Do men like being asked out

LegacyUser

Just looking for the opinions of some guys. I asked a guy out for a drink, completely random, saw his profile on line in Bebo and thought he was nice...he said yes and and he is to arrange it with me for next week. It's not something that I have done before but I thought why not, if he said no then fair enough.

So what do guys think of girls asking them out, do they find in flattering or do they prefare the old fashioned way of guys pursuing the girls??

Wibbs

Some do some don't. I think more do than don't though.

anthony4335

I would have to say yes. I do not know anyone who wouldn't. Even if you are not available or interested it gives you a good feeling that others out there find you interesting and worthy enough to ask you. Plus some men are shy and are afraid to ask women out. All I will say to you fair play hope goes well.

Deadeyes

As guy I would have no problem being asked out. In fact I'd love it. But as someone who believes that the Internet is a place where men are men, women are men and young kids are F.B.I agents; I'd be more worried about asking people out based on a web profile. Then again maybe that just shows my age, I don't get Bebo, Facebook et al.

Marksie

yes, feck convention

So many PIs would be redundant if people did

Predhead

Depends on the person who asked me out, if I knew them for a bit ya know, I wouldn't mind. Otherwise if some random girl asked me out I'd be a bit put off tbh, especially if it was someone who just saw my profile page on bebo and asked me.

anthony4335

I would care who it was, I would just be flattered. As to if I would accept or not would depend upon who asked.

LegacyUser

Predhead wrote: »

Depends on the person who asked me out, if I knew them for a bit ya know, I wouldn't mind. Otherwise if some random girl asked me out I'd be a bit put off tbh, especially if it was someone who just saw my profile page on bebo and asked me.

Just out of curiosity why would you be put off, is it because it's over the internet or because you don't know the person? Would id not be the same as walking up to a guy in a bar and asking him out, or would you be put off by that as well?

The Mighty Ken

In this age of (increasing) equality, I would say 'yes'. Women should definitely ask men out more.

petethebrick

Any man who says he doesn't like being asked out by women is either a liar, an idiot or gay. Although there is a direct link between your level of self-confidence and how easy it is to ask someone out, it's always easier to be the one being asked!

Predhead

The Mighty Ken wrote: »

In this age of (increasing) equality, I would say 'yes'. Women should definitely ask men out more.

I think so (even if I'm not into it), but the OP was asking if men in general like being asked out...

brianthebard

i knew a girl who fancied me but she was so in your face about it that i thought she was pulling the p!ss and didn't take it seriously til she jumped me one night.the point is theres nothing wrong with it,just try not to be too extreme or ott.

scano_ie

yeah makes a change but i do have to say if a girl asks a guy out as friends most of us think there is more there even if there isn't so just be careful

[Jackass]

I think more women should do this and I would say yes to reward her courage if nothing else and it would be a very impressive start for her in my book.

It's a lot more difficult for men as we are expected to do all the work in the begining and put ourselves out there to be shot down.

Any woman who is willing to take on a bit of that responsability should be admired imo.

Tar.Aldarion

Yes, of course they like it.

The Mighty Ken

[Jackass] wrote: »

It's a lot more difficult for men as we are expected to do all the work in the begining and put ourselves out there to be shot down.

Any woman who is willing to take on a bit of that responsability should be admired imo.

+1

Nevyn

Some do, most don't, many like the idea of it but when it happens get shocked/stunned/freaked.

MagicMarker

Yes we do, but i think getting a random message on bebo from a stranger asking you out is a bit weird tbh.

bangersandmash

Thaedydal wrote: »

Some do, most don't, many like the idea of it but when it happens get shocked/stunned/freaked.

Quite a generalisation there, sounds like you've met a poor representative sample. I've never met a guy who expressed shock or annoyance at being asked out. Of course some men do prefer timid women, so it will depend on the man in question. It's a little hard to judge from a Bebo page.

As others have said, a woman who will take the initiative deserves to be admired, far more than one who will hide behind outdated conventions to avoid the possibility of rejection. It's something men have had to deal with for a long time.

Hope it works out OP. But as others have said, somebody might be a little suspicious of a random request for a date on Bebo, regardless of whether the sender is female or male.

Dudess

Some do, some don't... and all those other variables - e.g. whether he fancied the girl or not. It's very difficult to answer for an entire gender.

Predhead

bangersandmash wrote: »

Quite a generalisation there, sounds like you've met a poor representative sample. I've never met a guy who expressed shock or annoyance at being asked out. Of course some men do prefer timid women

Just because a guy may prefer to ask a girl out, doesn't mean he prefers timid women, not at all.

LegacyUser

I do understand the strangeness of being ramdomly asked out through a networking website and I would probably find it a bit odd if I was asked but if I didn't take the chance then I would never have known....

He did say yes, I'll just have to see if he follows up and we actually meet, I'm actually expecting that we won't but there's no harm in trying and hopefully he was flattered rather than thinking I'm a wierdo

GrumPy

Yes it's really cool. Us menz get tired of all the work, but I dont know many lads including myself, that would expect a girl to ask them out. It's the general rule that men gotta do it.

seraphimvc

it's the thing i learnt here,unless a girl has been drinking,the chance of a girl asking you out is nearly impossible.it's just the culture thingy i guess.at least that happened on me:rolleyes:

as myself,a foreigner from a more open minded country,girls asking guys out is very common,needless to say guys asking....:pac:

Affable

Unreg2008 wrote: »

So what do guys think of girls asking them out, do they find in flattering or do they prefare the old fashioned way of guys pursuing the girls??

I'd never complain, it's welcome.

GrumPy

sugarman wrote: »

Ah yea.. why not? My current gf (Kinda) asked me out over myspace after a random chat.. FIRST CHAT BTW.. was well flattered and took up the offer, that was 18months ago and prob the best decision i ever made! So whats to loose op!

G'luck!

Same ere! (Well except for the myspace bit, and the first chat, and well everything else except the part in bold) :pac:

hussey

Thaedydal wrote: »

Some do, most don't, many like the idea of it but when it happens get shocked/stunned/freaked.

opposite way around in my opinion

Most DO, some don't.

I don't think any modern guy would be freaked at all. <edit> maybe freaked if asked out on a bebo page by a stranger </edit>

Let's face it if a girl askes us out, our ego gets inflated ... and this can be a welcome surprise

RealistSpy

The Mighty Ken wrote: »

+1

+2

SnowMonkey

I ogt askeed the other day would i like to go for a drink or 5 bye a girl...
I was chuffed. Its a good feeling....

So yeah we do..

Overheal

I appear to have been asked out. I dunno what happened. Its like (yesterday) Oh Hey Come Bowling, which turned into 2 hours of bowling with people tonight, then 3 hours of talking in a casual restaurant 1 on 1 with the girl - but what do I know about america anymore right?

I was more confused than chuffed I guess :pac:

LegacyUser

We love it... I do anyway

Reku

Thaedydal wrote: »

Some do, most don't, many like the idea of it but when it happens get shocked/stunned/freaked.

Just shows you ladies need to do it more so it's not so unexpected when one does.;) If a lad did genuinely have an issue with it then that just sounds like he's a bit on the immature side and you're probably better off not getting to know him better.

I have once been asked out by a girl, turned her down because I barely knew her and my heart belonged to another at the time.

To me it just says that the girl has confidence, which is a good thing.:)

MuPpItJoCkEy

Arther Atkinson wrote: »

We love it... I do anyway

Completely agree. Isn't it flattering for a girl to be asked out, we'll same goes for a bloke. It's flattering. Simple as.

I also think the fact that women as men to marry them now a days is also cool.

We live in them times now.

There ya's have it.