Best man speech

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Could someone please give me the bones of a best man speech.

What order it goes in, etc etc.

The wedding is on Saturday.

sweetie

Des wrote: »

Could someone please give me the bones of a best man speech.

What order it goes in, etc etc.

The wedding is on Saturday.

jaysus, leaving it a bit late there, Des :eek:
I'm best man for my mate on 30th august and I haven't started yet and
feeling the pressure. Plus, he gave a bloody good one for me in june.
I'd be interested in any advice also!

I know a lot of people have the speeches before the meal. Means it out of the way and the wedding party can relax a bit.

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Yeah, I know

I have a few stories and stuff.

What I want to know is the basic structure.

What order do I introduce the other speakers.

FoBride
FoGroom
Groom
Me

Is that right?

There is one hitch though. There is no FoGroom, so one of my uncles is doing the talking on his behalf.

So

"I'd like to ask John (
FoBride), to say a few words on behalf of the Smith family"

HIS SPEECH

Thanks John blahdy blah

"I'd like to ask Paul (stand in) to say a few words on behalf of ?? (he's NOT the brother of the FoGroom, he's the brother of the MoGroom).

That's my problem.

Also, where do I mention the FoGroom? Start of the speech? can I mention him in a story later on in the speech?

Mad Dog

Just introduce him as the grooms uncle and keep the whole speech as light hearted as possible.

By all means mention the grooms father and maybe a small story of how he would have loved to have his father there but be prepared with the Kleenex.

And good luck with it, I have done it for 2 of my brothers and while you feel very nervous now once you start it will all just come out. Be prepared to stray a little from what you prepared as this happens with the nerves and you'll be fine.

kayos

Mad Dog wrote: »

By all means mention the grooms father and maybe a small story of how he would have loved to have his father there but be prepared with the Kleenex.

Not without asking the groom/bride. Some people while missing a parent etc do not want to bring up such things. It will bring the tears and its ment to be a happy occassion. I dont think any bride would be happy with you for making her cry and her makeup going every where!

While there is the default speach order sometimes couples will want to do it different. I've seen chief bridesmaid, a grooms man and the bride all giving speeches. You really need to talk to the couple...

oh well , okay

Order is
FoBride
FoGroom
Groom
Bestman , if there's a groomsman he reads out any cards etc before your speech IIRC .

I'd be inclined to say it's the Grooms job to mention his father if he wants to , not wanting to sound harsh but in your position I wouldn't do it unless I was asked to .

You'll be expected to mention the lovely bridesmaids and after that just say what ya want ( within reason ) , done it a couple of times and the nerves leave ya once ya get started .