disgusting.

MagicMarker

First you have to establish if she would want you to go down there, sounds like she may have an issue with it. Until you bring this up there's no reason to ask her to trim down.

challengemaster

I'm seeing a problem here. The problem is you're not communicating. If you're going to get hurt over mentioning something like that, then there's massive problems with your communication... If you're having sex, you should atleast be able to talk to one another as sexual partners. Until you start talking to one another.. I cant see this improving.

You're holding back from telling her that you've never had a blowjob, you're also not telling her you'd like it if she was more well kept. firstly, you need to start talking about these things. Once you do that, then broach onto the subject of it. You might see if she even wants it first. She may not, if she thinks oral sex in general is disgusting.. if she does, however, you could say it might be easier for you if she was trimmed?

Also you're coming on here, and talking about it. You should be talking to her. You need to find out why you can't talk to your gf, and fix it.

Marksie

I think challengemaster has it covered.
Forget the act and think about the situation as a whole.

The basic issue is communication. For both asking for what you want and in determining why your partner has issues.
openly explore those first then move onto discussiond about what you like/dislike and why

SpookyDoll

Hmm, its totally hypocritical of her to call bj's "disgusting" and yet brazenly go around with a hairy muff. Bit of a cheek.

If you ask me she is lucky to have a bf at all with her attitude.

If I was you I would go on sex strike and not give her any action till she sorts both her muff and her attitude out.

LegacyUser

Just out of curiosity what's the best way to have the hair down there? will a trim ever suffice really?

unhappycamper

I would tell her that it would be exciting if you both had a 'sexy trim' to spice things up, its worked for me in the past. The blow job thing can be a real problem. My x taught it was dirty so maybe if I was lucky I'd get one 3 times a year. Its terrible really when you have had girlfriends who really enjoy oral. The best thing to do is go shopping for sexy outfits and show her just how much you want to do these things.

Karen_*

SpookyDoll wrote: »

Hmm, its totally hypocritical of her to call bj's "disgusting" and yet brazenly go around with a hairy muff. Bit of a cheek.

If you ask me she is lucky to have a bf at all with her attitude.

If I was you I would go on sex strike and not give her any action till she sorts both her muff and her attitude out.

OMG Spooky please tell me you're messing! hehe

OP why not shave off your own pubic hair and when she comments say would she not try doing same

McGinty

Hmm, its totally hypocritical of her to call bj's "disgusting" and yet brazenly go around with a hairy muff. Bit of a cheek.

If you ask me she is lucky to have a bf at all with her attitude.

If I was you I would go on sex strike and not give her any action till she sorts both her muff and her attitude out.

This has to be the worst advice ever!!!!

Op and others have you considered that this girl may be unaware of how hairy she looks, maybe she is not au fait with the brazillian or porno look vagina. She could be completely unaware that there is a problem but there is the viewpoint of how dare she have a hairy pussy <rant over>

Op, as for advice I would start talking to her as a person, she sounds like she has zilch experience and it sounds to me that you are both young and just learning, that can be a good thing. Start telling her what you would like, if you have access to a bathroom suggest you would like to groom her, and if she allows it, then you can tidy her up, it adds to the intimacy. However, if she does not want to trim please bear in mind it is her body and she is free to have it how she wants, equally though you are free not to give her oral, but these expectations where each HAS to do things for the other in order to please, well I think it is unfair and bordering on the abusive. She may never want to do oral, and then again she may come around to it, but try to develop intimacy through affection, hugs, touching and it can build from there, forget all the stuff you watch on porno films, you are two people not sexual performers.

Tommy the Cat

Women who walk around with bushes are stuck in the 80's...listening to Wham. Chris rock summed it up best: Whenever l meet a girl that doesn't give head... l look at them like a damn Betamax, ''They still make you?''