Tired and Emotional

Fletch123

You know when you're having just one of those days, where you seem to be on the brink of tears?

What do you do to cheer yourself up? Or do you give in and have a cry to get it out of system?


I had a good morning today, did a really good job interview. Have a surgeon's appointment this evening and rang the hospital to get directions. I was told it's the private hospital, and then she said goodbye and hung up while I was mid sentence- tears flooded my eyes because some rude wagon hung up on me- how ridiculous!

I like to have a glass of wine and watch a good movie to take my mind off things. Or else go for a brisk walk!

WindSock

Fletch123

Windsock- have you seen the Blackbooks where Bill Bailey swallows the Little Book of Calm and becomes a Jesus-like figure of wisdom? Oh to be that calm...

Scarinae

Fletch123 wrote: »

Windsock- have you seen the Blackbooks where Bill Bailey swallows the Little Book of Calm and becomes a Jesus-like figure of wisdom? Oh to be that calm...

Hahaha that was hilarious... "You're a loose lily floating down an amber river..."

DancingDaisy

I tend to curl up, have a good cry and then find a favourite book or filml and curl up into myself. Coming up towards my period I find I cry at every little thing. OH doesn't text me back, I cry. Oh and chocolate also helps!!!

WindSock

Fletch123 wrote: »

Windsock- have you seen the Blackbooks where Bill Bailey swallows the Little Book of Calm and becomes a Jesus-like figure of wisdom? Oh to be that calm...

''Add a dab of lavender to milk. Leave town with an orange, and pretend you're laughing at it''

Fletch123

Just reminding me of that episode has cheered me up no end

Oryx

Find someone cuddly and hug them.

Or if theres no one cuddly around, eat chocolate and watch a funny chick flick.

And at least know that we all get them days and a good old weep does no one any harm.

*virtual fuzzy hug*

capedcrustacian

poor you, there is nothing worse than when you are in that mood and nobody, including yourself, understands why.

2 days ago my boss asked me how i was and i broke down crying, ended up sitting in his office for an hour blubbering about everything right down to my housemates not flushing the toilet aftyer themselves, the poor man will never ask me how i am again!!:(

jellie

just cry. i find i feel a million times better once ive gotten the crappy emotions out
(although if youre feeling like this in work or somewhere public crying might not be the best option..)

missmatty

Cry I guess (and chocs, wine etc)

I've been a bit miserable this week but I was in better form yesterday, or so I thought Until I went to see that film 'The Visitor' and ended up roaring my eyes out in the cinema, so mortified! Had a headache going home an' all

JaneyMc

I know that feeling well, has not happened to me for a while though.

One particularly bad morning, I was standing in the kitchen talking to my Mam while pouring out a bowl of cereal. I went to pour the milk inand only then did I realise I had actually poured my cereal into a glass rather than a bowl. That was enough to set me off, I was sobbing for a good ten minutes or so, my Mam thought there was something seriously wrong.

Best cure is a movie in bed with tea, then an early night.

Bijoux

I had a day like that today.

My cure?

Chocolate biscuits, cough sweets, lying on the couch and watch VH1's Nineties Marathon.

Ah nineties music cures everything

Oryx

These moods can be so irrational and random. Isnt it embarrassing when you break down in front of someone and faced with their shock and real concern, when they ask what on earth is wrong, you have to say 'I spilt my breakfast' or 'my sandwich fell apart'. Its just these things are the straw that breaks the camels back when you feel lousy, but you feel so daft trying to explain.

Drift

OK so here's the killer point. What happens when this occurs and the only one present is a man, not your OH, just a friend but not a very close one.

What do you expect him to do? Should I hug a girl who's crying because her sandwich fell apart? Should I go and get her a new sandwich? Should I not do anything? Should I leave?

I hate seeing girls crying and when it's something major a hug or a shoulder is the best thing to offer. But in the face of a sandwich or breakfast emergency I don't know whether it's appropriate to hug a girl who I know but not that well. Whats a guy to do like?!!!

xshazarx

Book a massage/nails/hair/tan....call ur girls and head out or have a girly nite in...best therapy ever!!

Toto Wolfcastle

I'm having one of those days. One of those weeks actually. The slightest thing will set me off.

I tend to go for a drive with the music blaring, or if I'm lazy I just grab a blanket and lie on the couch for a few hours.

The best cure is when someone who always cheers you up calls unexpectedly. That always makes me happy again.

I'm so glad I'm not alone with these crap days!

Oryx

Drift wrote: »

OK so here's the killer point. What happens when this occurs and the only one present is a man, not your OH, just a friend but not a very close one.

What do you expect him to do? Should I hug a girl who's crying because her sandwich fell apart? Should I go and get her a new sandwich? Should I not do anything? Should I leave?

I hate seeing girls crying and when it's something major a hug or a shoulder is the best thing to offer. But in the face of a sandwich or breakfast emergency I don't know whether it's appropriate to hug a girl who I know but not that well. Whats a guy to do like?!!!

Do not attempt to fix anything, at first anyway. Do not offer solutions. We want to be heard, thats mainly all you have to do. Listen and make soothing noises. After, when shes stopped crying and youve made her laugh and she looks hungry, offer to get her another sandwich.

Madame Razz

O, God, I hate when I get tired and emotional, i'm like somebody possessed.

I usually recover by crying a bit, then having a shower, something sugary, and dressing myself up a wee bit.

Had an ex who was very sweet when i got like this; tho I think mostly men are alarmed.....oestrogen scares them!!

Oryx

This thread is making me recall so many times when Ive sobbed through a face full of chocolate.

Drift

Oryx wrote: »

.... and make soothing noises.

Well that's alright then I'm well known for my pitch perfect imitation of the Lesser Short-toed Lark. Coooooey Cooo Coo.

Oryx

Drift wrote: »

Well that's alright then I'm well known for my pitch perfect imitation of the Lesser Short-toed Lark. Coooooey Cooo Coo.

Be careful taking the mick with emotional women. It may earn you a punch on the nose.;)

NextSteps

Oryx wrote: »

Do not attempt to fix anything, at first anyway. Do not offer solutions. We want to be heard, thats mainly all you have to do. Listen and make soothing noises. After, when shes stopped crying and youve made her laugh and she looks hungry, offer to get her another sandwich.

Wise words. Do not under any circumstances tell her 'it's not that bad' (it is!) or 'pull yourself together' (I can't!).

ladybirdirl

Oryx wrote: »

These moods can be so irrational and random. Isnt it embarrassing when you break down in front of someone and faced with their shock and real concern, when they ask what on earth is wrong, you have to say 'I spilt my breakfast' or 'my sandwich fell apart'. Its just these things are the straw that breaks the camels back when you feel lousy, but you feel so daft trying to explain.

Oh I can so agree... I had one of these days a while ago, tosser in work being smarmy, rotten bus journey into town, got to town,everything I tried on made me look the size of a small urban dwelling. Finally, met the other half, he goes to get me a drink in the cafe, brings back my favourite lemonade in the 1 flavour I don't like! Cue tears, sobbing,a sort of snorting(which was not attractive) & one horrified boyfriend:D


When I calmed down I explained it to him, he's still none the wiser...

Ladybird

Drift

LOL Oryx the way things are at the moment a punch in the nose from an emotional woman would count as SERIOUS action!

I'd never say "pull yourself together." I may not be an expert on the workings of women folk's minds but I'm not a blithering idiot! If I got a punch in the nose for cooing - I'd imagine if I told Oryx to pull herself together that Mr. Happy may be put beyond use for a substantial period of time.

Oryx

Drift wrote: »

LOL Oryx the way things are at the moment a punch in the nose from an emotional woman would count as SERIOUS action!

I'd never say "pull yourself together." I may not be an expert on the workings of women folk's minds but I'm not a blithering idiot! If I got a punch in the nose for cooing - I'd imagine if I told Oryx to pull herself together that Mr. Happy may be put beyond use for a substantial period of time.

Nah Im a pacifist, I never hit anyone in anger. (Just in cold, seething revenge.)

Anyway, I dont want to drag this off the op topic into gbh. Dealing with someone who is upset is always tricky territory. There are times when saying anything at all is wrong.

Ladybird, the mention of snorting made me laugh. So familiar.:)

Drift

Oryx wrote: »

Anyway, I dont want to drag this off the op topic into gbh. Dealing with someone who is upset is always tricky territory. There are times when saying anything at all is wrong.

Yeah sorry for going wildly off topic. I was genuinely interested in what's expected from me in such situations though. It's very hard to judge sometimes. Guess like everything else it depends on the woman in question.

sunnyside

Drift wrote: »

Yeah sorry for going wildly off topic. I was genuinely interested in what's expected from me in such situations though. It's very hard to judge sometimes. Guess like everything else it depends on the woman in question.

Chances are whatever you do or say no matter how nice you're being will be the wrong time. Sometimes if I'm upset and someone's really nice to me it makes me even more emotional.

I find Xanax useful on days like that:o

ChewChew

OP. . I know how ya feel. I've spent pretty much all last week in and out of the hospital and only today I got a phonecall from my consultant at 5.15 telling me he has everything sorted. phew. but last week I was a wreck. and Wanted to cry sssoooo many times and I did. And I also text my best friend (she knows who she is;)) and she cheered me up so much. She knows who to make me laugh!!

There were so many times I just wanted to talk to someone but you know yourself. . . opening up and just talking is easier said than done. . .

For for me the best thing I do on days like this is have a good old winge, have a shower, get into my jammies, and text my best buddy!!!

gcgirl

Freaking Hormones !! last sunday was very very hormonal we had a match and during and after i was a emotional wreak !! I got home asap and took out a bottle of mickie finns and drank it!!

Blush_01

I have been known to bawl my eyes out the whole way home after work on a semi-regular basis over the past few months.

I also bit my nails down to the quick.

cuckoo

ChewChew wrote: »

For for me the best thing I do on days like this is have a good old winge, have a shower, get into my jammies, and text my best buddy!!!

I sometimes have a cry in the shower - I find it calming, and afterwards when i put on my flannel pjs it's the calm after the storm, nice early night and then i'm back to normal again the next day.

This thread is very re-assuring, i'm glad i'm not the only one who has cried while scoffing chocolate, and who makes snorting sounds when crying sometimes!

ETA: the 'male form appreciation thread' here on the ladies lounge is also very good for lifting the spirits.....

Toto Wolfcastle

My thing while I was at college and feeling crap was a whole lasagne and a tub of Ben and Jerrys, anything with chocolate in it.

That always made me feel great.

Bijoux

janeybabe wrote: »

My thing while I was at college and feeling crap was a whole lasagne and a tub of Ben and Jerrys, anything with chocolate in it.

That always made me feel great.

+1

Ben n Jerry's Cookie Dough.....better than a bucket of nurofen!

ChewChew

Bijoux wrote: »

+1

Ben n Jerry's Cookie Dough.....better than a bucket of nurofen!

NO NO NO!!! Ben & Jerry's Caramel ChewChew

Clare Bear

Cuddles from my dogs or my boy....prefer the dog cuddles though and wrap up warm and watch Love Actually. Yes I am a loser.

Quality

TBH, the only thing that makes me feel better is going back to bed for a sleep...

Saving that, Having a moan down the phone to my oh, sis, mam & dad or best mate...

Hugs from the kids, Although I dont like them seeing me with teary eyes..

Hope your feeling better soon.. I hope this thread helped you get it out of your system today..


Oh and for Chew chew...

Hope everything is ok with hosp!!

Clare Bear

capedcrustacian wrote: »

poor you, there is nothing worse than when you are in that mood and nobody, including yourself, understands why.

2 days ago my boss asked me how i was and i broke down crying, ended up sitting in his office for an hour blubbering about everything right down to my housemates not flushing the toilet aftyer themselves, the poor man will never ask me how i am again!!:(

Aww no morto What a nice boss though.

Bijoux

ChewChew wrote: »

NO NO NO!!! Ben & Jerry's Caramel ChewChew

Feckit, any Ben n Jerrys will do!
Except Phish Food, thats too much chocolate, even for me!!!

Clare Bear wrote: »

Cuddles from my dogs or my boy....prefer the dog cuddles though and wrap up warm and watch Love Actually. Yes I am a loser.

Ah I love that film!
What really gets me is the song...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ash30RfaxkY

That music alone can send me into tears....I love the bit with Keira Knightley and her husbands best friend...when he calls to the door and tells her she's perfect.....oh and the bit where she looks at the wedding video he recorded...awwwww I really want to see it now!!!

Clare Bear

Bijoux wrote: »

Ah I love that film!
What really gets me is the song...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ash30RfaxkY

That music alone can send me into tears....I love the bit with Keira Knightley and her husbands best friend...when he calls to the door and tells her she's perfect.....oh and the bit where she looks at the wedding video he recorded...awwwww I really want to see it now!!!

My favourite scene of any movie I think. Ahhh love it

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5m2T5yfgsZ0

GirlInterrupted

I had one of those days recently, very stressful indeed. I went home and sobbed for a half hour. I would have liked the comforting presence of my boyfriend - and then I remembered I don't have a boyfriend .

Then I had another cry.

But everythings cured by chocolate in the end

Ginny

Drift wrote: »

OK so here's the killer point. What happens when this occurs and the only one present is a man, not your OH, just a friend but not a very close one.

What do you expect him to do? Should I hug a girl who's crying because her sandwich fell apart? Should I go and get her a new sandwich? Should I not do anything? Should I leave?

I hate seeing girls crying and when it's something major a hug or a shoulder is the best thing to offer. But in the face of a sandwich or breakfast emergency I don't know whether it's appropriate to hug a girl who I know but not that well. Whats a guy to do like?!!!

TBH everyones different, with myself I;d like a hug and make me laugh.


As for the tired and emotional, I usually go up to the airport and watch the planes taking off, or take a long hot shower and bawl into it, or take a long drive singing to Rocferry at the top of my lungs.

Trinity

Can someone give me a virtual hug I am having a ****ty week. I hate moaning and I darent venture into PI

My OH left Monday. I'm on my own with 2 kids now. I got a letter from my job the next day saying my salary is halved as i am out too long (since march) with my post natal depression.

I have my appointment coming up next week for my 6 monthly check for my precancer cells and its so horrible i hate it.

But worse than anything my foster puppy is sick and in the vets overnight and i dont know if hes going to make it. It happened so suddenly. I didnt cry over my relationship but i cant stop bawling over my puppy.

I would be forever grateful if you guys could send a hug my way

Clare Bear

Aww no ****BIGGEST HUGS EVER**** Trinity

Ginny

Jesus Trinity thats awful, poor love.
BIG HUG.

Madame Razz

multiple hugs to trinity....bejubus....it never rains but it pours...

I hope your puppy is ok;my cats having an op tomorro too!!


Anyway, HUGS HUGS HUGS!!!!

Clare Bear

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ls7ila3srzI

Seeing as we're talking about Josh Groban on another thread thought this was a good pick me up song when you're feeling down.

Trinity

Awh thanks you guys you are great.

I dunno what i would do without my make believe friend on da internet

Clare Bear

Trinity1 wrote: »

Awh thanks you guys you are great.

I dunno what i would do without my make believe friend on da internet

I'm sure there'll be plenty more that follow. Hope everything will be okay for you Trinity. You'll get through it x

Trinity

Clare Bear wrote: »

I'm sure there'll be plenty more that follow. Hope everything will be okay for you Trinity. You'll get through it x

Things always get better don't they though? I think so anyway. Just when you have given up, something happens and you think yes life is good. I dont know what i will do if anything happens to bebo (pup). I dont handle loss well

I'm sorry OP for hijacking your thread i just didnt wanna start me own


Hang in there little buddy. Mammy is rooting for you and your brother misses you too xxxxxxxxxx

gcgirl

Trinity1 wrote: »

Can someone give me a virtual hug I am having a ****ty week. I hate moaning and I darent venture into PI

My OH left Monday. I'm on my own with 2 kids now. I got a letter from my job the next day saying my salary is halved as i am out too long (since march) with my post natal depression.

I have my appointment coming up next week for my 6 monthly check for my precancer cells and its so horrible i hate it.

But worse than anything my foster puppy is sick and in the vets overnight and i dont know if hes going to make it. It happened so suddenly. I didnt cry over my relationship but i cant stop bawling over my puppy.

I would be forever grateful if you guys could send a hug my way

Things will get better and here is a few hugs for you !!