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I miss my ex

  • 23-08-2008 2:42am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I miss my ex girlfriend, but i am seeing someone and living with them. But the ex also has a boyfriend(sort of). I think of her everyday, and miss the life I had. I hate my life now, and wish i could turn back the clock.


Comments

  • #2
    Princess Consuela Bananahammock
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,754 ✭✭✭✭Princess Consuela Bananahammock


    Not really fair on the person you're with now.

    While it's only natural to miss someone you break up with, you have to be careful never to act on such feelings. The ex may have moved on and be happy.

    Why did you break up with her?

    Everything I don't like is either woke or fascist - possibly both - pick one.



  • #3
    Riamfada
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,246 ✭✭✭✭Riamfada


    It dosnt matter who its fair on and who it isnt fair on. He cant help that. How long have you been broken up. Meet with her and see if the feelings are still there on both sides and make a decision between you.


  • #4
    G86
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,660 ✭✭✭G86


    I don't mean to be harsh here, but give a seconds thought to the girl you're with now, this isn't fair to her at all. The fact that you're even having these thoughts shows that you aren't ready to be in a new relationship, and you'll only end up messing her about, no matter how good your intentions.

    Sort your situation with her out first, then deal with your feelings for your ex.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    If I put everyone in front of myself, I would never be happy. You can only make everyone else happy to a certain extent.

    If I was happy in this relationship, I wouldnt have these feelings.


  • #6
    Trinity
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,662 ✭✭✭Trinity


    i miss her wrote: »
    If I put everyone in front of myself, I would never be happy. You can only make everyone else happy to a certain extent.

    If I was happy in this relationship, I wouldnt have these feelings.

    If you are not happy then for your own sake and that of your partner then either try to sort it or leave.

    you cant help missing your ex, but maybe you are putting her up on a pedestal because you are unhappy. Its unfair to everyone to spend your life comparing and wishing. You have to move on or move out.

    Dont put it all down to your ex, she cant make you happy, you can only make yoursefl happy. is it i want what i cant have or the grass is always greener on the other side.

    Either way you owe it to yourself and partner to find the cause of your unhappiness and address it.


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  • #7
    G86
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,660 ✭✭✭G86


    i miss her wrote: »

    If I was happy in this relationship, I wouldnt have these feelings.

    Exactly, so sort it out. Talk to your current girlfriend and either fix things or let it go and move on. Your feelings for your ex may be real, or they may be just an excuse for you to get out of your current relationship. If you hook up with your ex, that gives tou a reason to get out. But thats not the way to do it, people - most of all your girlfriend - will get hurt, and thats not fair.


  • #8
    pookie82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,217 ✭✭✭pookie82


    Sounds to me like you're unhappy and reminiscing. The only thing that could be keeping you in your current relationship is the thought that said ex is "kind of" in another relationship and may not reciprocate your feelings. So until you find that out you're hanging on to your current one? If so, that's unfair on so many levels. No one deserves to be second best. Do the decent thing and break up with her. Then sort out your ex.


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