Wearing black to weddings?

MILF

Hi all!

So i'm going to a wedding tomorrow and I'm still at a loss on what to wear.

I have a lovely black satin dress but what's the etiquette on wearing black to weddings? Is it the same as wearing white to weddings i.e. frowned upon?

I hope not!....

nicolaonfire

I think it's fine.
Although anybody I see wearing black to a wedding have tried adding colour by wearing a different colour shoes and bag and hair accessories or even by adding a different colour high waisted belt if possible.
But yeah it should be fine. It's not white so it's all good

rusalka

I personally would never do it, and I know that in certain circles it is still frowned upon (particularly some of the oldies....), not so much that it reminds people of funerals anymore, but more so because it shows disregard for etiquette.

However, I've seen some lovely black dresses worn by others at evening weddings, although as Nicola says - they have always been augmented with bright accessories - cerise pink wraps, hats/headpieces, belts, shoes, bags, etc.

nicolaonfire

rusalka wrote: »

I personally would never do it, and I know that in certain circles it is still frowned upon (particularly some of the oldies....), not so much that it reminds people of funerals anymore, but more so because it shows disregard for etiquette.

However, I've seen some lovely black dresses worn by others at evening weddings, although as Nicola says - they have always been augmented with bright accessories - cerise pink wraps, hats/headpieces, belts, shoes, bags, etc.

Yeah and also if she doesn't have the different colour accessories at this late stage, she could always wear a different colour long coat or shawl for the church part to break up the black etc.
And for the reception and party she could take it off because at that stage it gets more casual as the evening guests arrive and stuff.

I'm sure it will all be fine

Kintarō Hattori

If you look good and it's comfortable I don't see what the problem is.

nicolaonfire

Yay best answer yet.
Wish I thought of that

MayMay

I knew people aren't supposed to wear white at weddings but I didn't realise the same for black. I've often seen women wear black dresses at weddings, if you like the dress wear it. White would be the only colour I wouldn't wear so you should be grand.

nicolaonfire

Yeah I think it's just when you think wedding outfit, black isn't something that comes to mind first! The nicest dresses are always black!

MILF

Oh jeez! Now i dont know what to do!

I tried putting a belt around it but it doesnt have loops for a belt and when i sit down the belt moves cos its a satin dress.

Also, would I get a wrap thing in Penneys or any of the shops in Pavilions?

von Neumann

Recently at my brother's wedding the bridemaids where wearing black dresses and they look aammaazing ! So if i wore dresses, I'd just go for it.

Cathmandooo

I wore a black dress to my brother's wedding, I don't see the problem.

Penneys would probably have some sort of wrap alright, get a wrap to match coloured shoes and maybe a bag too and you'll be fine. Even if you wear silver with it it'll still be beautiful. Don't mind what the ould ones say. Wear it with pride and confidence.

Pigletlover

I've been at a good few weddings this year and there was people wearing black at every one of them. I distinctly remember because they stood out as being gorgeous. I had heard of not wearing white, but didn't know black was frowned upon until recently, I say go for it. You can always accessorise with bright colours, but I don't even think it's necessary (sp?) tbh.

Redpunto

Im wearing black to a wedding and i have a blue pashmina to go over it. TK maxx in the pavillions might have something if you have no luck in pennys

nicolaonfire

Ya can't go wrong with black.
More likely to go wrong with every other colour.

kizzyr

rusalka wrote: »

I personally would never do it, and I know that in certain circles it is still frowned upon (particularly some of the oldies....), not so much that it reminds people of funerals anymore, but more so because it shows disregard for etiquette.

However, I've seen some lovely black dresses worn by others at evening weddings, although as Nicola says - they have always been augmented with bright accessories - cerise pink wraps, hats/headpieces, belts, shoes, bags, etc.

Bloody hell but guests really are expected to jump through hoops for a damn wedding aren't they? The white issue I can understand although I still think it silly that anyone would throw a strop is someone else other than the bride wore white on the day. But black? what is wrong with that? How on earth can anyone have any kind of justified claim against black?
I went to a wedding last year and wore a green dress. When I was in the toilets afterward I heard two old women bitching about the fact that I was wearing green. Apparently its bad luck for the bride to have someone wear green in the church when she gets married:rolleyes: They nearly choked on their dentures when I walked out of the cubicle.

cacamilis

was at a wedding last weekend and a good few were wearing black! its a classy colour an you cant go wrong! a coloured shawl woud brighten it up try tie rack!

Alicat

LMAO @ this thread.

Was at two weddings this weekend. Wore black at the first one and green at the second one!

Heathen that I am! :pac:

missmatty

Last wedding i was at, I wore black trousers, black shrug, green top and green shoes :pac: Sounds awful but it was a lovely teal green. Also often wear black, that's a load of crap about 'etiquette'. As long as it's not white I wouldn't give a toss, isn't it costing me a fortune for every wedding i go to?

Dolbert

Erm, is it bad etiquette to wear green to a wedding? Never heard that before

kizzyr

Dolorous wrote: »

Erm, is it bad etiquette to wear green to a wedding? Never heard that before

Yes it was my first time to hear it too. Apparently the green is a heathen colour and so linked to bad luck for the bride.:rolleyes: Absolute rubbish.

Posy

Alicat wrote: »

Was at two weddings this weekend. Wore black at the first one and green at the second one!

That's it, you're all burning in hell for this! I think the green/black dresses things are just auld superstition- getting married on a Friday or Saturday used to be frowned upon because it's unlucky apparently, but nobody takes any notice any more.
If you like the dress, wear it. It's better than panic buying some red/blue yoke that you hate.

dudara

A lot depends on the dress in question. As long as it's not too sombre, then black would be fine. Accessories should help no end!

Dolbert

My outfit for an impending wedding is green and black :eek: Not that I'll be changing it mind, as it is only gorgeous!

Pigletlover

I was at a wedding on Saturday (wore a navy dress with black lace :eek:), at the end of the mass an old lady tapped me on the shoulder to say by (black) wrap was lovely and how it was a pity that more of the women weren't wearing them, all the bare shoulders in the church looked terrible. If you were to follow all that etiquette you'd never find a suitable outfit to wear.

ncmc

Absolutely wear the black dress! At every wedding I have been to recently , a good portion of the women have been wearing black and I've seen quite a few bridesmaids wear black too. The only reason people don't approve of women wearing white is because it upstages the bride. Also, I think that only applies to white dresses, I've seen people wearing white linen suits to weddings and no remarks passed.

Wear what you are comfortable with, don't go mad trying to add colourful accesories that are going to feel awkward with. A black dress is a timeless classic, no one is going to pass any remarks only to say how gorgeous you look!

piscean

I plan to wear black to my friends wedding in October - have nice cerise shoes to add a bit of colour - I was bridesmaid last month and we all wore black dresses which looked lovely.
Don't think wearing black is a big deal nowadays