Dealing with girls on the rebound?

turtleshead

So here it goes,
I have known this girl about 3 years and for as long as I had known her she had the same boyfriend.

However I met her about 4 months ago on a night out and we got chatting and I found out she was single, I still didnt think she was interested, but she pursued me and eventually we started dating and things were going very well.

2 weeks ago she wanted to meet up for a chat and she explained that she needed some space & time because it had been too soon since her last boyfriend (which is understandable) however, about 2 days later she wanted to meet again and now we continue contact each other almost daily.

For me space is space, we should have time to cool off, maybe the occasional text is okay but meeting up for a date is out of the question. Dont get me wrong its not that I dont want to meet her I really enjoy everything about her, I just want to know what way should this be approached?

Should I:
a) Tell her how I feel - give her space and not meet/contact her and risk ruining this good thing we have?
b) Continue to meet her and hope she is not playing games and end up getting hurt
c) Tell her how I feel - but still meet/contact her as "a friend"

Any other suggestions/advice appreciated

Silverfish

Sounds like you're going to fall into the friend zone, and the next thing you'll get is a call saying 'Sorry.... I've met this guy...'

At the moment, you're her 'on call guy'.. the one who's always there when she phones, or wants to go out.

Best thing to do now is give her the space she needs. If she's on the rebound, she needs the space, but won't enforce it herself.

Zaph

One for PI methinks

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chickenhawk

If she is on the rebound just tell her how you feel and don't contact her or get involved. It'll just get messy.

Red Hand

Agree with Silverfsh. You are her back-up until someone she really like comes along.

tinkletoes

I agree with the other posts. I would give her space with no contact. She is probably using you until some other guy comes on the scene.

SnowMonkey

I wouldnt involve my self with her what so ever mate sounds like somthing you dont need...

Overheal

I don't do the rebound thing. Done it once, never again. At best you're there to balance out the hormones from their sharp and sudden drop-off in relationship sex. And at worst you develop feelings for them that they will never fully return. no thanks.

Black Swan

All rebounders are the same?

Wibbs

They're not all the same but similar enough. People tend to follow well trodden paths of behaviour. This rebound stuff really only applies to long termers. If someone isn't over one relationship, they won't be able to make a proper go of a new relationship and as such the chances of failure go up. A lot. Now people can go out successfully with someone two seconds after dumping one person, but that's because they're over the ex long before they actually dump them(though someone who only jumps when there's another person in sight is generally not to be trusted much anyway).

OP I would avoid getting too entangled. You'll likely be the bridge between her ex and the next guy she is actually free to love.

Colonel_McCoy

From my experience, some women are like monkeys, they dont let go of a branch until they have another one to hold onto. I know ladies this is a big generalisation!!!! Seems like she will seek comfort in you and then when ready move onto somebody else!