Addicted to women

AKfortyjimbob

Here it is:

Theres nothing else i can think about cept women women women. Im 22 yrs old, have had 1 proper relationship and la bit of drunken scoring and a 1 night stand or two.

Theres nothing else i can think about. Ive changed my life completely to maximise the amount of girls i can get together with. I have no interest in fashionable clothes whatsoever, but i just quit my life insurance and spent the money on fashionable ( in my opinion posh and pretty gay) looking clothes. I dont care. If it helps me to score, ill wear em, no matter what my friends think. I actually hate fashionable guys, but ill become what i hate in order to score. i dont care.

I used to play rugby, but i quit that because i want more time
to study at college to earn more money later in life to get a flashy car to get more women. I miss all my old teamates like mad, but now i can lift weights every day and get as big as i want without restrictions from sports. I guess i figured to sport was costing me energy best spent in the gym. consequently i work out 6 days a week. This is also solely to improve chances with girls, although i do enjoy smackin big weights around- thats my only release from the constant longing for women.

Had a one night stand a month ago, and a follow up night with her, and coffee a week later and i cant stop thinking about her. Im like that with almost every girl i have drunken fun with.
After the first night i walked home in the best mood ive ever had, but a few hours later i started getting depressed and lonely again, so i rang her that same day.

So there it is. Its not about sex, really. Its that when i see a hot woman it hits me harder than any punch ive ever taken to the face. When i see a beautyful woman the entire world around me (myself included) turns into crap and becomes worthless.

this post may give the impression that im saying i score a lot, which i dont. I do as well as the next guy, but thats obviously not enough.

Miss Fluff

AKfortyjimbob wrote: »

So there it is. Its not about sex, really. Its that when i see a hot woman it hits me harder than any punch ive ever taken to the face. When i see a beautyful woman the entire world around me (myself included) turns into crap and becomes worthless.

I've read this a couple of times and am not entirely sure what you mean by it OP. What do you mean by this statement, am confused....

RedXIV

Being honest? sounds like you hit puberty fairly late.

Most guys think about women all the time. its what we're programmed to do but if your honest in saying it's not just about sex then let me give you just one piece of advice. Everything you're doing to get girls? yup, thats probably not going to work. Women are less impressed with clothes and muscles than you might think. About the only thing you did right was go to college to show ambition.

Calm it down mate, enjoy your life, because it's YOUR life. I'd hate to look back on my youth to find i'd wasted it chasing girls with NOTHING else interesting me.

Karen_*

So women are a huge distraction and its affecting other areas of your life?

I know men twice your age who are still having that problem OP!:D

But seriously, what can anyone advise you to do that will change it? Like was said in another thread, just accept yourself for the way you are. You love women. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. But there are other things in life too. Work, friends, family, hobbies etc and you need to train yourself to distribute your focus a bit more evenly. It take conscious effort on your part.

AKfortyjimbob

Miss Fluff wrote: »

I've read this a couple of times and am not entirely sure what you mean by it OP. What do you mean by this statement, am confused....

I mean that

1. Their beauty knocks the crap outta me, their bodies, voices, grace dancing, everything.

2. Its not about sex, lying next to them, touching them, talking to them etc is what i want. But sex is good, dont get me wrong.

I see everything as one of two things either helping me to have more relationships or handicapping me. On that basis i decide what i do with my time. Drinking buddies and rugby and so forth handicap me, so i got rid of them.

judas101

AKfortyjimbob wrote: »

i can lift weights every day and get as big as i want i work out 6 days a week. This is also solely to improve chances with girls, although i do enjoy smackin big weights around- thats my only release from the constant longing for women.

in my experience, most girls don't like muscles

Marksie

Well welcome to youth and raging hormones.

AKfortyjimbob wrote: »

1. Their beauty knocks the crap outta me, their bodies, voices, grace dancing, everything.

2. Its not about sex, lying next to them, touching them, talking to them etc is what i want. .

Funny but i totally agree with that. My lover means that and a damn sight more. Why is it an issue?
Its a good point to start from, look at harmonising principles of ying/yang and it gets to a much more intense, intimate experience

AKfortyjimbob

Absolutely true, many dont like muscles. But plenty do, and i intend to do well with women with that particular taste. I see them as my target group, or whatever a marketing man would say

Hell i used to despise men that tan, but i do that every now and then here. Whatever will make me more attractive i will do regardless.

bubonicus

It must be hard, thinking about nothing else but women. But just remember women are people too.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

This isn't about the women, it's about an addction.

The difference being: there's nothing wrong with enjoying women, but when it begins to affect other aspects if your life, it crosses over into addiction.

I'm not sure how addiction therapies work, but it might be worth doing some research.

Irishcrx

Woah woah , ok mate first off calm down. You shouldn't be giving up the thing's you love just to get more time to look better for women , I lift weight I enjoy it, I have a flash car I love it but it's certainly not to impress anyone but myself and here's the kicker at the end of it all, house, car , body image the main thing women look for is...

PERSONALITY

As said when it starts affecting your life and making you unhappy it becomes an addiction and in the end will end up hurting you.

AKfortyjimbob

I dont care about cars, my image or anything else. I dont care about giving things up or not. I only truly care about one thing and thats women. Im driving 2 hours tommorow to meet that girl, but i hate drivin 10 mins to visit my grandmother. Nothing else moves me.

I have plenty of personality, but its more of a sarcastic, violence loving, extremely politically incorrect personality. I sorta have to hide it to get on well with women.

RedXIV

AKfortyjimbob wrote: »

I have plenty of personality, but its more of a sarcastic, violence loving, extremely politically incorrect personality. I sorta have to hide it to get on well with women.

Recipe for a life alone my friend

Irishcrx

But in your original post you said you wanted a nice car to impress women and you worked out purely to impress women that's what I was pointing out. For most men alot of the thing's we do in life al revolve around sex in one way or another weather we realise or not say your picking up a new top, your going to pick the nicest one in turn hoping women will like it on a night out and hopefully talk to you, which leads to sex it's the way the world turns money, career , sex , social status. It's the extreme's that people take them to that will become addicitons.

MIN2511

I dont see an issue here.... You like women, you enjoy their company and you are driving two hrs to see a chick...
You are just like the next bloke... Cheer up! And enjoy ur date/shag

LouOB

Buy a tube of KY and get busy
Sounds you have alot of hormones to get through

But I wouldnt take too long as when you come up for air you might be posting on here again saying 'life is passing me by' stuff as you have not got anything worth holding onto.

Wagon

Blokes think about women all the time. I'm thinking about a woman right now. and another one...at the same time :pac:

Nothing can be good if it's an obsession though, this it's taking over your life already. Play rugby again. Keep going to college. Find something else to do. Don't waste you life chasing after the money to impress women. All your going to get out of that is girls that are impressed with money. And **** all else!

McGinty

Hi Op

From reading your post, it worries me that you want to hide and change so much about yourself to impress a woman, to be honest that is a recipe for disaster (I am a woman), the thing about most women is that they can spot fakeness a mile off, unless you want to attract a shallow woman, but judging from your statement that you like the look of women, their grace etc, it sounds like you are looking for something more than a surface relationship, that is your looking for something more intimate, and by you hiding most of your personality, intimacy cannot come through, believe me I have spent the best part of my adulthood pretending to be something I wasn't. I spent most of my years being what I thought others wanted me to be, and in my case to bag a man, so I can relate to what you are saying, only I am saying please be yourself, you will find a woman who accepts you as you are and she will love and adore you, because you are comfortable in your own skin, right now though you're not, and I think you need to look at that, I also sense from your post a desperate lonliness inside, again it is something I have felt even in relationships and that is something you have to fulfil yourself. Accept yourself as you are, don't waste upteem years being false, because it will come crashing in on you at some point, it happened to me with some very sad consequences.

Auldloon

If this is your biggest problem then you are a lucky guy.

dudara

Several points are coming across as I read your posts.

1. You are hiding your personality (you said it yourself) and adopting a veneer (tan, clothes) in order to attract women. Ultimately, that's not going to work. That kind of attitude will deter potentially interested women.

2. You possibly have an addiction. I'm not fully sure how the male brain works when it comes to women. I know men think about women approximately 95% of the time (it's amazing men get any work done), but most men still get on with the job in hand. It might be worth seeking some professional advice on addiction, as well as why you have issues with simply being you.


BTW: as a woman, I like strong men. And by strong, I mean power-lifting strong. However, I wouldn't touch a guy who went to the gym 6 times a week. That's just too much. Be realistic.

Four-Too

I totally get you here man....it's a natural instinct, maybe it is a lonliness within, I don't know, sometimes we feel so far from the world and are searching for something....uh...higher. I used to bloody stare at this doll everyday, ohhh those days down at the cafe just watching her clean up, and I'd keep looking into her eyes, thought she was the most beautiful girl I ever seen, staring is weird tho, my best advice is dont/try not let your cock control you )

Overheal

Im the opposite to the OP...? I mean like Marksie was saying thats exactly what I value. But I mean, rather than abandon other aspects of my life for some girl/woman I've always put off the dating thing until it was well and viable. You can't hope to attract someone if you don't have your life in some semblance of order. And you're not doing that when you're canceling your life insurance policy to prune your feathers.

AARRRGH

AKfortyjimbob wrote: »

Ive changed my life completely to maximise the amount of girls i can get together with.

Do you have low self esteem?

What kind of relationship do you have with your mother?

Serious questions.

Loveless

AKfortyjimbob wrote: »

Their beauty knocks the crap outta me, their bodies, voices, grace dancing, everything.

You should have a listen to Whipping Boy's song "A Natural".. although it sounds like it might interfere with your time looking for women


"You fall in love.
And is it possible to fall in love with every woman you meet?
You just stand there with your mouth open..
Thinking..wishing I never existed.

But this is my time and the girl I just met should be here
'Cause here was a woman who held me and did not copy my every move,
She just let it happen, never asked, but I answered
For I myself am heaven and hell"

AKfortyjimbob

Thanks for the replies. Had dinner with that girl on friday night. I would call the atmosphere on the date positively sterile. Strange considreing the fact we absolutely hit it off the night we met. Anyway got to pay for dinner and bring her to her door. Thats it. Shes been playing with me for a while now, and i was really depressed going home.
The next day i was fine, decided to forget about her.
Went out clubbing the next night, didnt have a clue what to start conversations with girls with all night, so again nothing happened.
Went home depressed as hell.
But now the old swagger is back and will remain all week till next weekends screwed up attempts to meet a nice girl.

"I also sense from your post a desperate lonliness inside," -Mcginty

Thats true.

Marksie

AKfortyjimbob wrote: »

"I also sense from your post a desperate lonliness inside," -Mcginty

Thats true.

You wont find that in others OP....is this in fact why you are doing all this..to assauge even temporarily the loneliness.
It will not work, you can have sex with as many as you like, but if this is your reason why, looking for somen else to fill something missing niside of you. It will be a fruitless task.

In the end you have to realise that all this is is inside yourself. You wont find it externally OP.

ShooterSF

2 points.

1) Dont hide your personality. I've sarky twisted personality and I tend to get more playful slaps in the face from women I over tease than sex but it's who I am and fuk it it's fun. You're gonna do better with women when you enjoy being you not believing every tv show that says wealth and muscles are the end all.
Trust me women may say they like it but if your witty persona can strike emotion inside them they'll (well the best ones) will soon drop those "needs".
Dont get me wrong staying in shape won't do you any harm

2) How the hell can you have interesting conversations or even share interests with a woman if all you do is work towards the goal of having a woman? You need other things in your life if for nothing else but to have something to talk about!!

AKfortyjimbob

"2) How the hell can you have interesting conversations or even share interests with a woman if all you do is work towards the goal of having a woman? You need other things in your life if for nothing else but to have something to talk about!! "

Your right theoreticly, but even before i changed i didnt really have much in common with girls, my only interests being sports and beating up other people >>>>>>>>>EDIT (ON THE RUGBY PITCH)<<<<<<<<<
I still read books to fill spare time, go to the cinema occasionally and used to be interested in politics, so theres a few themes i could talk about.
But yeah really i have nothing in common with girls, which isnt that great.

Good point im gonna start thinking bout that. Until now i just assumed i was ok at conversations, maybe i need to improve there too.

Im bad at small talk. I find it tiring. Maybe i should ask girls more questions and try to take and show more interest in their lives.

What are good topics to start with a girl in the club/ pub? Apart from the music being played there. Im crap at smalltalk with strangers...

AARRRGH

I think you need to stop basing your life around picking up women. It's unhealthy and is coming from a sad, lonely place inside you.

Was your comment beating up people serious or a joke?

MagicMarker

AKfortyjimbob wrote: »

Thanks for the replies. Had dinner with that girl on friday night. I would call the atmosphere on the date positively sterile. Strange considreing the fact we absolutely hit it off the night we met. Anyway got to pay for dinner and bring her to her door. Thats it. Shes been playing with me for a while now, and i was really depressed going home.
The next day i was fine, decided to forget about her.

She's been playing you because she wouldn't have sex with you?

Sorry man, that is pathetic.

tinkletoes

MagicMarker wrote: »

She's been playing you because she wouldn't have sex with you?

Sorry man, that is pathetic.

+1

Marksie

AARRRGH wrote: »

Was your comment beating up people serious or a joke?

Yes i am interested in that comment too.
I am going to lock the thread until i get an explanation

Reopened: twas about rugby

AKfortyjimbob

MagicMarker wrote: »

She's been playing you because she wouldn't have sex with you?

Sorry man, that is pathetic.

No, shes playing with me because she wont tell me wether she wants a relationship or not. Weve already slept together.
She keeps saying shes not sure wether she wants me or her Boyfriend ( on whom she cheated with me).
Anyway im finished with her, im not going to keep chasing her in the hope that she might deem me worthy of her.

Again, id be grateful if you guys can give me some pointers on how to make a girl laugh in a pub...mostly when i chat to girls i like i ask them about themselves cos i cant think of anything to say.Thats not very funny/spontaneous etc.

Please help this lonely muppet

Marksie

The corinthian: You are well aware of the charter on off topic posting.
That curiosity is not what this thread is about.
If you want to start your own thread do so.

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Teacherman

Speaking as a married man late 30s my advice is relax. Get some non female related hobbies because if you give off the air of being totally obsessed with women it scares them. Also keeps you from over focusing on the ladies which aint good mentally. Get laid as much as possible in your 20s because after you get married you're milking the one cow every night!;)

T Corolla

I am thirty years old and i feel the same as you do. I love the sex but you cannot beat passion. Passion is the fire of life. This girl you are meeting, if she has no passion forget her. You sound like an intellegent guy who is truly looking for love. You describe yourself like a raging stalion, all you may need is a gentle soft spoken lady who in my case will put out your fire each time by saying the simplest thing doing the simplest thing or by incrediable sex
Next time you are hunting for girls try looking for your opposite. This is what i do and it always works. By the way women like a muscular men but the man needs to fill out all those muscles more than physically if you know what i mean. Dont forget the passion

tbh

seems to me like you judge your self-worth on the number of women who want to sleep with you. Your problem there my friend is that if you don't respect yourself, you're going to end up hating any woman who does sleep with you and kick yourself into some endless cycle of self-loathing. Maybe more appropriate song lyrics would be "so you go and you stand on your own/and you leave on your own/and you go home/and you cry/and you want to die".

The only advice I could offer would be for you to try to be happy on your own and then if you find someone to share your life with, great. I advise travelling on your own to help you to do that.