Will I break up?

LegacyUser

I've been going out with a girl for nearly a year now and things were going fine until recently. I've found myself getting bored / frustrated with the relationship. I know this happens to a lot of people and they get the itch or whatever but usually I'm not like this.

A few things have changed though. There's a girl i work with has been showing a lot of interest in me, and i must say I've been recripocating. This girl is very attractive and seems to be really nice and i get on with her. This, coupled with the fact that my gf has gotten really lazy, doesnt seem to have any interest in doing anything and has put on a considerable amount of weight make me think i should brak up and go with the new girl.

This week I kissed the new girl and am torn as to what i should do. I've never cheated on anyone before in my life and cant even look at my girlfriend with the guilt. So I dont know whether to tell my girlfriend i cheated and try to deal with it, break up with her and try new girl or have a break for a while to clear my head.

Any advice?

Zillah

Do you want to stay with your girlfriend? Cos, you sound like the you don't want to be with her but feel maybe you ought to.

Overheal

were you upset with your relationship before or after this other girl apparated?

death1234567

has put on a considerable amount of weight

Say no more, Give her the heave ho. Seriously though I'd go with the new girl, sounds like the best option for you to be happy .

MagicMarker

Noobie wrote: »

I've been going out with a girl for nearly a year now and things were going fine until recently. I've found myself getting bored / frustrated with the relationship. I know this happens to a lot of people and they get the itch or whatever but usually I'm not like this.

A few things have changed though. There's a girl i work with has been showing a lot of interest in me, and i must say I've been recripocating. This girl is very attractive and seems to be really nice and i get on with her. This, coupled with the fact that my gf has gotten really lazy, doesnt seem to have any interest in doing anything and has put on a considerable amount of weight make me think i should brak up and go with the new girl.

This week I kissed the new girl and am torn as to what i should do. I've never cheated on anyone before in my life and cant even look at my girlfriend with the guilt. So I dont know whether to tell my girlfriend i cheated and try to deal with it, break up with her and try new girl or have a break for a while to clear my head.

Any advice?

You sound like quite the catch... Do your girlfriend a favour and break up with her.

Do not tell her you cheated and certainly do not mention her weight.

Wibbs

death1234567 wrote: »

Say no more, Give her the heave ho.

:rolleyes: Then again.... There is a point there, but not necessarily the one death1234567 was trying to make. If you've noticed this and it's affecting the relationship, that's one thing and that could be worked on. If there's genuine love there it can pretty much all be worked on. It sounds more like an excuse to me, like the rest of your reasoning. Don't feel bad. You have tried it for a year and it didn't take. Most relationships don't until one that does. You should feel bad if you continue to go out with the current girlfriend under false pretenses.

Split up with her. It'll be better for both of you long term, though she may not see it at the moment. Then again she may. She may be as bored in the relationship as you, hence the laziness.

LegacyUser

I didnt mean to sound like an asshole when saying about her weight but i find myself less attracted to the girl now. When i got with my gf, it was kinda a bit of fun between 2 very good friends who could have sex every now and then. Then i started falling for her. I do really like my gf but i think maybe it has run its course. I'm really not sure though. She is generally up for adventures, travel etc which i love but i think it's almost like we're great buddies more than anything (on my part at least). Thanks for the advice but im still unsure. When i weigh up the pro's and con's it always comes out even on both sides

Wibbs

Now this is just me, but if you are weighing up pros and cons it has run it's course, especially after a year. After 10 years I could see some value in the pros and cons bit.

MJOR

Do that poor girl a favour and finish it with her.

I think that if you didn't have this other girl lined up you wouldn't be bothered finishing it with her. Have you talked about the lack of interest in going out etc with your girlf?

I'd say its beyond any sort of repair but one piece of advice... In future finish one before you start the other!