help - i'm a first time mum - did something stupid

LegacyUser

I'm a first time mum to an 8 month old baby.

my baby has been suffering from a cold for a few days, and also had teething problems at the moment.

I did something very stupid and silly and clumsy three days ago and now i'm sick with sorry and need help and advice please.

three days ago, as i was picking up my baby i bumped his head of the coffee table. He cried for about 30 mins, then seemed fine as from his cold and his gums.

Now i'm worried that i might have hurt him or that his head is bleeding inside because yesterday he vomited. Would this be to do with his cold, or the bump he received.

I've checked his head since it happened and theres no bump, or lump, or bruise. he had a temperature with the cold but theres no temp today. hes also in brillant form today.

My mam is saying that hes fine and that theres nothing wrong. help

dudara

You've been a mother for 8 months by now. You must surely know that accidents and bumps will happen, despite your best efforts. Babies are amazingly resilient for such delicate creatures.

If you are really concerned about your child, then take him to your GP for a check up.

kraggy

Nobody on here is going to be able to help you.

Take your baby to your GP or out of hours GP service immediately.

leesmom

congrats on becoming a mummy.
my lil man is 15months now and when he was about 9months old he fell and hit his head really hard against the side of the door,he had a huge bump on his head,i was sooo worried,i cryed my eyes out and we headed off to crumlin childrens hospital,they checked him out and said there was nothing wrong and that he'd be fine but gave us a list of things to watch out for.
he must have bumped his head about a thousand times since and had soo many bruises on his head,he always manages to have one somewhere from general falling and tumbleing,babies just do and trust me you will learn this as you go along.babies are so strong , the absolute thud when my lil man hits his head sometimes and i sit there bracing myself for hours of crying and half the time he just get up without flinching and runs off and continues doing what hes doing.
try not to worry,im sure your baby is fine;)

pookie82

Although you probably have nothing to worry about, and babies are pretty resiliant, vomiting can be a sign of concussion. So I would bring your baby to the GP or into A&E for an x-ray to be on the safe side. It's not your fault - babies get bumped off things all the time, in or out of arms, believe me! No one's going to think you're a bad mother. I'm sure the baby is fine but you should play it safe and check it out anyway.

LegacyUser

Thanks for your words of encouragement.

My mam says he fine. He been in brillant form today. Would he be in such good form being happy if i hurt him badly.

wonder_woman

I would bring your baby to the doc as soon as you can. Dont feel guilty that he bumped his head. Babies do this all the time and most of the time they are fine. Did he fall asleep shortly afterwards would be a concern if it was me. If its been a few days its possible that the vomitting is not related but I would definitely rather feel silly sitting in the doctors surgery worrying over nothing rather than sit at home worrying or regretting that u didnt bring him to the doctor to be checked out.

I guarantee you the doctor will not think you are any less of a mother for bumping his head! As I say, it happens all the time.
Best of luck. Hope the little one's fine! I'm sure he will be:)

jeepers101

Me and my gf dropped our baby on the floor while swinging her on a blanket when she was 4 months old. It was a pretty bad fall, she did the same, cried for half an hour, had a huuuuuge lump on her head that lasted about four weeks. We brought her to get x-rayed and the nurses were saying to be prepared for bad news, the lump was so big. Turned out she was fine. I'd say you have nothing to worry about but a trip to the hospital sounds in order, to but your mind at ease more than anything else.

madser

I think its very unlikely that you did your baby any harm but if your really worried bring him to the doc to be sure but try not to beat yourself up about it:)

pookie82

Not to alarm you OP but for future reference my younger brother took a bad topple when he was little and there was no lump or bump either. he was obviously distressed though and it was a high fall onto cement so we got him checked out. Turns out the lump had gone IN rather than out, so was invisible/impossible to feel to us, but had swelled into his head.

Now obviously a light bang won't need an x-ray but it's worth keeping in mind that a bump doesn't have to be visible to be there.

Kazobel

I wouldn't be to worried about it OP, babies bodies are made to deal with these kind of imacts (don't forget we all evolved from the trees and I'm sure there was one or two little tumbles before Mommas and Papas opened shop ) if you're really worried go see your GP but if I was you I'd listen to your mum, she's probably banged your head once or twice in your upbringing and that hasn't had any long lasting effects has it?

Ian Beale

First off calm down you'll make yourself sick if you keep stressing yourself!Don't worry that your baby threw up the little fellow is only 8 months old with a cold after all.If your really worried bring him to your doctor but by the sound of things theres not a bother on him To answer your question about whether or not the bump/cold caused the vomiting,highly unlikely it was anything to do with the bump,could easily be part of the cold or something he ate.It could have been anything!
By the sounds of things your doing great as it is, just those 1st time nerves also to distract him from the teething buy him a tickle me elmo there hilarious

Overheal

Pfft I cant remember the amount of times I must have been head-trauma'd as a child. there was one amazing incident i cant personally recall where a glass portrait fell off the wall and earned me a load of stitches. And look I turned out ok!

You have to remember we evolved from monkeys (unless youre a creationist) babies are designed to have death grips for hanging onto trees and are built to handle the odd bump.

Im sure the little babe is fine. Cant fathom how you can relate head trauma to vomiting anyway. anyone?

Miss Fluff

Overheal wrote: »

Cant fathom how you can relate head trauma to vomiting anyway. anyone?

http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/common/brain/head/084.html

I'm sure the tot is fine OP but I would err on the side of caution anyway and bring the little guy to see your GP.

useful_contacts

im 23- have no kids BUT i do have 5 sisters all with kids

My 3 year old niece fell down the stairs 3 weeks ago- she was like a ragdoll when she slapped off the wooden floor at the end... my sister was screaming, we thought she was dead with the wallop she got at the end!

The next day NOT A PICK ON HER!!No bruise or nothing, doc said a half hour after she fell she was fine ...was just a shock ... 2 hours later she was toddling into the kitchen looking for taytos.

Kids are so resiliant, i know ive no kids so i cant talk but i take my sisters 6 and 3 year girls 5 days a week when shes working , and its scary the amount of falls and bumps they get

My other sisters 14 month old fell in her garden a week ago and slapped her head off the concerate, after seeing the doc all she had was a big bump and that was it, doc said she was fine, and she was in my house the next day raiding my presses for cookies(as usual ha ha):)

To summerise- i know your a first time mum and ive no kids, but i have been around so many kids the last few years so i know a bump is just a bump most of the time, the fact is your little ones teething too so that couldnt have helped.

TBH i know when i have my kids (no matter how many times my sisters kids fall) the SECOND my baby falls ill be straight to the doc, thats just a 1st time mothers thing as ALL my sisters have told me

Good luck

jimmycrackcorm

Don't worry OP, that's the first of many accidents to come. Here's a selection from my list so far:

*Got into the press and started drinking some cleaning fluid ( thankfully harmless).
*Herself banged the car boot door down on his head - head still works.
*Ran straight into a swing in the playground, swinging, did a somersault, lots of blood on head, casualty for 8 hours - thankfully ok.
* Stayed overnight at friends whose wife was babysitting him, as we came back from the pub, we hear strange crying and discoverd my 3 year old out on the road wandering about ( the front door was left unlocked).

useful_contacts

jimmycrackcorm wrote: »

Don't worry OP, that's the first of many accidents to come. Here's a selection from my list so far:

*Got into the press and started drinking some cleaning fluid ( thankfully harmless).
*Herself banged the car boot door down on his head - head still works.
*Ran straight into a swing in the playground, swinging, did a somersault, lots of blood on head, casualty for 8 hours - thankfully ok.
* Stayed overnight at friends whose wife was babysitting him, as we came back from the pub, we hear strange crying and discoverd my 3 year old out on the road wandering about ( the front door was left unlocked).

omfg!!!!!!!!!!

FOR THE RECORD what was ur friend doing that she was not watching the child!

the roof bit i cant understand! oh im never having kids:(:(:(

MissHoneyBun

OP chances are your baby is fine. But thats what it is a chance, a likelihood. Unless you get your baby looked at by your GP you cant know for sure. I know posters are outlining many instances where small babies hurt themselves temporarily and are usually fine. However, it's probably not wise to make assumptions regarding your baby's health based on other people's anecdotes. For your own peace of mind, I think you should take your child to the doctor

StormWarrior

My cousin's baby is 10 months old, and for most of his life he has been banging his head. My cousin and sister have both dropped him on the floor and he landed on his head both times. Once he fell off a table and landed on his head. There doesn't seem to be any harm done, babies probably bang their heads all the time.

Why not get him checked out just to put your mind at rest?

Nevyn

clumsy.mam accidents happen, but in order to be sure go to the dr and hve you child checked out.