Wearing no make-up in front of a guy

Claire_lou1983

If your a glamour puss or a plain jane and make up really is something you wear every day to enhance your looks, the thought of letting a new boyfriend see you with no make-up on can be a horrible thought.

For me I look like a totally different person with my make up on, and to honest am quite plain without it. However I am attractive with my slap on or just good at diguising my flaws. I have just starting seeing an amazing looking guy and it wont be long till il be staying over in his place :cool:

Anyway the thought of washing my make up off before bed makes me break into a cold sweat. If I dont wash it off I will break out and get spots. If I wash it off I will be a minger (well plain).

I know that people will say, that the guy should like me for who I am. But he started to see an attractive girl so I feel like a fraud when he sees me minus my make up. I went out with a guy for 2 years before and he never saw me without make up.

Was with another guy who saw me without tho and he never cared, so I dunno what to think...so stressed

Anyone else feel the same??

July

Just decide which you would like less; spots, or him to see you without makeup.

No brainer really.

Aisling(",)

doubt make up actually changes you that much you probably just feel more confident with it on.
the only difference i really notice is eye make up or if the person is coated in foundation.
if he likes you that much he wont care about you being bare faced,if he would ditch over your natural face then he's a fool.

more people have seen me without make up then with it and every boyfriend ive had has seen me minus my make up.im comfortable in my skin though more then most people.

smokie78

now!!! im gonna sort u out.....im a bloke and i hate make up and most blokes i know do too, as well as fake tan ...uurrrgggg so annying, a BIT of makeup is alright but hello!! girls lads dont like it, and guess what we hate kissing girls with over the top lipstick too......give me natuaral anyday, plain or not its just nicer, anyway if he sees u without ur makeup and legs it, thats life and i wouldnt like to b goin out with someone who wants me for my makeup face!! it really is true, when ur old and wrinkly what the hell do ur looks matter then.....be proud of ur plain face!!!!!

AARRRGH

Because so nearly every girl wears make-up, when I see a girl without make-up it's a very refreshing sight and I find it quite attractive.

It's much more natural and healthy looking...

Pythia

July wrote: »

Just decide which you would like less; spots, or him to see you without makeup.

No brainer really.

Lol. You don't get spots from make up.

My boyf saw me without make up quite early, but I always wear a full face every day. If he's interested in more than purely your looks, he won't mind, although he might find it different at first. That's what happened with me as I look different without it!

kizzyr

I wear a little bit of make up to work but as soon as I get home I take it off again and unless I'm going out for dinner or some such I never wear it. My skin really feels much better for it and it shows.
My boyfriend saw me without my make up pretty early on in our relationship and it never entered my head that he would like me less without it. To be honest if any guy likes you less when he sees you without it then he is one to do without.

omb0wyn5ehpij9

I'm a guy and trust me it doesn't matter, he might even prefer you without the make up!!!!

matrim

my gf very rarely wears makeup and i perfer it that way. Despite the fact that she thinks she looks better with it. As mentioned its probably a confidence thing for you.

sunnyside

I can totally understand your problem but he'll just have to learn that nobody looks that good naturallly. If it really bothers him which I doubt it will then your better off without him.

drunkmonkey

I don't like make up on girls, mrs monkey rarley wears any unless she's going to work or were heading out for the night, then it's very little, she does have clear skin so I think she looks a little silly covering it up with war paint....

Guys like pretty girls, make up dosen't come into it...if your good looking with it you should be good looking without it....the odd spot it forgiven it happens to the best of us;)

Try 2 weeks without make up and see how you get on...think of it as a social experiment!!

sharkDawg

I can see where your coming from OP, I am friends with a girl that wears make all the time and I would have considered her pretty hot but I recently saw her without the slap for the first time, and my god does she look different, and not good different.:eek: Again as you said she is still the same person without it, but it is quite a shock, make up really can transform some people. I think you should gradually reduce the amount of make-up you use.

aliqueenb

make up can't change you THAT much

sunnyside

aliqueenb wrote: »

make up can't change you THAT much

Oh yes it can, you'd be amazed what some women can do with make-up.

happypartygirl

i dont understand how your previous bf NEVER saw you with makeup.

1 - did you never go out for a couple of drinks with hiim and go back and crash out at his place. When you wake up the next morning all of your make up would have come off.

2 - did you wake up before he did every morning just to put make up on so he didnt see what you really look like? if so MAJOR self confidence issues going on.

3 - i know this is rude but if you tend to have sex with your bf make up comes off in the heat of the moment so they would have seen you then too

4 - also on holidays. who wears make up on the beach??

SnowMonkey

BrynW wrote: »

I'm a guy and trust me it doesn't matter, he might even prefer you without the make up!!!!

++!1 i dont mind make up on or off with the girl at the ened of the day I apreachate that women tend to look better with makeup on but shore its make up and youtr going to be in bed !!!!!

KatiexKOUTURE--

Wear mineral make up.. Aparantly you can sleep with it on...

Kintarō Hattori

I can't say I'm a fan of make-up, I prefer the natural look. I'd find it odd if the lady I was with went to bed with make-up on.

LadyMayBelle

I have to say im in the camp where i would have been nervous taking the make up off,as i look very different without it,skin isnt great like,but i dont pile it on or anything? i will admit to dabbing on powder after i cleaned my face to take away the shine! and yes i wore very light make up with sun factor on my hols, my complexion looks dreadful without it,so bad even my non makeup wearing mother remarked on it!
but as i say its prob part down to a confidence issue,i dont mind my boyf seeing me fresh faced but i dont like it myself..

unreggd

Guy here, +1 for the natural look

It should be a slight enhancement, not a complete cover up

Most girls have gank skin these days from usin so much all the time


so yeah, GO COMMANDO!

Gyalist

Meh, the best makeup is the glow that a woman has after being freshly ****ed.

r3nu4l

Claire_lou1983 wrote: »

For me I look like a totally different person with my make up on, and to honest am quite plain without it. However I am attractive with my slap on or just good at diguising my flaws.

Honestly, it sounds like you're just more confident with your make-up. You seem to be using it as a crutch in much the same way as people who use alcohol to relax in social situations.

Anyway the thought of washing my make up off before bed makes me break into a cold sweat. If I dont wash it off I will break out and get spots. If I wash it off I will be a minger (well plain).

Give me natural every time, make-up is not all it's cracked up to be.
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Mrs r3nu4l only wears make-up on nights out and that's the way I prefer it. I really like to see natural skin not something covered in chemicals (foundation, fake tan, eyeliner, lipstick etc). It's nice on occasion but not all the time.

I'd say that most guys prefer the natural look, even if the girl does think she looks plain.

Claire121

Lol. You don't get spots from make up.

Eh, yes, you can. I get spots just from wearing foundation, let alone sleeping in it. Some people have sensitive or oily skin. Just because you don't personally get them doesn't mean some (or even most) people don't. :rolleyes:

Don't sleep over until you feel comfortable enough with the boy to let him see your face.

Gyalist

Moonbaby wrote: »

Don't sleep over until you feel comfortable enough with the boy to let him see your face.

Nice to see someone advocating the Walk of Shame :D

anniehoo

aliqueenb wrote: »

make up can't change you THAT much

Eh...have to disagree there have a look http://www.imnotobsessed.com/2007/09/03/celebs-without-makeup/

I went out for a bit with a girl that looked like a completely different person without makeup - it's not that it was layered like some people (which is trashy) but she was obviously just very good at war painting. To be honest it was a bit of shock to see that she didn't look as good with it off at all. Can understand you being a bit nervous - he might feel a bit cheated! Guess that I might be making you more nervous - well just being honest....

FunkZ

I hate make up, especially when the girl doesn't need it. It's annoying. And they never believe you when you say they shouldn't bother wearing it.

/this actually makes me angry

Claire121

I know people who look totally different without it as well. The first time my best mate stayed over at my house she was really shocked that I looked almost the same without make-up because my eyelashes are naturally black and my skin is naturally tanned. People can;t usually tell if I'm wearing it or not unless I've got really sparkly stuff or heavy eyeliner on. I think with paler people the difference can be a lot more obvious, especially if they have blond eyelashes etc.

Pythia

Claire121 wrote: »

Eh, yes, you can. I get spots just from wearing foundation, let alone sleeping in it. Some people have sensitive or oily skin. Just because you don't personally get them doesn't mean some (or even most) people don't. :rolleyes:

Well I use 'non-comedogenic' make up which is non-pore blocking. But make up won't turn you from 0 to spotty. It's a hormonal thing if you have bad skin.

OP, if you are worried about bad skin, you might try asking your doctor about some medication. It can really clear things up.

Dudess

OP, work on your confidence. It disturbs me that someone would be in a two-year relationship without their boyfriend EVER seeing them sans make-up in all that time. What about him? Did he ever have to make an extra effort for you? I presume not. Sure, it's great to look your best in front of a beau but if you're confident enough, then that shines through in your personality and a lack of make-up now and again won't make any difference to him.

SerialComplaint

I was thinking about this thread this morning on the Luas watching a good looking girl in her late 20s getting bet into her eye-liner (see attached picture). Just seems strange to me that someone would be obsessed enough to make sure this was done before getting into work, but not care enough about how strange it looks to be doing her makeup on the Luas. Maybe I'll bring my electric razor next week and sit beside her.

LolaLuv

I don't mean this to sound bit*hy, so please don't think I'm being mean, but I'd be much more embarassed to be wearing an amount of makeup that completely transformed how I look than to have my boyfriend see me without makeup. If you're unrecognizable without your makeup then you're wearing too much.

Kintarō Hattori

This is insane. When did people become this stupid? I can't believe the OP is in a two year relationship and she has never allowed her boyfriend to see her without make-up. I don't think anything we say here will have any effect on her as she clearly lacks self-confidence or cop-on, I don't know which.

Dudess

Yeah you're right Kintaro.

I'm constantly accused of being too harsh, but OP, cop on! That's just ridiculous. If your boyfriend loses all interest in you when he sees you without make-up, he's a dick. Do you want to go out with a dick? And these girls I hear about who dash into the bathroom really early to put on slap before their boyfriends wake up... I just want to shake them!

A person's looks are what will attract someone to them initially, but after a while it becomes more about the personality. Start working on your personality (i.e. your confidence) which is worth a lot more and far more attractive than any make-up could be...

xOxSinéadxOx

my god! take off the ****ing make-up!

rainbow kirby

I don't wear makeup at all. Am I somehow a different person if I wear it?

Claire_lou1983

KatiexKOUTURE-- wrote: »

Wear mineral make up.. Aparantly you can sleep with it on...

Hey just reading the replied now, was away for the weekend..

I wear mineral make up, I still break out!!! Pain in the ass, I reckon if I had clearer skin I would not feel the need to wear make up all the time.. Think it cause my skin is bad that I think I need it so much more lately..

Claire_lou1983

People are slating me on here because I am not confident enough to wash my make-up off. Jesus now I know why I rarely post much on here. Yes I do have a confidence issue in an ideal world I would not care that I have no got the best skin in the world. Well its not an ideal world and I hate the fact that I have spots and that people can see them.

Believe it or not I dont wear a full face of slap, I wear some mineral foundation and blush and mascara. All of which makes me look very naturally made out, in fact I dont look like I am wearing make up.. without any on its a different story. :rolleyes:

JaneyMc

Claire_lou1983 wrote: »

People are slating me on here because I am not confident enough to wash my make-up off. Jesus now I know why I rarely post much on here. Yes I do have a confidence issue in an ideal world I would not care that I have no got the best skin in the world. Well its not an ideal world and I hate the fact that I have spots and that people can see them.

Believe it or not I dont wear a full face of slap, I wear some mineral foundation and blush and mascara. All of which makes me look very naturally made out, in fact I dont look like I am wearing make up.. without any on its a different story. :rolleyes:

What item of makeup would you feel would make the most difference if you didnt wear it?

I remember when I was in school I was totally paronoid about the no makeup thing ( not anymore Im sitting in work with none on an dont give a rats) so I bought somenatural looking makeup, like clear mascara etc. Clear mascara is not really that noticable, wont smudge all over your face, and really did help my pathetic stumpy eyelashes
Or you could try toning down what you already have in a gradual process? Even if you do wear very little this is possible. If I was yourself, I’d start with the blush , Then work my way through the rest, this might make it a bit easier for you hopefully?

Hope ya sort it anyway

Bijoux

Claire_lou1983 wrote: »

People are slating me on here because I am not confident enough to wash my make-up off. Jesus now I know why I rarely post much on here. Yes I do have a confidence issue in an ideal world I would not care that I have no got the best skin in the world. Well its not an ideal world and I hate the fact that I have spots and that people can see them.

Believe it or not I dont wear a full face of slap, I wear some mineral foundation and blush and mascara. All of which makes me look very naturally made out, in fact I dont look like I am wearing make up.. without any on its a different story. :rolleyes:

I'm a girl that wears make-up everyday (if I'm not lazing around at home) :rolleyes: and like the OP, I feel more confident with it on.
But you should let him see you without it, if his feelings towards you change, he's superficial and you would be better off without him.
Also, from experience, most men cant seem to understand why we wear make-up at all, and I'd say many would tell you that they can't see much difference, so just bite the bullet and go bare, and if he doesn't like it, get rid! :rolleyes:

haubinda87

SerialComplaint wrote: »

I was thinking about this thread this morning on the Luas watching a good looking girl in her late 20s getting bet into her eye-liner (see attached picture). Just seems strange to me that someone would be obsessed enough to make sure this was done before getting into work, but not care enough about how strange it looks to be doing her makeup on the Luas. Maybe I'll bring my electric razor next week and sit beside her.

LMFAO sorry but check out that woman on the very left giving you evils.

OP, you need to get rid of the make-up gradually before you can go 'nude'. Take your make-up off before bed, and maybe use clear mascara, cheek stain (Benefit do one that looks pretty natural) and some medicated concealor (the Body Shop do a good one). That way you've got the bare essentials covered, and can start to feel more confident without the war paint.

I was the same as you a couple of years ago - mainly had hang ups over my less than perfect skin, but now I just don't give a ****, and my boyfriend says he prefers me without make-up.

digiking

He is just shallow if he complains cos your not wearing makeup

lauren1980

Hey Claire Lou,

I know how you feel about the make up thing - its completely different when u have bad skin with spots- it makes u feel self concious and want to cover it up. Its completely understandable.Had bad skin myself a few years ago and wanted to cover it up - got up before people ect . your not the only girl whos done it - many of my friends have 2!

I think your getting slated her because this is a differnt issue to someone who has clear/near perfect skin getting up early to cover skin up or wearing make up to bed - which i dont think is necessary. When you dont have perfect skin its different - and i can see why you have done it.

Of course he is gonna see you eventually - he prob can already see imperfections - minearal make up doesnt cover that much, but i can def understand your reluctance to show an obvious thing like acne which some find unattractive to a new man!

On a side note try nicam gel for adult acne get it in boots...its amazing really cleared me up. Wudnt mind being seen without make up now!

Creamy Goodness

a girl that doesn't feel the need or pressure to wear make up in front of a guy is a major confidence booster for me tbh.

WindSock

In my 10-12 years of wearing make up (not every day), I would have to say No guy not even my boyfriend has ever commented on or given a hoot about whether or not I am wearing make up. If you think a man will think less of you because you don't have orange foundation on, you are seriously deluded.

Claire_lou1983

WindSock wrote: »

In my 10-12 years of wearing make up (not every day), I would have to say No guy not even my boyfriend has ever commented on or given a hoot about whether or not I am wearing make up. If you think a man will think less of you because you don't have orange foundation on, you are seriously deluded.

Eh who said I wear orange foundation, I dont even wear foundation just a little mineral make up powder. There we go again with more arsy comments :mad:

Claire_lou1983

JaneyMc wrote: »

What item of makeup would you feel would make the most difference if you didnt wear it?

I remember when I was in school I was totally paronoid about the no makeup thing ( not anymore Im sitting in work with none on an dont give a rats) so I bought somenatural looking makeup, like clear mascara etc. Clear mascara is not really that noticable, wont smudge all over your face, and really did help my pathetic stumpy eyelashes
Or you could try toning down what you already have in a gradual process? Even if you do wear very little this is possible. If I was yourself, I’d start with the blush , Then work my way through the rest, this might make it a bit easier for you hopefully?

Hope ya sort it anyway

I think that my foundation (well powder) makes the most difference to my face or my blusher. In fairness the guy im seeing has probably seen me looking like crap in work already as I have been working with him for over a year. Thank you foa your kind advice and not being like everyone else.

Claire_lou1983

lauren1980 wrote: »

Hey Claire Lou,

I know how you feel about the make up thing - its completely different when u have bad skin with spots- it makes u feel self concious and want to cover it up. Its completely understandable.Had bad skin myself a few years ago and wanted to cover it up - got up before people ect . your not the only girl whos done it - many of my friends have 2!

I think your getting slated her because this is a differnt issue to someone who has clear/near perfect skin getting up early to cover skin up or wearing make up to bed - which i dont think is necessary. When you dont have perfect skin its different - and i can see why you have done it.

Of course he is gonna see you eventually - he prob can already see imperfections - minearal make up doesnt cover that much, but i can def understand your reluctance to show an obvious thing like acne which some find unattractive to a new man!

On a side note try nicam gel for adult acne get it in boots...its amazing really cleared me up. Wudnt mind being seen without make up now!

Yeah I reckon the people who are slating me are the people who have never had acne to contend with. When I wear no make-up (yes it does happen sometimes) people actually tell me I look ill or comment on my spots, nice people eh!!

Pythia

Don't worry Claire Lou, there's always make up haters! It's a perfectly valid worry, but as I think I said before, if he's a good guy, he won't care!

JaneyMc

Claire_lou1983 wrote: »

Yeah I reckon the people who are slating me are the people who have never had acne to contend with. When I wear no make-up (yes it does happen sometimes) people actually tell me I look ill or comment on my spots, nice people eh!!

Was thinking, have you considered a moisturiser that does a bit of light tanning like the nivea sun kissed one? Just a bit on your face maybe? Put it on every few days and your skin wont be as light. A lil bit of a tan always makes the skin look great. I'm not talking about oranging yourself up its barely noticable if you put the right amount on, but makes a big difference in the appearance of the skin?