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Wearing no make-up in front of a guy

  • 17-07-2008 06:34PM
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 69 ✭✭


    If your a glamour puss or a plain jane and make up really is something you wear every day to enhance your looks, the thought of letting a new boyfriend see you with no make-up on can be a horrible thought.

    For me I look like a totally different person with my make up on, and to honest am quite plain without it. However I am attractive with my slap on or just good at diguising my flaws. I have just starting seeing an amazing looking guy and it wont be long till il be staying over in his place :cool:

    Anyway the thought of washing my make up off before bed makes me break into a cold sweat. If I dont wash it off I will break out and get spots. If I wash it off I will be a minger (well plain).

    I know that people will say, that the guy should like me for who I am. But he started to see an attractive girl so I feel like a fraud when he sees me minus my make up. I went out with a guy for 2 years before and he never saw me without make up.

    Was with another guy who saw me without tho and he never cared, so I dunno what to think...so stressed :(

    Anyone else feel the same??


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 276 ✭✭July


    Just decide which you would like less; spots, or him to see you without makeup.

    No brainer really.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,504 ✭✭✭Aisling(",)


    doubt make up actually changes you that much you probably just feel more confident with it on.
    the only difference i really notice is eye make up or if the person is coated in foundation.
    if he likes you that much he wont care about you being bare faced,if he would ditch over your natural face then he's a fool.

    more people have seen me without make up then with it and every boyfriend ive had has seen me minus my make up.im comfortable in my skin though more then most people.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 69 ✭✭smokie78


    now!!! im gonna sort u out.....im a bloke and i hate make up and most blokes i know do too, as well as fake tan ...uurrrgggg so annying, a BIT of makeup is alright but hello!! girls lads dont like it, and guess what we hate kissing girls with over the top lipstick too......give me natuaral anyday, plain or not its just nicer, anyway if he sees u without ur makeup and legs it, thats life and i wouldnt like to b goin out with someone who wants me for my makeup face!! it really is true, when ur old and wrinkly what the hell do ur looks matter then.....be proud of ur plain face!!!!!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    Because so nearly every girl wears make-up, when I see a girl without make-up it's a very refreshing sight and I find it quite attractive.

    It's much more natural and healthy looking...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,469 ✭✭✭Pythia


    July wrote: »
    Just decide which you would like less; spots, or him to see you without makeup.

    No brainer really.

    Lol. You don't get spots from make up.

    My boyf saw me without make up quite early, but I always wear a full face every day. If he's interested in more than purely your looks, he won't mind, although he might find it different at first. That's what happened with me as I look different without it!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,410 ✭✭✭kizzyr


    I wear a little bit of make up to work but as soon as I get home I take it off again and unless I'm going out for dinner or some such I never wear it. My skin really feels much better for it and it shows.
    My boyfriend saw me without my make up pretty early on in our relationship and it never entered my head that he would like me less without it. To be honest if any guy likes you less when he sees you without it then he is one to do without.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 16,066 ✭✭✭✭omb0wyn5ehpij9


    I'm a guy and trust me it doesn't matter, he might even prefer you without the make up!!!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,516 ✭✭✭matrim


    my gf very rarely wears makeup and i perfer it that way. Despite the fact that she thinks she looks better with it. As mentioned its probably a confidence thing for you.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,428 ✭✭✭sunnyside


    I can totally understand your problem but he'll just have to learn that nobody looks that good naturallly. If it really bothers him which I doubt it will then your better off without him.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,197 ✭✭✭✭drunkmonkey


    I don't like make up on girls, mrs monkey rarley wears any unless she's going to work or were heading out for the night, then it's very little, she does have clear skin so I think she looks a little silly covering it up with war paint....

    Guys like pretty girls, make up dosen't come into it...if your good looking with it you should be good looking without it....the odd spot it forgiven it happens to the best of us;)

    Try 2 weeks without make up and see how you get on...think of it as a social experiment!!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 401 ✭✭sharkDawg


    I can see where your coming from OP, I am friends with a girl that wears make all the time and I would have considered her pretty hot but I recently saw her without the slap for the first time, and my god does she look different, and not good different.:eek: Again as you said she is still the same person without it, but it is quite a shock, make up really can transform some people. I think you should gradually reduce the amount of make-up you use.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 605 ✭✭✭aliqueenb


    make up can't change you THAT much


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,428 ✭✭✭sunnyside


    aliqueenb wrote: »
    make up can't change you THAT much

    Oh yes it can, you'd be amazed what some women can do with make-up.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 70 ✭✭happypartygirl


    i dont understand how your previous bf NEVER saw you with makeup.

    1 - did you never go out for a couple of drinks with hiim and go back and crash out at his place. When you wake up the next morning all of your make up would have come off.

    2 - did you wake up before he did every morning just to put make up on so he didnt see what you really look like? if so MAJOR self confidence issues going on.

    3 - i know this is rude but if you tend to have sex with your bf make up comes off in the heat of the moment so they would have seen you then too

    4 - also on holidays. who wears make up on the beach??


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 286 ✭✭SnowMonkey


    BrynW wrote: »
    I'm a guy and trust me it doesn't matter, he might even prefer you without the make up!!!!


    ++!1 i dont mind make up on or off with the girl at the ened of the day I apreachate that women tend to look better with makeup on but shore its make up and youtr going to be in bed !!!!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 348 ✭✭KatiexKOUTURE--


    Wear mineral make up.. Aparantly you can sleep with it on...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,097 ✭✭✭✭Kintarō Hattori


    I can't say I'm a fan of make-up, I prefer the natural look. I'd find it odd if the lady I was with went to bed with make-up on.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,105 ✭✭✭LadyMayBelle


    I have to say im in the camp where i would have been nervous taking the make up off,as i look very different without it,skin isnt great like,but i dont pile it on or anything? i will admit to dabbing on powder after i cleaned my face to take away the shine! and yes i wore very light make up with sun factor on my hols, my complexion looks dreadful without it,so bad even my non makeup wearing mother remarked on it!
    but as i say its prob part down to a confidence issue,i dont mind my boyf seeing me fresh faced but i dont like it myself..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,835 ✭✭✭unreggd


    Guy here, +1 for the natural look

    It should be a slight enhancement, not a complete cover up

    Most girls have gank skin these days from usin so much all the time


    so yeah, GO COMMANDO!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,537 ✭✭✭Gyalist


    Meh, the best makeup is the glow that a woman has after being freshly ****ed.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,388 ✭✭✭✭r3nu4l


    For me I look like a totally different person with my make up on, and to honest am quite plain without it. However I am attractive with my slap on or just good at diguising my flaws.

    Honestly, it sounds like you're just more confident with your make-up. You seem to be using it as a crutch in much the same way as people who use alcohol to relax in social situations.
    Anyway the thought of washing my make up off before bed makes me break into a cold sweat. If I dont wash it off I will break out and get spots. If I wash it off I will be a minger (well plain).
    Give me natural every time, make-up is not all it's cracked up to be.
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    Mrs r3nu4l only wears make-up on nights out and that's the way I prefer it. I really like to see natural skin not something covered in chemicals (foundation, fake tan, eyeliner, lipstick etc). It's nice on occasion but not all the time.

    I'd say that most guys prefer the natural look, even if the girl does think she looks plain.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 193 ✭✭Claire121


    Lol. You don't get spots from make up.

    Eh, yes, you can. I get spots just from wearing foundation, let alone sleeping in it. Some people have sensitive or oily skin. Just because you don't personally get them doesn't mean some (or even most) people don't. :rolleyes:


  • Posts: 11,928 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Don't sleep over until you feel comfortable enough with the boy to let him see your face.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,537 ✭✭✭Gyalist


    Moonbaby wrote: »
    Don't sleep over until you feel comfortable enough with the boy to let him see your face.

    Nice to see someone advocating the Walk of Shame :D:D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭anniehoo


    aliqueenb wrote: »
    make up can't change you THAT much

    Eh...have to disagree there have a look http://www.imnotobsessed.com/2007/09/03/celebs-without-makeup/


  • Posts: 19,205 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I went out for a bit with a girl that looked like a completely different person without makeup - it's not that it was layered like some people (which is trashy) but she was obviously just very good at war painting. To be honest it was a bit of shock to see that she didn't look as good with it off at all. Can understand you being a bit nervous - he might feel a bit cheated! Guess that I might be making you more nervous - well just being honest....


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,179 ✭✭✭FunkZ


    I hate make up, especially when the girl doesn't need it. It's annoying. And they never believe you when you say they shouldn't bother wearing it.

    /this actually makes me angry


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 193 ✭✭Claire121


    I know people who look totally different without it as well. The first time my best mate stayed over at my house she was really shocked that I looked almost the same without make-up because my eyelashes are naturally black and my skin is naturally tanned. People can;t usually tell if I'm wearing it or not unless I've got really sparkly stuff or heavy eyeliner on. I think with paler people the difference can be a lot more obvious, especially if they have blond eyelashes etc.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,469 ✭✭✭Pythia


    Claire121 wrote: »
    Eh, yes, you can. I get spots just from wearing foundation, let alone sleeping in it. Some people have sensitive or oily skin. Just because you don't personally get them doesn't mean some (or even most) people don't. :rolleyes:

    Well I use 'non-comedogenic' make up which is non-pore blocking. But make up won't turn you from 0 to spotty. It's a hormonal thing if you have bad skin.

    OP, if you are worried about bad skin, you might try asking your doctor about some medication. It can really clear things up.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    OP, work on your confidence. It disturbs me that someone would be in a two-year relationship without their boyfriend EVER seeing them sans make-up in all that time. What about him? Did he ever have to make an extra effort for you? I presume not. Sure, it's great to look your best in front of a beau but if you're confident enough, then that shines through in your personality and a lack of make-up now and again won't make any difference to him.


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