Bleeding after sex

LegacyUser

Not looking for medical advice just opinion.

I am 20 years old, sexually active for a 3 years now. I had sex last night but the previous time was 2.5 months ago. When I woke up this morning I noticed a good bit of blood on the sheets.

The sex must have been a bit rough.. we were kind of drunk (condoms were used)

So, to the guys:
If a girl you had slept with had bled all over your sheets after sex, what would you think?

She was a virgin, she had her period or the sex was rough?
I'm pretty embarrassed about what this guy must think now. I drew his attention to it and told him, I didn't know what it was because it's not my period, it's never happened to me before and maybe the sex was a little bit rough. Then I took his sheets off but he will see the (pretty big) stains when he goes to wash them..

Should I be so embarrassed? What would you think if this happened to you?

I'm not really worried about the blood.. its never happened to me before but I guess it must be because I hadn't had sex for 2.5 months (not very long i know..but i had been having regular sex up until that point) My sister told me the same thing happened to her, after a break of one year. Is it that my vagina tightens up after a break from sex. I don't want this to happen again, it's pretty embarrassing!

MagicMarker

If i was the guy in question the only thing that would concern me was if i had hurt you or not.. So long as you were ok then the sheets really don't mean anything.

It's never happened to me, but i guess if the sex is rough enough it could happen..

However, if you drank so much that you don't remember the sex and whether it was rough or not, then that may be the bigger issue here.

LegacyUser

Not trying to freak you out (or offer medical advice)but this use to happen to me. Quite infrequently I would bleed after having sex and it worried me alot. I went and got a smear test done and found out the bleeding was early signs of cervical cancer. So, even if you are not that worried about the bleeding and feel no pain if you haven't had a recent smear I would get one done.

Auldloon

I have never seen a girl bleed other than period or medical issue. Def go see a doctor

Toots

Could just be that you had rough sex, and you hadn't done it in a while. However bleeding down there when it isn't your period may be an indication that something else is wrong. Best bet is go to your GP for a check up and smear test, just to be on the safe side.:)

LegacyUser

Im a bloke and it has happened on a few ocasions. We didnt know why.. Sex wasnt rough or anything nor no period due anytime soon.. suppose it just happens. Wasnt a virgin either btw..

Anyway i wasnt botherd about it first been all over me or second of all it being all on my sheets. My only concern was did i hurt her at all first and then why did it happen.. She seemed pretty embarssed bout it but i told her not to worry and dont be. So il say the same to yourself!

madser

I agree with the other posters, I'd be more embarrassed that I couldn't remember the sex, as for the bleeding, its not normal to bleed after sex because you haven't had it for a while:eek:

LegacyUser

I DO remember the sex, I just don't know if it would be called "rough". It didn't feel rough for me and I wasn't in any pain and am not now and he is of average size.

I am concerned about the bleeding but it says you can't ask for medical advice on this board.
The bleeding was only this morning, not today.
I had a STI test in March, I can't recall if a smear was included in that or not but everything was clear.
The only problem is I am living in a non-English speaking country at the moment so I have to figure out what doctor to go to. I think its the best thing to do though..

andgoodbye

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Wibbs

andgoodbye lives up to his name and is banned for an off topic and insulting post

Nevyn

If you had a smear test you would remember as it means having an internal pelvic exam.
I would suggest that you do talk to your dr asap.

LegacyUser

Thaedydal wrote: »

If you had a smear test you would remember as it means having an internal pelvic exam.
I would suggest that you do talk to your dr asap.

When I had the sti test, the doctor used a speculum and took swabs from the lining of my vagina. What I am not sure about what they tested those swabs for, apart from s.t.i's.
I will go to a doctor anyway just to be sure.

Umaro

This happened to me when I was with a girl once, only I didn't notice until the next day that the sheets had been bloodied (pretty badly). I put it down to me being a bit rough.

Chances are you might've nicked the inside of her vagina with a fingernail during foreplay. Since blood would be rushing in that direction anyways (if you're doing it right!) then there would be a lot of blood coming out.

You could go to the doctor I guess, but I really don't think it neccessary.

Overheal

Umaro wrote: »

This happened to me when I was with a girl once, only I didn't notice until the next day that the sheets had been bloodied (pretty badly). I put it down to me being a bit rough.

Chances are you might've nicked the inside of her vagina with a fingernail during foreplay. Since blood would be rushing in that direction anyways (if you're doing it right!) then there would be a lot of blood coming out.

You could go to the doctor I guess, but I really don't think it neccessary.

For some reason I read that as "This happened to me when I was a girl once,"

True, it could be nothing, but it could be something. I think I'd also have to vouch for going in for a gynecologist appointment.

spurious

It very much depends on what 'a good bit' of blood is.
Was it soaking through the sheets? Was it many small smears or spots?
Each person's perception is different which is why these sort of qs are so difficult to answer.

Bleeding after sex is not 'normal', but it happens. You could have been nicked by a nail during foreplay and then intercourse exacerbated it. The vaginal walls heal very quickly. If you're worried, go to a doctor.

preilly79

I would imagine that very rough sex, the kind that would cause you to bleed, would leave you in some sort of physical discomfort the morning after - bruising, aches, stiffness etc.

I'd get myself to a doctor if I were you.

Dizzyblonde

OP bleeding after sex should always be checked by a doctor.

Nevyn

bleeder wrote: »

When I had the sti test, the doctor used a speculum and took swabs from the lining of my vagina. What I am not sure about what they tested those swabs for, apart from s.t.i's.
I will go to a doctor anyway just to be sure.

If you have not had sex in a while some 'colour' or a blood smear either on the end of the condom or when you wipe yourself can happen, the same if penetration was rough and vigorous but if it was enough to at it stained the sheets then you really need to see your dr.

The sample for a smear test is take with not a swab but what looking like a really long lollipop stick and it is used to take a sample of cells from the end of your cervix.

You have been responsible and got sti checks and it seems that you are being aware and careful with your health but if you have not had a smear test I recamend you have one asap as you are sexually active.

http://www.wellwomancentre.ie/docs/Cervical_Screening.pdf

LegacyUser

preilly79 wrote: »

I would imagine that very rough sex, the kind that would cause you to bleed, would leave you in some sort of physical discomfort the morning after - bruising, aches, stiffness etc.

I'd get myself to a doctor if I were you.

I agree.. there would have been physical discomfort and there wasn't.

It was a lot of blood, about the size of my palm, and I've never bled from sex before so I am pretty worried. I've been feeling run down lately.
I noticed yesterday there was some off coloured discharge, only slightly off coloured, slightly reddishbrown, the colour you see a couple of hours before your period comes. Not much but that shouldn't happen outside of your period.

I am going to find a doctor, my mother thinks its breakthrough bleeding (i'm on the pill) but I didn't tell her about the sex so she isn't properly informed and suggests not going to the doctor but I will.