Guilt is taking over me

LegacyUser

Hi Going Unreg for this!

Basically me and my Gf broke up last week due to me getting drunk and acting like a jealous child at her Debs it was all my fault i accept that and its due to drinking to much seems to be a problem cause i keep loosing people close to me over it and i know i have to stop and am taking steps to do so

I just feel so destroyed over it like i cant sleep got sent home from work twice due to random crying its not me at all i usually hold it in as best i can its consuming my life that i did it to her and ruined her last nite with her school friends!

We havent been going out that long but we got real close and i really thaught this was the best relationship of my life to date now she forgave me after it and said she doesnt want to fight and loose me! and the next day she had a change of heart when she went out with her mates we broke up next day

Is there hope we still talk just briefly everyday she started college this week i feel theres still something there but i know she is hurting and i dont blame her! whats the best way of handling this do i just forget about her and move on or do i just give her time and space? i really really carea about this girl and really believe in her! i will see her alot she lives in the same house as my best mate

Any tips suggestions greatly appriacated
Anon101

Zillah

Have you decided to stop drinking altogether?
Did you tell her this?
Did she believe you?
What did you actually do at the debs?

Peleus

apologise properly to her in person then see what she says. then leave her alone for a while and let her contact you.

If you just talk to her and explain I'm sure she'll understand. Then let her have some time to herself to think things over.

Make sure you inform her that you're giving up drinking (and when you tell her that, it shouldn't be a lie).

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1015



Then just give it time and see what happens from there.

LegacyUser

Zillah wrote: »

Have you decided to stop drinking altogether?
Did you tell her this?
Did she believe you?
What did you actually do at the debs?

Yes ive decided to stop it and this weekend is my first test out with my friends¬

i did tell her i was giving up and she said it shouldnt be for her it should be for me i said it was she said she didnt believe me she said il never change!

I just got drunk and got really childisly jealous when she was talking to her male friends and started to fall asleep at the breakfast and got in a huff with her on the way home

Ainekav

well, its good that youve realised that because you act the maggot when your drunk, that it doesnt suit you and you need to cut down. the majority of my male friends half-recognise this very fact and then choose to totally ignore and drink some more, so fare play.

Now, what you did was certainly childish and idiotic, but to be honest, you didnt cheat on her or anything, you just acted the eejit. it sounds like the friends mightve had some bearing on her change of heart. Shes young and this can happen regularly.

You need to sit her down, apologise properly for your actions, show her (not tell her) that your cutting down on the drink and see what happens.

To be honest you dont sound like too bad a skin so if she cant forgive and accept that your makin the effort then maybe she aint the gal for you.

good luck let me know how it turns out for ya.

A