how early should u book

bstar

hey,

just talking with my OH about getting engaged and he wants to book the hotel now before he proposes to give us longer to pay it off has anyone heard of ppl doing this?

bored and tired

ya its common enough, girl at work had hotel, band, dj, wedding dress, shoes i mean everything booked, announced they were engaged 4 months before the big day, IN her case it was to do with very disapproving interfering MILTB, i asked how her mam took it, being excluded and all and she said she was so happy she was getting married after all the years nagging that she was over the moon rather than upset
but lots of couples do it so that they can get the band they want 3 years down the road, book hotels at next year prices etc.

barbiegirl

We had our place booked in July, and only got engaged in September :-) So it's quite normal. I know loads of people who've done it that way.

Malari

barbiegirl wrote: »

We had our place booked in July, and only got engaged in September :-) So it's quite normal. I know loads of people who've done it that way.

So...what is the point when you are engaged? When you announce it, rather than when you decide within a couple that you are going to get married??

That's like saying you're only pregnant when you tell people, isn't it??

seamus

I would have said that picking a date before declaring yourself engaged is a bit odd - if you've picked a date, you're engaged, regardless of whether the whoel rigamarole has been gone through. But more people are doing that nowadays.

My cousin had absolutely everything arranged - hotel and church booked, everything organised. Then they went for a walk up a mountain and he "proposed". It was odd alright, but if that's what they wanted to do...

NextSteps

But what if he proposes and you say no?

bstar

i think if ur planning the wedding already its a pretty good indictation that ur gonna say yes.

its really like being unofficially engaged.

admittedly i do always joke to my oh that im gonna say no when he eventually asks but he knows ill say yes

barbiegirl

We had decided a couple of years ago that we were with one another for ever. Marriage wasn't really mentioned, he wasn't sure and for me it wasn't a deal breaker. Then we decided we wanted kids, marriage came up again. We decided that maybe getting married first would be our preference, we were a bit older than when first talked about and also more confident with one another. We started looking and found our dream place, it was getting booked up for our timeframe so we booked it.
Maybe we were engaged then, but for us it was when we announced it, and were ready to deal with the madness that ensues after. It wasn't the most romantic way to do it but it was us :-) We have our dream place, the dates we want and most importantly each other. Different folks different strokes.:D

Seoid

bstar wrote: »

its really like being unofficially engaged.

Yep!

If you've been together for a long time then it makes sense to pick a date before you get officially engaged. You're only getting engaged so you can get married - otherwise nothing would change except that you've got a sparkly new ring...
My fiance-to-be and I have already picked a date and secretly contacted the church and venue to make sure that our date was still available. The next step is to get the ring and then to make the announcement....
I like the idea of having the date secured when we make the announcement. It seems to make it more official to me (or maybe I just want to pin him down!)