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Have you ever had a relationship break?

  • 28-08-2008 1:50pm
    #1
    happypartygirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 70 ✭✭


    Have you ever gone on a relationship break with a partner you still really loved? Just because you were fighting so much and you needed space from each other? How long should the break last and can it benefit your relationship in the long run? You love each other too much to walk away yet you still need space to think. Should there be absolutely no contact or what should happen.


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  • #2
    Otacon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,721 ✭✭✭Otacon


    I had a break before. We had run into issues and needed time. The break was her idea.

    I didn't contact her until she contacted me. We reconciled and got back together. Two months later, I found out she started seeing someone during the break and was still meeting him when we got back together...

    So it works, but not in all cases.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Just adding for someone who has never been on a break before....

    Is it normally the other person wants to see another person or have ye gotten sick of each other, yet ye want to make it work??? This is a general Q, an not to the OP.


  • #4
    Rayven199
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 159 ✭✭Rayven199


    Never been on a break, but to be honest if we did decide to take a break from each other I would insist that we both remain faithful.

    Might be the best thing for you to take some time and space away from each other and see how things go.


  • #5
    Wagon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Wagon


    Just an excuse to play the field and keep someone as a backup plan. May as well just break up them completely.


  • #6
    Oryx
    Subscribers Posts: 19,425 ✭✭✭✭Oryx


    The break should last as long as it needs to. Unfortunately that can sometimes turn into forever, which is hard if your partner wants that and you dont. It can benefit your relationship but only if it makes you change, and tackle and overcome the problems that caused the break in the first place. Simply being apart is not the answer, absence and longing can make you blind to someones faults in fact. As long as you use the space to change rather than simply pine its beneficial.


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  • #7
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    happypartygirl wrote: »
    Have you ever gone on a relationship break with a partner you still really loved? Just because you were fighting so much and you needed space from each other? How long should the break last and can it benefit your relationship in the long run? You love each other too much to walk away yet you still need space to think. Should there be absolutely no contact or what should happen.

    Is this a personal issue to you?


  • #8
    beth-lou
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 729 ✭✭✭beth-lou


    Yep, well they were more like break ups for the reasons you have stated and we ended up getting back together within two weeks. We realised a lot in the time apart. Have been together 13 years this October, married with two kids now. So yes I have had two breaks and they were beneficial. If you have a strong enough connection you will work out what needs to be worked out. If not you will split and that is how it is meant to be.
    Hope this helps.


  • #9
    Ash-209
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21 ✭Ash-209


    ive been on a break from my bf for 5 months now. we never laid down any ground rules about seeing other people, first mistake! we have to work on prjects together in a professional capacity and since i moved to be closer to him last year we pretty much share the same group of friends. im finding the break helpful but we really should of done it properly and i think this is why its going on so long. if we had of had a time of no contact and set rules it would of been more helpful and easier on both parts!


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