What to do?

doormat

I've been seeing someone for a while now, and I don't know what to think any more. Fro the last few weeks things have been very confusing. We were apart for 2 weeks and when we saw each other again she said she wanted to end things, but then some days she kisses me and puts her hands down my trousers, but then about a half hour later she closes up and says that she doesn't see me giving her anything in a relationship than she can get from me as a friend. I really care about her, and its not like we're young we're both in our late 20's, but I don't think i can take much more of this. What should I do.?

COH

Sounds like a mind-f**k...

Personally I'd get out of dodge

Ruu_Old

Tell her straight that you are not her play thing. I wouldn't have time for whatever she is playing at.

c - 13

doormat wrote: »

I've been seeing someone for a while now, and I don't know what to think any more. Fro the last few weeks things have been very confusing. We were apart for 2 weeks and when we saw each other again she said she wanted to end things, but then some days she kisses me and puts her hands down my trousers, but then about a half hour later she closes up and says that she doesn't see me giving her anything in a relationship than she can get from me as a friend. I really care about her, and its not like we're young we're both in our late 20's, but I don't think i can take much more of this. What should I do.?

Bloody hell, I could have sworn you were going to say about 16 !

At late twenties and still playing mind games like that I would be out of there double quick.

Dizzyblonde

She's on a power trip. You could definitely do better.

Miss Fluff

doormat wrote: »

We were apart for 2 weeks and when we saw each other again she said she wanted to end things, but then some days she kisses me and puts her hands down my trousers,:eek: but then about a half hour later she closes up and says that she doesn't see me giving her anything in a relationship than she can get from me as a friend.

Step AWAY from the head f8ck!!.:eek: She hasn't a clue what she wants by the sounds of things, let her leave you well enough alone. Tbh she sounds like a bunny boiler, she will only wreck your head hon.

Wagon

run.

Wurly

What to do? Leave.

Your username says it all. Why would you let yourself be used as a doormat?

seahorse

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Step AWAY from the head f8ck!!.:eek:

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Just tell her to fukoff.

estar

and tell her your needs and what you want. for the messing to end, and for her to just be your girlfriend.

these things should be simple and easy. when they are not, it means there is something wrong.

you deserve to be happy, and fulfilled. speak up.

by the way, if i were you i would not bother with this girl. she isn't acting in a rational way. hot and cold. tell her to go away and grow up. seriously.

and you should learn not to put up with second rate stuff.

doormat

You guys are probably right, would be easy if i wasn't so enamoured with her.

Miss Fluff

doormat wrote: »

You guys are probably right, would be easy if i wasn't so enamoured with her.

Yes it is tough if you like someone but have a read back over your own post.

I was stunned when you said this girl is in her late 20s, her behaviour would be just about be deemed the norm if she was 15 but this girl is hitting 30.:eek:

Do yourself a favour and run for the hills, if she really cared about you you'd know about it, sticking her hands down your trousers (which may I just say even brought a blush to Miss Fluff's cheeks:o) and then turning around and telling you she doesn't care really isn't the behaviour of a mature grounded adult.

She is the weakest link......goodbye

anucksunamun

I feel SO sorry for you, the thing you have to focus on is.. shes not so enamored with you.. shes playing you along until she meets someone else.. keeping you keen enough so you dont give up completely but not investing anything in your relationship.. what a total biach! you sound like a nice guy, and heres the thing, when you find the 'one' your relationship just flows.. theres no games, no sh1t, just getting close and falling in love, dont you deserve that?

LG26

Oh my god she sounds like a real attention seeking f**ked up girl....

Just call her bluff, she knows that she can get away with doing that to you because it doesn't seem like you have stood up to her before. Next time she says she wants to finish it, agree with her, tell her she's dead right cause you aren't happy either. Sit back and enjoy watching her squirm cause she won't be expecting it.

Give her what she deserves. Head F**K...