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Bf moves out....

  • 15-08-2008 10:50pm
    #1
    HouseHippo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,332 ✭✭✭


    My bf moved into his first flat today.
    Will this change are relationship,and in what way.(I'm not ready to move in yet)


Comments

  • #2
    Go-Go-Gadget
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 202 ✭✭Go-Go-Gadget


    depends, will you be spending the night sometimes? it can be an excellent way to judge if you could work as a couple later on in life co existing in your own enviornment even for short periods.


  • #3
    HouseHippo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,332 ✭✭✭HouseHippo


    Go-Go-Gadget wrote: »
    depends, will you be spending the night sometimes? it can be an excellent way to judge if you could work as a couple later on in life co existing in your own enviornment even for short periods.
    I will indeed. Tomorrow night after work infact


  • #4
    Go-Go-Gadget
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 202 ✭✭Go-Go-Gadget


    HouseHippo wrote: »
    I will indeed. Tomorrow night after work infact


    take it as a chance to grow and enjoy it :)


  • #5
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Can't see how this is a PI tbh...

    If it does change your relationship then it can only be in a beneficial way.


  • #6
    Catari Jaguar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,649 ✭✭✭Catari Jaguar


    Oh that's great news! It will be so beneficial, especially for you to get away from those Grandparents of yours for a while!

    It won't change anything. Make it clear that you aren't ready to move in, in case he starts hinting at it.

    And it's going to be great if down the line you are ready to move in because he won't be a Mama's boy. He'll know (hopefully) how to take care of himself.

    Just, when you're there remember it is HIS place. So keep opinions and /or nagging to yourself. Bring your own food/ booze so you don't scab off him and tidy up after yourself.

    Also, you have to study for your LC this year right? His place might end up as a party house, go easy, studying comes first!!

    Enjoy the freedom!


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  • #7
    ShawnRaven
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,602 ✭✭✭✭ShawnRaven


    It can go either way really, although my own experience was positive. I rented an apartment for a year a few years back and herself used to come over and stay a few days a week. It was a good feeling out process as to if the two of us could actually live together without killing each other. And we were only about six months into the relationship at the time as well.

    We're now nearly six years into the relationship, and since then we've bought and moved into our own place (as of nearly two years ago) and are engaged. :)

    So best of luck.
    VR!


  • #8
    davyjose
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,287 ✭✭✭davyjose


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    Can't see how this is a PI tbh...
    What's confusing, that it's not personal, or it's not an issue?

    OP, sometimes change can be unsettling, but if it does have any negative effects on the relationship, then you're probably better off out of it anyway.

    I'm assuming he's moved out of a shared home/his parent's, and not out of your place?


  • #9
    HouseHippo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,332 ✭✭✭HouseHippo


    davyjose wrote: »
    What's confusing, that it's not personal, or it's not an issue?

    OP, sometimes change can be unsettling, but if it does have any negative effects on the relationship, then you're probably better off out of it anyway.

    I'm assuming he's moved out of a shared home/his parent's, and not out of your place?
    Yeah out of his parents...It is personal and is an issue to me. Im sorry if you dont find it important but I do


  • #10
    HouseHippo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,332 ✭✭✭HouseHippo


    Lil Kitten wrote: »
    Oh that's great news! It will be so beneficial, especially for you to get away from those Grandparents of yours for a while!

    It won't change anything. Make it clear that you aren't ready to move in, in case he starts hinting at it.

    And it's going to be great if down the line you are ready to move in because he won't be a Mama's boy. He'll know (hopefully) how to take care of himself.

    Just, when you're there remember it is HIS place. So keep opinions and /or nagging to yourself. Bring your own food/ booze so you don't scab off him and tidy up after yourself.

    Also, you have to study for your LC this year right? His place might end up as a party house, go easy, studying comes first!!

    Enjoy the freedom!
    That's why i'm not moving in.He is finished college and working etc. (he only did one year b4 you think he's an aul fella :P

    I could move in but he cant afford both our rents and i'm not ready to get a job because school comes first


  • #11
    jellie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,503 ✭✭✭✭jellie


    by worrying about it youre making it an issue when it really shouldnt be.

    its a GOOD thing. youll have more privacy, more space. enjoy it :)


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