Can't forgive sluts

coverband

I'm sorry but I just can't. I feel I must marry a virgin. Where do I turn in the world which is the way it is?

sinnerboy

yourself . you must be a virgin

Earthhorse

You can't forgive them because they haven't done anything wrong. If you wish to marry a virgin I'm sure there are plenty of people who share that outlook, though maybe not here in Ireland. I don't understand the last part of your post.

coverband

Well no but I believe there is a double standard. Don't tell me double standards are nonsense. If they were drink would be sold to minors (i.e. this is an ageist double standard)

Phlann

What do you mean by 'sluts'?

Saying you want to marry a virgin kinda makes it sound like you think every sexually active girl is a slut...

The Bollox

coverband wrote: »

Where do I turn in the world which is the way it is?

around; the door is that-a-way

coverband

I kinda do think every s active girl outside marriage is a slut

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

coverband wrote: »

I'm sorry but I just can't. I feel I must marry a virgin. Where do I turn in the world which is the way it is?

I'm sorry, but are you of the opinion that every woman is either a slut or a virgin...?

Your chances of finding a virgin are slim, so my advice is to concentrate on finding a girl who's probaby had sex within a relationship(s) but doesn't give it easily. Your options should widen. Oh, and personality/common interests, maybe love helps too.

Curlypinkie

Hmmm, k, so why this hymen fascination... me don't get?

coverband

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

I'm sorry, but are you of the opinion that every woman is either a slut or a virgin...?

I couldn't have put it better myself!?

coverband

Curlypinkie wrote: »

Hmmm, k, so why this hymen fascination... me don't get?

Its not the hymen. To me its a measure of character. I don't believe women want sex and can't forgive those that fool themselves that these 2 or so year relationships will last and have s

LegacyUser

coverband wrote: »

I feel I must marry a virgin.

coverband wrote: »

I kinda do think every s active girl outside marriage is a slut

Prepare to be lonely.

Earthhorse

I would say the real problem here is your perception.

Are you looking for advice on that or on where you can meet girls who are virgins?

coverband

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

concentrate on finding a girl who's probaby had sex within a relationship(s)

To me thats worse. Theres been more stabs. Shes more "experienced"

coverband

Earthhorse wrote: »

I would say the real problem here is your perception.

Are you looking for advice on that or on where you can meet girls who are virgins?

I'd happily take either!

Phlann

How was your relationship with your mother?

Was she distant?

Jack B. Badd

coverband wrote: »

Where do I turn in the world which is the way it is?

To Jesus, presumably...

coverband

I dunno Phlann. Very strict?

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

coverband wrote: »

To me thats worse. Theres been more stabs. Shes more "experienced"

It's more realistic.

Women. Have. Sex. Men. Have. Sex.

No clearer way of putting it.

Someone asked a very good question though: are YOU a virgin? *adds "if it's not a personal question?" in Eric Idle voice*

Handsome Bob

Oh look, the ****-stirrers strike again in PI.:rolleyes: I'm sorry mate but I can't take you seriously because of your manner of posting. Maybe if you explained your outlook on the situation instead of people trying to get it out of you post by post we'll have a better understanding.

MIN2511

OP, i don't understand your point...
1. No to virgins?
2. Are you a virgin?
3. What is wrong with an sexually active woman?
4. Is there more that you are not telling us?
5. How old are you?
6. What happened to instigate this?

Phlann

You should read up on the Madonna/whore complex. It's the notion that all women can only be either mothers (ie pure, wholesome and may only have sex for the purpose of procreation) or whores (anything else).

Usually found in men who had poor relationships with their mothers (usually cold or uncaring).

I'm not taking the piss here or anything, just your first post sounds like a pretty classic case...

coverband

Phlann that sounds great will investigate thanks

Phlann

No worries, man. Good luck with it

Earthhorse

coverband wrote: »

I'd happily take either!

Well, if you really want to change your perception of this I think you have to become more concious of your thoughts about these girls when they occur.

If a girl is telling you about her sexual adventures, even a girl you have no interest in, and you find yourself thinking "slut" or "whore" or whatever pay attention to that. Become aware of that innner voice and how judgemental it is. That's all you have to do for the most part. Don't think about and try to analyse why you are thinking this way; you will find reasons to justify your position if you want.

Instead, focus on the feeling that comes with the thought. Is it a good one? I'll bet it's not. It's never good to think ill of others, especially when we know, deep down, they've done nothing wrong. You don't want that feeling and the best way to get rid of it is to be aware of that inner voice and not let it delve into a spiel, not let it get us worked up about something we don't really care about.

Extinguish it by focusing fully on the person as they are before you now, not as they were in the past. Good luck.

coverband

Thankyou EarthHorse

The Sweeper

coverband wrote: »

I don't believe women want sex

Well, won't that make you a rapist on your wedding night then?

Wibbs

coverband banned. Come back when read the charter and you figure things out in general

Handsome Bob

I always call correctly on the ****-stirrers in PI.:pac:

Wibbs

I think this has well run it's course. Closed.