Still feeling Down

HouseHippo

Posted this thread a while ago,
http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055367774

Still feeling down about what happened, I know I shouldn't be letting it get to me still, but It was a really upsetting experience.
I have stopped the self harm, that was just one little slip up. However my self esteem has taken a major dive and i'm having trouble bringing it back to the surface.....

Anymore advice

Strokesfan

Did you get a new job?

I find if I spend too much time unoccupied, I can get down. It's good to distract yourself sometimes and keep busy (without exhausting yourself). I know that it's easy to retreat into yourself sometimes too and you shouldn't, you just have to keep getting up, dusting yourself off and start again.

Honestly, we all have low periods like this but just work through it, exercise, socialise, do anything you enjoy. If you don't like something about yourself, try to change it. You sound like a good person and I really believe that our bad experiences can make us into better, more empathic people. Things will get better.

Affable

Didn't quite decipher the full story. Just can't believe how immature those people sound.

HouseHippo

Strokesfan wrote: »

Did you get a new job?

I find if I spend too much time unoccupied, I can get down. It's good to distract yourself sometimes and keep busy (without exhausting yourself). I know that it's easy to retreat into yourself sometimes too and you shouldn't, you just have to keep getting up, dusting yourself off and start again.

Honestly, we all have low periods like this but just work through it, exercise, socialise, do anything you enjoy. If you don't like something about yourself, try to change it. You sound like a good person and I really believe that our bad experiences can make us into better, more empathic people. Things will get better.

Na i'm doing my leaving cert, no time for a job, I was near quitting anyway. So I'm plenty busy, bit down in school too though,there is a thread about that too...

HouseHippo

Strokesfan wrote: »

Did you get a new job?

I find if I spend too much time unoccupied, I can get down. It's good to distract yourself sometimes and keep busy (without exhausting yourself). I know that it's easy to retreat into yourself sometimes too and you shouldn't, you just have to keep getting up, dusting yourself off and start again.

Honestly, we all have low periods like this but just work through it, exercise, socialise, do anything you enjoy. If you don't like something about yourself, try to change it. You sound like a good person and I really believe that our bad experiences can make us into better, more empathic people. Things will get better.

Sorry if it's a bit complicated...here's the short version

Friend from work back from Sweden for weekend, asked me to stay back for drink.
I waited for a good while, untill boss told me everyone had left, basically kicked me out.
I walked down the back lane, seen all my work mates inc boss standing there taking piss out of me

Piste

The way those people acted reflects badly on them, not you. Get rid of the idea that it's somehow your fault or that you're to blame- they're just nasty people.

Take this year to focus on your Leaving Cert, from other posts I see you're ambitious and willing to work hard. Use study and homework to take your mind of things. Note every compliment and praise your teachers give you, maybe write them down or keep them in your head to come back to when you're feeling low.

Think of how happy you'll be in college, with new people and tons of new friends to make, let that thought motivate you this year.

If people are making you feel bad about yourself avoid them- you really don't need this crap especially this year.

LegacyUser

Hi thanks for sharing your experience....
I felt your story helped me to connect with the vunerabe moments we have all found ourselves in at times.... eventually life gets easier as you get older because your circle of people around you becomes about genuine friends and people who you can trust.

once in my early 20s i walked away from a big gang i was hanging around with,i thought i had lots of friends but there wasnt one real friend between the lot.... i left myself friendless for a while but then new people showed up and i prefered to have one decent quality friend than 10 not so decent friends....

All you can do to raise yourself esteem is to change the perception you have of yourself.... you have to believe in you and love you,when you have that strength inside you no one can touch you...you wont care who says what about you....

i used to self harm,hate myself,put myself in horrible situations because i just didnt care,i was at rock bottom about to commit sucide,but i didnt.... then i started to take control of my life and my thoughts about myself and worked really hard at loving myself better.... i did therapy and lots of positive affirmations... if you write out 'i love and approve of myself' in a little note book as much as you can every day you will be suprised how much the universe will respond back to you-the way it works is that all the negative self talk happening now is becoming your reality of how you see yourself... it makes sense to overide those thoughts with affirming positive ones even if it feels stupid because then you are able to balance up your thoughts,and eventually the good ones out weigh the bad...

Im totally different now as a person,i have gone from head down un confident girl to strong confident woman... i just kept on working on myself and eventually became healed and strong.... life can be very challenging,its even worse when your your own worst enemy,and self harming stems from a deep hatred of the self.... get to the root of that and you will be able to change it....

good luck with school this year.... xx