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Calling EX out of the blue

  • 31-07-2008 3:41pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I had a strange dream about an ex last night that was quite vivid and detailed and completely out of the blue. I haven't spoken to her in about 6 years or so and I've since moved abroad.

    She was one of my first serious girlfriends and we were together for about 3 years or so. I still have a soft spot for her but I'm currently in a long term relationship.

    All day I've been thinking about her, the dream and trying to find if she has a Bebo page or anything online about her , but nothing. I nearly got a bit teary eyed early thinking about her and wondering if shes ok.

    I know her home phone number but would it seem crazy just to call her out of the blue after 6 years ??


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  • #2
    Mr. Incognito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    ex's are ex's for a reason. it was just a dream- I dream about falling but it doesn't mean I wake up and go looking for a cliff.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I had that on two occasions in the last two years. one of them was my first love. i emailed she was delighted to hear from me. we caught up and are great friends, we've met up once in taht two years and met each others respective families.

    the other one I had deamt of before and tried the google/facebook/bebo route and found nothing. few months ago i had a dream again. this time when i looked i found her blog. turns out she's married and just had her first child. So i just sent her an email congratulating her and wishing her well. she never answered and i don't care.


  • #4
    Tragedy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,056 ✭✭✭Tragedy


    Dont call her until you leave your LTR.


  • #5
    faceman
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    As someone who has strong vivid dreams e dry night I can assure you all dreams are strange in a matter of speaking. Only the other night I had a full blown conversation with my dead grandfather, something I never did when he was alive as I was too young. Did I ring my granny when I woke up? Of course not, it was just a dream

    its quite common to have a sexual or relationship orientated dream of a co worker or friend and feel a 'bond' the day you wake upit passes aftera day or 2.

    Chances are on a symbolic level your ex represented something of your past in the dream and im willing to bet my annual salary thats it not a premonition to give her a call!


  • #6
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    If you were single I'd say give it a blast, as exes do sometimes get going again, but you're not, so I wouldn't.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



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  • #7
    mookishboy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 276 ✭✭mookishboy


    Bloody Hell we only live once !
    Give her a call, She how she is and that will be that
    Live life folks don't fear every one you used to see or know. Tip toeing around your past worried about what they will think? Thats a bit silly tbh.

    some of the responses i have seen on similar posts = very confused repressed and cold hearted people.


  • #8
    dade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,178 ✭✭✭dade


    give her a call or you could end up like this guy


  • #9
    dr.bollocko
    Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 35,945 Mod ✭✭✭✭dr.bollocko


    dade wrote: »
    give her a call or you could end up like this guy

    Haha.
    That guy made his own bed.

    You already have a girlfriend.

    FFS.

    What innocent motive do you have for contacting this girl you used to have sex with while in the middle of a relationship with someone else?


  • #10
    faceman
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Arts Moderators, Entertainment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 16,663 CMod ✭✭✭✭faceman


    mookishboy wrote: »
    Bloody Hell we only live once !
    Give her a call, She how she is and that will be that
    Live life folks don't fear every one you used to see or know. Tip toeing around your past worried about what they will think? Thats a bit silly tbh.

    some of the responses i have seen on similar posts = very confused repressed and cold hearted people.

    The guy is in a long term relationship. Im sure his current partner wouldnt mind him getting in touch with his ex because of his feelings after a dream.

    Its not about tip toeing around your past at all. Its about learning and moving on. If he was single it could be a different story.


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