warts

LegacyUser

My long term partner and myself broke up last autumn, but got back together this summer. My problem is that he went out with someone else while we were apart and now it looks as if he may have contracted genital warts. Once I found out that he had been with someone else I insited on his taking a std test which came back negative. The warts were obviously not active when he got the all clear.

He is the only person that I have been with. He is gone to get tested again, but I am pretty much devistated to say the least - I have always been careful and now more than likely have an std which may come and go for the rest of my life.

Has anyone been in this situation and how did you deal with it? I don't know whether to just give up on the relationship as I'm not sure how many more surprises I can take, on the other hand we have been together for a long time and I don't know if I can give up on that either.

AARRRGH

In St. James's Hospital they don't test people for genital warts as they assume you already have them (they told me this.)

Genital warts are really common (although most people don't get symptoms) and condoms only provide a small amount of protection.

Your next partner could have them. And the next.

Colonel_McCoy

He was free to do what he wanted after you broke up.......as were you!

AARRRGH

unrger wrote: »

it looks as if he may have contracted genital warts.

Could you clarify this bit?

Nevyn

The majority of sexually active adults have the Human papillomavirus also known as HPV.
It is spread by not just sexual contact but skin to skin contact so condoms do not prevent against it.

Approximately 130 HPV types have been identified.
Some HPV types cause warts (verrucae) or cancer, while others have no symptoms.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_papillomavirus

When was your last smear test ?

LegacyUser

I had them about a year ago. I was with my partner for several months at the time and they just flared up, I have no idea whom I got them from or when I got them. My girlfriend then got them at around the same time which was very embarassing that I gave them to her. She then had them for anout 2 or 3 weeks and then they just dissappeared themselves. Mine didn't go away themselves so I went to the GUIDE clinic in James hospital. Got tested for everything and it was all clear, gave me a cream which was very effective and totally cleared up after about a week and a half or two weeks. Doctors and staff in the clinic all really nice and professional. Make you feel at ease. Totally free and annonomous. They said there's like a 20% chance of them recurring, no sign yet. (Fingers crossed)

Hope this helps...

AngryBadger

unrger wrote: »

Has anyone been in this situation and how did you deal with it? I don't know whether to just give up on the relationship as I'm not sure how many more surprises I can take, on the other hand we have been together for a long time and I don't know if I can give up on that either.

What? OP as has been stated condoms do not prevent the spread of the virus causing genital warts. If you're THAT concerned get yourself to an STI clinic ASAP. End of.

Re: him sleeping with someone else, ye were broken up, so what're you so upset about?

LegacyUser

allclear - thanks for this. Its great to know that there are positive experiences out there. Am quite cheered up to know that there's only 20% chance of recurrence!


AngryBadger - I understand that we were not together. Point is that he told me that he hadn't been with anyone, I trusted him & slept with him. Found out that he had been with someone, both went for STI testing (I'm sure she is a lovely girl, but I don't know her history). Now four months later it looks as if we both have an STI that will stay with us for life.

Am upset because,
(1) we are trying to get on with our lives, reminders of this are not welcome
(2) as I understand it, these things may come and go for the rest of my life. I will have to tell every (or any) new partner that I carry a virus that may or may not cause them to develop warts in places that you would rather not have them.

As a female, If I do develop warts (and 60% of people exposed to the strain of the virus do) these may be internal and I may not be able to get them treated as easily as popping some cream on.

gar32

Any one have the name of the cream & if it is sold in chemists?

LegacyUser

Its named Wartner, aptly enough.

I doubt you can buy it in a chemist as theres different type of infection etc and they probably want you to be tested etc. I showed them to my GP and he just told me to go to GUIDE

John Mason

unrger wrote: »

AngryBadger - I understand that we were not together. Point is that he told me that he hadn't been with anyone, I trusted him & slept with him. Found out that he had been with someone, both went for STI testing (I'm sure she is a lovely girl, but I don't know her history). Now four months later it looks as if we both have an STI that will stay with us for life.

But he could have had the virus for years and it wont show up on STI check unless there is an outbreak.

You cant assume he caught them from the "lovely girl"

LegacyUser

Wartner is not the cream. Wartner is a cream for plantar warts, which is a completely different thing altogether.....these are the warts that appear on your hands etc.

The cream is called Warticon.....and you need to be very careful with this. Apply only a tiny bit to the actual genital warts and make sure it does not get onto any healthy skin (use some vaseline to protect the healthy skin) as the Warticon can damage healthy skin.

Hope this helps.

Victor

Get proper advice from a doctor or pharmacist.

What is suitable for a wart on your hand is not suitable for the more sensative parts of your body.

steod

Victor wrote: »

Get proper advice from a doctor or pharmacist.

What is suitable for a wart on your hand is not suitable for the more sensative parts of your body.

Very true sort of goes without saying do not apply any medication to this part of your body without seeing a doctor and most likely getting a prescription.
Also as previously mentioned the HPV virus has over one hundred different strains although only a small amount of these will actually result in the growth of warts in the genital area.
In fact its been stated that some doctors would consider you to be suffering from some kind of social retardation (not sure if this is the correct way of phrasing this) or something similar if you have never been exposed to the HPV virus ie never had sex/sexual contact or kissed anyone.
Its by far the most prevelant sti around and can be far more harmful to females in terms of links to cervical cancer.

LolaLuv

Geez, I think the OP was just asking for a little support, no need to come down on her like this.

Anyway, I've never had an STD so I can't really relate, but I can try to understand your frustration. Even though you were broken up you'd almost have to be inhuman to not feel hurt and upset in this situation. STD or not, he still slept with someone else and knowing about a partner's sexual history always stings a bit. You probably feel like you're paying for his mistake, and that's not fair at all.

Has he lied to you about anything else? How is he responding to your hurt over the situation?

LegacyUser

steod wrote: »

Very true sort of goes without saying do not apply any medication to this part of your body without seeing a doctor and most likely getting a prescription.
Also as previously mentioned the HPV virus has over one hundred different strains although only a small amount of these will actually result in the growth of warts in the genital area.
In fact its been stated that some doctors would consider you to be suffering from some kind of social retardation (not sure if this is the correct way of phrasing this) or something similar if you have never been exposed to the HPV virus ie never had sex/sexual contact or kissed anyone.
Its by far the most prevelant sti around and can be far more harmful to females in terms of links to cervical cancer.

Just to add, for the OP's benefit - the HPV strains that are linked to cervical cancer DO NOT manifest themselves in the form of visible warts, that's not to say that the OP and partner don't have more than one strain of HPV, but hopefully it will clarify that. As the OP is probably aware, regular smears are a must for anyone engaging in sexual activity.