18 years and still a virgin

half_life_man

Well I'll just get straight to the point I'm 18 and a virgin. It really sucks because I havn't really gone far with a girl before the most i've done is topped a girl. I've never really had a proper girlfriend. I'm beginning to feel worse and worse about it because nearly all my friends have had sex and are in serious relationships. I feel really left out. I also try to avoid the conversation of sex because I'll get slagged about it. I have very little confidence now when it comes to girls, I'm afraid if I find a girl that she'll turn around and laugh at me. I really hate being a virgin and I'm getting more depresed about it as the days go on:( Please help me get a girl

SnowMonkey

dude i lost my virginity when i was a bit older then you yeah it was a bit emarisin but i made up for it in a matter of month's with my cheery popper. sersouly the more you worry about it, the more preasure you will put on your self under, the presure your under Ule become needy, women dont like that so serously chill out all good things come to those who wait... thats a fact............

madser

Contrary to popular opinion most people lose their virginity at 18 to 19 yrs of age, people at 15 and 16 are mostly lying about their sexual exploits and are too young to really experience sex properly. Don't beat yourself up about having no experience your only a baby when it comes to sex and you have a whole lifetime to fill with experiences, good luck and have fun learning;)

geminilady

Yeah i have to agree with snowmonkey, your putting way too much pressure on yourself, finding the right girl will come when you least expect it, and what ever you do when your in a relationship just take your time, and try not to rush yourself or the girlfriend as thats all going to end terrible.

Seriously just keep doing what you doing go out, enjoy yourself, celebrate your freedom. There is nothing to be embarrased about at all.

And who says your friends are telling ya the truth either? sure there probably altering the truth anyways! just take your time and chill abit more!Good luck

SunnyP

SnowMonkey wrote: »

dude i lost my virginity when i was a bit older then you yeah it was a bit emarisin but i made up for it in a matter of month's with my cheery popper. sersouly the more you worry about it, the more preasure you will put on your self under, the presure your under Ule become needy, women dont like that so serously chill out all good things come to those who wait... thats a fact............

Yep I agree the more you stress about it the more it will upset you and the more anxious and nervous you'll become. Relax more at least then when it happens (and it will) you'll enjoy it all the more

challengemaster

half_life_man wrote: »

Well I'll just get straight to the point I'm 18 and a virgin. It really sucks because I havn't really gone far with a girl before the most i've done is topped a girl. I've never really had a proper girlfriend.

Well you're ahead of me so far..

I'm beginning to feel worse and worse about it because nearly all my friends have had sex and are in serious relationships.

Or so they say.. I wouldn't believe everything you hear. I know from experience there's thousands of things lads would say to sound good infront of their mates. But here's a better question:

Why are you worrying about other people? Sooner you realise that you're your own person, and what everyone else has done, or is doing doesn't really equate to jacks shít to your life.. you'll find things a lot easier. Your life isn't about what everyone else is doing. It's about you. It's about what you do. It's your own experiences, and you take things at your own rate. Not at a speed that suits other people. Who says everyone has to get laid before they're 18? That's bull. Do things your own way, and things will happen naturally and fall into place in their own time, which will be more suited to you. Do what feels right.

I also try to avoid the conversation of sex because I'll get slagged about it.

If your friends are that immature, get new ones.

I have very little confidence now when it comes to girls, I'm afraid if I find a girl that she'll turn around and laugh at me.

why?

I really hate being a virgin and I'm getting more depresed about it as the days go on:(

It's not a big deal tbh. People just make a fuss about it to feel grown up. It's like smoking, it's made a big fuss of to be "cool" or look "grown up". You'll find that nobody really gives a sh!t, you only think they do. You're worrying about nothing in essence, and just getting yourself worked up.

Please help me get a girl

Help yourself get one - girls like guys with confidence. Be confident in yourself.

Cmol

Dont stress about it, personally, I was (imo) ridiculously young when I lost my virginity, it was your standard, drunken teenage thing that I wish had never happened. Awful, absolutely awful.

Dont over think it, dont build it up too much in your mind and dont expect too much from it the first time it happens!!

AARRRGH

half_life_man wrote: »

Well I'll just get straight to the point I'm 18 and a virgin. It really sucks

I know you don't think this, but it's not a race. When you're a bit older and reflecting on your life, you won't give a **** what age you lost your virginity at.

I don't even remember what age I was when I lost mine!

17, 18, 19? I don't remember.

It's not important.

What's important is you be yourself. The right girl will eventually come along.

Don't worry.

PS I'm not a nerd

herya

There's no biological clock for losing your virginity, if you don't do it before 20 you're not going to explode. What you should want is for it to be good and not too early (which often means messy and embarrassing too). Who'd like to cringe looking back at their first time? And girls are likely to avoid you if you start looking desperate.

Ghost Girl

You will look back on this in years to come and realise you stressed too much about it.. firstly your objective shouldn't be to have "done it" so you're in with your friends. - totally wrong reason for it.

Secondly, i guarantee you alot of "friends" are lying bout it.....they always do.

thirdly, if its your only goal, and your getting worked up about it, it will be a let down. This should be a natural thing that your comfortable with, not a rushed panicked thing to be done before a certain age....

chill man, 18 is by no means an age to be feeling under pressure about this, in fact no age is....things like this are very personal and vary for people, and you shouldnt be measuring yourself with others on an issue like this.

And by the way, if your feeling its some thing your going to be slagged or laughed at, because you havent done it, (besides the fact they're idiots) it would be much worse to be rushed, and you have to live with the bad experience for ever! long after those immature friends are gone...

taram

I know only one of my friends lost her virginity before college/leaving school. And by the time I'd finished college (22) of my 10 closest friends, only 5 of them had had sex, even though all were attractive, nice people who were very social.

It'll happen when it happens. No point in either randomly loosing it and regretting it or obsessing to the point women will think you're a little strange and desperate. In the end, being a little behind your friends isn't anything to worry about, and as my mother says a friend that mocks something that's a very personal choice isn't really a friend.

coco85

when i was 16 i used to hang around with a group of girls who constantly talked about sex.. one night they even 'ranked' who they thought would have sex first... i was last on the list..

So in a bid to prove them wrong i went out and had sex when i was far too young with a guy who was not all that bad but dumped me two weeks later..

I gave into their bullying- cos thats what it was and i regret it now.. i wasn't in love with him he used me and it was not a good feeling...

So dont worry about your friends they are all prob lying anyways, you have nothing to prove to anyone and just remember that you dont want to regret your first time.. cos you will always remember it!(well girls always do i donno about ye guys!)

Take care:)

LegacyUser

My boyfriend and I were virgins when we started going out and were dating for 6 months before we did the deed - he was 20, I was 19. We're still together 7 years later.
My point is, the age you have sex for the first time is unimportant - what is important is that the person you do it with is special to you. You'll find the right girl as soon as you stop looking. Don't stress yourself out worrying about it. And your friends who say they've all had sexual experiences - do you really want your first time to be some teenage drunken fumble? Chances are most of them are all talk and no trousers anyway

Beau

half_life_man wrote: »

Please help me get a girl

Read The Game and The Stylife Challenge. Gives you an idea of what turns women on and what you are already doing that really works which you might not have realised before.

LegacyUser

Just to say, im 20 now and only lost my viginity last year when i was 19. I always hid it from the other lads over fear of been slagged off etc.. The reason i left it till then was i wanted it to be perfect for the first time and it pretty much was what i imagined it and im glad. I could have easily done it with any aul whore i went off with at random parties or met in clubs etc but i didnt cause i knew what i wanted and stuck to it.

You should so the same, just wait till the right time with the right person and it will eventually happen when its right.

Btw, it was with my first proper long term GF who i only met when i was your age, so again nothing to worry bout lad. It'll sort itself out...

If all else fails and your not happy watch the 40 year old virgin, it'll give you a laugh and point you in the right direction and im been dead serious here...

LegacyUser

Here are some statistics that you only figure out when you get a bit older (and BTW this is timeless, it was the same for the generation before mine, and the generation before that, and etc. etc...):

Guys who claim to have lost their virginity by the age of 18: 100%
Guys who have actually lost their virginity by the age of 18: far less than 100%

You're well within the normal range, regardless of what your mates tell you. I reckon every bloke in the same situation as you goes through the same freakout.

half_life_man wrote: »

Please help me get a girl

I'll tell you one thing, this bit of your post right here tells me you have a lot of growing up to do. Sex is supposed to be an intimate act between two people. It's not about you getting a notch on your bedpost or a high-five from the lads.

LegacyUser

im 21 and still a virgin. not gotten very far (i get places ) but yes i remember it used to be a much bigger issue for me. After a little while you realise it will happen eventually, and that its nothing wrong with you, it stops becoming a problem.

Toots

Trust me OP, you're not over the hill at 18

Most of my friends were between 19-21 when they slept with someone for their first time. I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but seriously I'd take half of your friends' tales of conquest with a grain of salt, as half of them are probably made up, and the other half were probably clumsy fumblings that were over as soon as they began.

Don't pressure yourself to have sex. If you meet a nice girl, just enjoy her company rather than race into the sack. When you meet a girl, just focus on getting to know her, and the rest will just fall into place. Wait until you find someone special, dont just go off with some drunk randomer just to get it over with, you'll probably end up regretting it. When you do find the right girl, don't be nervous (easier said than done) but just try and enjoy the experience as much as you can, go slow, it's not a race. If you wait until you find someone who you really care for and who really cares for you, you'll find that your nervousness melts away cos you'll both be comfortable with each other and it will absolutely be worth the wait!

Your first time should be special, you only get one, so enjoy it! Don't throw it away just to keep up with your mates.

Half-Life-Man; you are perfectly normal!!

Dudess

Maybe you should take the advice people took the trouble to post in your last thread on this concern of yours...

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055217911

Tar.Aldarion

Lmao, 18, no problem here mate, don't worry about it. It's nothing.

LegacyUser

half_life_man wrote: »

Well I'll just get straight to the point I'm 18 and a virgin. It really sucks because I havn't really gone far with a girl before the most i've done is topped a girl. I've never really had a proper girlfriend. I'm beginning to feel worse and worse about it because nearly all my friends have had sex and are in serious relationships. I feel really left out. I also try to avoid the conversation of sex because I'll get slagged about it. I have very little confidence now when it comes to girls, I'm afraid if I find a girl that she'll turn around and laugh at me. I really hate being a virgin and I'm getting more depresed about it as the days go on:( Please help me get a girl

Mmm, sorry to hear that pal. I wouldn't worry, you're going to get there sooner or later...

Look on the bright side, I'm 16 and I haven't kissed a girl yet!

Dudess

LOL "Sorry to hear that" - ah I'm sorry, but come on! Nobody's died!

A virgin at 18 - yeah I'd say most people are virgins at 18. What you perceive is not the reality.

Kissed nobody at 16 - again, plenty of people haven't. You're building things up way too much - now I know that's easy for me to say when I'm a lot older, but that's kinda the point. I have perspective and believe me, you have NO cause for concern whatsoever.

Where's the rule that you should have kissed by 16 and had sex by 18? There IS no rule. You're imposing those rules on yourselves, or you're being taken in by bullsh1t from your peers. Granted, some people are having sex very young but if they have to go round boasting about it, then they're obviously quite insecure - anyone secure in themselves would keep it private.

In a few years it won't matter a sh1t what age you first kissed someone, had sex etc, as long as it happens - and the likelihood is it will. It happens for most people...