Alternative to Wedding Ring

Karmella

Hi there - just joined this site today (after lurking for a while) so be nice :-)

Anyway, was just reading another thread about engagement rings but my query is about wedding rings....

I just recently got engaged and we were discussing wedding rings and basically he just doesn't want to wear one. Its not the symbolism he has a thing about - its just he never wears any jewellery - he won't even wear a watch - just hates it. I don't have a problem with him not wearing a ring - my Dad never wore one, but some people could be funny about it. In fact he is thinking about changing his name when we marry - so I'd have thought that would be enough of a 'symbol' of his commitment!

Just wondering what people's opinions are. Is it really important to ye that the husband wears a ring?

MJOR

My sisters hubbie is a builder and doesn't wear one at work but outside of it all the time. My OH is not big into jewellery either and is going to just get a simple platinum band.

I'd like my OH to wear a ring..... Unless his job requires him not to....


Other alternitives might be a wedding band tatoo?

CathyMoran

My husband did not want to wear a ring either - he never wore a Cladagh ring that I bought for him either. In the end he knew how important it was to me that he wore a ring so we compromised and both got very plain gold rings (I think that it is nicer when they are matching). He still occasionally says that it hurts wearing it but he does not mind it too much now.

nesf

My father never wore his ring. In fact, one of my like minded uncles (one who married one of my mother's sisters) borrowed the ring for the wedding ceremony so that not only did he not wear a ring but he never even bought one!

Honestly, I'd say that if he doesn't want to wear a ring, let him. You could even borrow a ring for him to use on the day if you don't want to waste money on something he'll never wear.

Karmella

nesf wrote: »

Honestly, I'd say that if he doesn't want to wear a ring, let him. You could even borrow a ring for him to use on the day if you don't want to waste money on something he'll never wear.

Thats what we're thinking of - or just buying something cheap for the day. And sure maybe once he gets it on he won't mind it so much

I'm curious though - when did the man wearing wedding ring thing start? i always just assumed that cos my dad didn't wear one that it wasn't very common of that generation (he's in his 70s now), although he did say recently that it was because he had fat fingers But now it almost seems to be insisted on that they are worn?

I don't even know that I'm too bothered about wearing one myself either to be honest

Curvy Vixen

Karmella, I think that the question would be better phrased, "Is it really important to ye that the husband doesn't wear a ring?

My hubby wears his ring but would it bother me if he didn't and why would it bother me?

The only reason you wear a ring is to show the outside world that you are married so why would I want the world to know that he was married just by looking at him? Do I think that it would tell others that he was taken and if so, why would that matter?

As for a tattoo..well I'm sorry, but that to me really strikes of 'branding' someone :rolleyes: