randomly asking girls out!

LegacyUser

hi i would consider myself a fairly good looking, outgoing guy, but i never seem to have success with women, all my relationships have been short and sweet. i always see a lot of girls staring at me when im walking down the street, in pubs etc. now my question is, would it be strange if i was to go up to some of these girls and ask them out sometime? would they run a mile? any help appreciated as im sick of being single at this stage

little lady

Personally I wouldn't find it strange, I was asked to dinner by a random guy on the street last year, he stopped me and asked me for directions and then asked me if I'd like to go to dinner. I wasn't interested so thanked him but declined, but I was flattered.

Some people may find it strange but you have nothing to lose by asking.

BubbleWrap85

Some may find it a little weird, but they'll definitely be flattered! It's nice to be asked out randomly, it's quite romantic! Go for it x

DiscoHugh

My eyes are still stinging from the last bitter street rejection (the mace probably had something to do with it )

On a serious note it's something you always think about when you think you're getting a little eye contact going with somebody on the DART or something but never actually do. In theory it seems romantic but in practice mace city usa....

Call Me Jimmy

It's only wierd if you're not very good looking. If you are it should be no problem.

This is the stuff of legend.
Go for it.

sunnyside

Do it like the guy asking for directions, try and include some bit of a conversation first.

Do it in a public place not in a quiet place when it's getting dark, you don't want to scare anybody.

Latchy

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

It's only wierd if you're not very good looking. If you are it should be no problem.

Have you ever seen the amount of beautiful looking women on the arms of some 'not so good looking dude ' ?

They must have something to offer .Maybe it's their bank balance or their manhood ,or maybe she just likes him ?.Op has nothing to loose by asking anybody out and lots of not so goodloking guys have tried and suceeded with the object of their attention

DiscoHugh

latchyco wrote: »

Have you ever seen the amount of beautiful looking women on the arms of some 'not so good looking dude ' ?

They must have something to offer .Maybe it's their bank balance or their manhood ,or maybe she just likes him ?.Op has nothing to loose by asking anybody out and lots of not so goodloking guys have tried and suceeded with the object of their attention

They probably knew said average joe for awhile and found some aspect of him appealing...when you approach a stranger all they really have to go on is your looks to begin with...

hussey

isitweird? wrote: »

now my question is, would it be strange if i was to go up to some of these girls and ask them out sometime? would they run a mile? any help appreciated as im sick of being single at this stage

I think it would be better to go and talk to them first, rather than walking up and "hey there, dinner & drinks friday?"

But yes if you get chatting to a girl and she seems nice and friendly and interested, they are usually flattered when asked out

Call Me Jimmy

latchyco wrote: »

Have you ever seen the amount of beautiful looking women on the arms of some 'not so good looking dude ' ?

They must have something to offer .Maybe it's their bank balance or their manhood ,or maybe she just likes him ?.Op has nothing to loose by asking anybody out and lots of not so goodloking guys have tried and suceeded with the object of their attention

yea but my point was if your not good looking, girls are more likely to think it's weird than if you are.

Latchy

DiscoHugh wrote: »

They probably knew said average joe for awhile and found some aspect of him appealing...when you approach a stranger all they really have to go on is your looks to begin with...

Yes that's true it can work both ways to .Equally a guy can be stumped as to what to say if approached by a good looking womon ,or for that matter any womon .;)

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

yea but my point was if your not good looking, girls are more likely to think it's weird than if you are.

If your not goodlooking then you will obiously be more hung up about approacing any girl .I suppose its a self esteem issue to .I mean goodlucking guys get knocked back as much as the ' nerdy ' looking guy but for different reasons

BraziliaNZ

http://www.hotchickswithdouchebags.com

Call Me Jimmy

What a name for a site. Brilliant!

S.I.R

ive gone for it, sometimes it works sometimes it don't, Always give it a go when the time is right. !

eveie

ask me out il meet you at the spire in 15 mins il be wearing a panda suit.


ah no on a serious note i think it'd be really sweet, if you see a girl eyeing you and you like the look of her go for it.
even if she wasnt interested she would still be flattered

Pen1987

I think most of the ladies in this thread saying they'd be flattered if some random dude just walked up to them in the street and said 'Hi, I saw you looking at me there for a second and was wondering if you fancied dinner sometime?' are living in a hollywood fairytale inspired dream land to be honest. In your head it might sound like a lovely idea, sunny day, sparsely populated street, a well-dressed corporate looking man with just the right amount of subtle to be a 'bit-a-rough' on his time off, walking towards you confidently as the sun glints off your new Versace hangbag, catching his eye. As he gets closer you both smile coyly as you realise there is a mutual attraction. Then smoothly he opens his mouth

Male- 'hey, I saw you from a distance and something just compelled me to speak to you... theres something about you, can I ask your name?'

Female- 'sure... its Anatascia' (because all women in these situation have lovely names)

M- 'thats a beautiful name... it matches your eyes'

F- *school girl giggles*

M- 'so I was thinking, how about friday night, I have a Bordeux reserve in my wine celler that I've been keeping for a special time... I'll book us a table a Guilbauds, we'll order the lobster and my driver will take us back to my place where I'll have a glass of the reserve waiting for us? Sound good?'

F- 'Sure... what time will I see you at?'

M- 'Ill have my driver pick you up at eight-thirty... heres my card, the drivers number is on the back, call him and he'll confirm the arrangements... see you round'

F- 'Ok, see you friday... bye-bye'

and they all lived happily ever after.

and now how it will really happen...


male office worker, 30's, 5ft 8, balding but in decent shape walking towards reletively attractive female of similar style, she notices the stain on his lapel and in doing so catches eye-contact, he takes this as an indication of attraction... he diverts his path of movement striaght into hers... red in the face, nervous and perfusely sweating he blurts out

M- 'Uh.. Hi... I saw you there and you look gorgeous, do you like eating?

F- 'what?'

M-'uh... no, I eh didnt mean it like... eh, I know the chef at Johnny Foxes and was wondering if you liked the food there?

F-'emmm... yeah I heard it was nice why?'

M-'eh just because like, ye know, I know the chef and he was asking me to ask around to see if people thought his food was any good... thanks, eh, thanks for answering'

F-'Ok...yeah, em, no problem...'

M- Thanks... *shes about to walk off* DO YOU WANT TO GO OUT WITH ME SOMETIME?!

F-*looks back... walks off in a hurried manner*


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You can ask a woman out on the street but you couldnt just go up to her and say 'HEY! DINNER?'... you'd have to build enough of a rapport and make her comforatable enough around you that she'd agree to it though, which would take 7-8 mintues of conversation. Even at that stage you'd be better off just asking her for her phone number and telling you'll call her in the next few days, as opposed to asking her out on the spot which would trigger her flight-or-fight response for want of a better phrase. People would be more comfortable giving their phone number and getting asked out at a later point than agreeing to go out on the spot. Plus you could get more comfortable with her during the phone call and shes more likely to agree to a date then.

Wibbs

There is a middle ground though. Plus it's also a numbers game. Ask enough women and a few will say yes. I do think a social setting is generally gonna be more fruitful though. Especially in Ireland as that's where its expected.

kaimera

Ask enough women and a few will say yes.

1/100 is better than 0/100 and all that jazz.

Irishcrx

I don't think I would be as blunt as to stop someone on the street and ask them out, but then again it depends. I think the idea of it may seem romantic in theory to the ladies but come on if it actually happened I think alot would find it strange or think the guy is a massive flirt or chancers. With the likes of social network sites (Which suck) and texting and online dating the days of people meeting this way are short.

It was far more acceptable and active way of meeting women back in the days where you'd get married quickly and young etc, but I don't think it is these days.