How To Get A Date?????

dietcoke1145

Hi All. Just wondering where you all met your other halves? I have been single now for not far off of two years. Late 20s female who doesn't look like the back of a bus and haven't had a 'proper' date since becoming single! Was in a long term relationship for over 6 years and maybe I missed the 'seminar' on dating or something! Go out nearly every weekend so it's not like I'm a hermit but still nothing .... any advice?! While I love my girlie nights out, could do with a distraction at this stage! LOL

ntlbell

ask someone you see that you like to go for a drink?

Rob_l

call me on 087*******:D

Or join a dating thing

easyontheeye

dont hunt in large groups of girls...us men are afraid of them

Rob_l

easyontheeye wrote: »

dont hunt in large groups of girls...us men are afraid of them

We are?

DJ_Spider

why not join us at the mercantile tomorrow night details in the events forum in sys

The Bollox

easyontheeye wrote: »

dont hunt in large groups of girls...us men are afraid of them

+1

all the giggling when you approach one of them. and also the mindless natter about ironing techniques. no thanks

smartypants

Rob_l wrote: »

We are?

well id be more inclined to approach a girl in a small group of say 2 or 3 girls rather than 7 or 8 of them with them all gawking at ya...

Rob_l

smartypants wrote: »

well id be more inclined to approach a girl in a small group of say 2 or 3 girls rather than 7 or 8 of them with them all gawking at ya...

Interesting theory!

RedXIV

smartypants wrote: »

well id be more inclined to approach a girl in a small group of say 2 or 3 girls rather than 7 or 8 of them with them all gawking at ya...

I'd be the opposite, keeps em guessing which one your interested in if you keep shifting focus. All you need is to approach with a topic that will spark debate, watch them fight, throw in odd smart comment, win.

dietcoke1145 if your out in pubs alot, get phone numbers, use them to meet up, find guys you like the look of in work, ask them out, be bold, be outgoing and ultimately, be successful

smartypants

Rob_l wrote: »

Interesting theory!

just feel more comfortable that way...i never want that walk of shame feeling :pac:

chickenhawk

smartypants wrote: »

well id be more inclined to approach a girl in a small group of say 2 or 3 girls rather than 7 or 8 of them with them all gawking at ya...

Definitely! I tried to chat up a group of 15 girls once. Never again.

Back on topic. Most guys are only too delighted when a girl asks them out. Just keep an eye out for chances and you might be surprised. Pubs/clubs, work, through friends, or just someone you see regularly that you never talk to. Don't ask them out straight off the bat, just start with a hi and a few words etc.

easyontheeye

dietcoke1145 wrote: »

Hi All. Just wondering where you all met your other halves? I have been single now for not far off of two years. Late 20s female who doesn't look like the back of a bus and haven't had a 'proper' date since becoming single! Was in a long term relationship for over 6 years and maybe I missed the 'seminar' on dating or something! Go out nearly every weekend so it's not like I'm a hermit but still nothing .... any advice?! While I love my girlie nights out, could do with a distraction at this stage! LOL

why dont you try a random PM in here....nudge nudge ...wink wink

Ruby-J

Have you tried internet dating??? 1000s do it every day and if you listen to rick o'shea he always has stories on his show of how people met etc when they text in and almost 50% i think what he said yesterday anyways...dont quote me...say theyve met online.

MJOR

met my future hubby online...... neither of us were hiding anything gruesome.. just how we met its such a laugh too!

Ruby-J

me too although we met through a social networking site like bebo or facebook. imho i think its a great way to get to know someone before you meet them and then at least then you know you have something to talk about as you have already shared interests etc

Try it dietcoke!

Star Lord

I met my (wonderful) lady through boards... in a round about way!

She was friends with the friend of the boyfriend of a girl I met through Boards

(I know, it was difficult enough writing that to make sense!)

tribulus

At a rave thing in the point. I wasn't sweating profusely, didn't have extremely dilated pupils and my jaw wasn't chewing an imaginary piece of food so I guess I was the pick of the bunch lol.

turtleshead

easyontheeye wrote: »

dont hunt in large groups of girls...us men are afraid of them

Have to agree with that comment..... Also as a guy I generally dont date girls I meet in pubs/clubs, I dont know why but my mates are all the same.

If you want to meet a guy you should try and take up something you are interested in where you meet people other than your friends & work collegues, whether it be a night class, keep fit class or tag rugby.

My last 3 dates have been with a girl from a French class I took at night, another girl I met playing tag rugby and my last date was with a girl that goes to the same gym as me.

Best thing to do is get out there and ask and if you have a bad date dont worry, they dont always work out.

John Mason

BGRH beers is the only way to get a date now a days

the last one was a huge orgy, i felt left out cos my boards bf was off being drunk and doing who knows what

Star Lord

irishbird wrote: »

the last one was a huge orgy, i felt left out cos my boards bf was off being drunk and doing who knows who

FYP...

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dietcoke1145 wrote: »

Hi All. Just wondering where you all met your other halves? I have been single now for not far off of two years. Late 20s female who doesn't look like the back of a bus and haven't had a 'proper' date since becoming single! Was in a long term relationship for over 6 years and maybe I missed the 'seminar' on dating or something! Go out nearly every weekend so it's not like I'm a hermit but still nothing .... any advice?! While I love my girlie nights out, could do with a distraction at this stage! LOL

Here's a few suggestions:

#1 - If you're in a bar or a club, smile twice as much as you normally do, particularly if a guy looks friendly or interested. When I was single there was nothing more powerful than getting a smile off a pretty girl. Irish girls rarely do it, but an inviting smile just means 'come over and have a chat' and many guys will be right over.

#2 - Along the same lines, try to start/encourage random conversations and enjoy meeting new people and chatting. Someone who you might not actually consider your 'type' might be actually perfect for you. (I'd suggest doing this earlier in the night because people are soberer - it won't be fun with drunken slobs)

#3 - Most people don't meet their long-term partners in pubs or bars. They usually meet them in work or through friends of friends where it's a more relaxed situation, and easier to get to know someone, perhaps over a few meetings. So, say yes more often when you get invited to things. To house parties, to gallery openings, to weddings, to surfing weekends or skiing trips with a group. This month, aim to put yourself in a position where you'll meet more new people than you normally do, and you'll start seeing prospects.

#4 - Finally. Make your life damn interesting. Do interesting things, do nightcourses, take cool holidays, get a hobby you're passionate about. From what I've seen, people generally fall for someone when they're at a high point in their life, and usually when they're not hugely looking.

So fill your life and make it as great as possible. Put yourself in a position where you'll meet lots of new people and generally start being more open to having a laugh and chatting to people. Don't worry about boys too much, if you do that I think you'll be in with a good chance, and even if you don't, you'll have a lot of fun.

Stop lookin so hard, and you will find much easier

fonpokno

Deleted User wrote: »

Stop lookin so hard, and you will find much easier

Yup tis true, I never meet people when I'm actually actively wanting to, never works that way for me. Boards beers seem to be full of lovely people, come to one!

Little-Devil

dietcoke1145 wrote: »

Hi All. Just wondering where you all met your other halves? I have been single now for not far off of two years. Late 20s female who doesn't look like the back of a bus and haven't had a 'proper' date since becoming single! Was in a long term relationship for over 6 years and maybe I missed the 'seminar' on dating or something! Go out nearly every weekend so it's not like I'm a hermit but still nothing .... any advice?! While I love my girlie nights out, could do with a distraction at this stage! LOL

I agree with others who have suggested don't go in big packs, if your out with 2/3 friends then you might find more will make an approach if they know maybe you are interested, so next time smile, say hello. I know when i'm out with my friends if i see a gang of girls i wouldnt approach them but if it was a small group then i might , but i need a few drinks for dutch courage and then if i get two drunk i dont bother because no one likes a drunk and its a turn off.

This weekend OP try a few suggestions, they always say it happens when you least expect it

DJ_Spider

I met Mrs Spider on one of the text dating channels on sky! I saw an ad in the local paper for txt dating and sent an ad saying 'Sleepless in Somerset'! She sent me a txt as it was shown on the sky channel, well then she got my number, called me for hours, I came over for a holiday, went back, finalised my separation with my ex, (we had been separated for about 3 months, but still used to 'meet' if you know what I mean ) I said this isn't working and I'm moving to Ireland.

The rest is history as they say. I don't miss the UK, and have no desire to go back. I didn't have many friends there, and my parents passed away 6 years ago. My brother & sister haven't spoken to me for the last 12 years, so I had nothing to keep me there.

There is a saying: Carpe Diem - Sieze The Day! Always has worked for me, and to the OP, you are young enough to find someone. It took me until I was 40! All the best and feel free to pop into the mercantile tomorrow night!

(prepares intiation ceremony! - kidding!!!!!)

Reku

DamoElDiablo wrote: »

irishbird wrote: »

the last one was a huge orgy, i felt left out cos my boards bf was off being drunk and doing who knows who

FYP...

Who knows what sounded worse IMO.:D

dietcoke1145

Thanks a million to all who responded. I think I was just having a weird day yesterday. Only ever go out in 2s or 3s but will definatley make a conscious effort to smile a bit more ... for some reason I get shy after a few drinks! Go figure!!! Anyhow thanks again to all x

chopperbyrne

dietcoke1145 wrote: »

Thanks a million to all who responded. I think I was just having a weird day yesterday. Only ever go out in 2s or 3s but will definatley make a conscious effort to smile a bit more ... for some reason I get shy after a few drinks! Go figure!!! Anyhow thanks again to all x

Where are you from?

Go to the Mercantile tonight. There'll be a good crowd of likeminded people there.

mollybird

i met my OH through a mutual friend. met my guy before that randomly and one before that through work. and one before that a friend.

so they are the best ways to meet someone. also all of them i met when i wasn't trying to look for someone.

P.C.

dietcoke1145 wrote: »

Thanks a million to all who responded. I think I was just having a weird day yesterday. Only ever go out in 2s or 3s but will definatley make a conscious effort to smile a bit more ... for some reason I get shy after a few drinks! Go figure!!! Anyhow thanks again to all x

Be happy with yourself, it will show.

When in a pub, get a spot at the bar - people have to go to the bar to get drinks - you will be in a perfect spot to 'people watch', and say hi to the ones you find attractive.

Jules

Next person to make a idiotic post such as... pm me wink wink or call me etc will be banned. You have all be warned.

Havermeyer

Tis easy to get a date. Just pm me.

On a serious note though, I haven't a clue. I'm in the same situation.

Jules

nummnutts - banned for a week, you were warned.