Ex girlfriend spills all!

courageoussteve

Ok I just need to get this off my chest,
I was going out with my ex girlfriend for 2 years

ex was best friends with one of my best friends (best friend A).

Also one of my lifelong best friends (best friend is in a serious relationship with one of my ex’s best friends (friend C).

(I feel like I should be drawing a diagram! :-D)

Anyway over the course of the relationship I told my ex some very personal stuff and she told me some very personal stuff.

Since she broke up with me. I have done my best to remain on good terms with her, as we have a lot of mutual friends.

To be honest I thought we where on good terms, as a group we have all been out together had a few laughs etc.

Anyway Best friend A let slip over the weekend that my ex had spilled all.
Not sure what to do, I know, I can’t face my friends now, knowing what they know !!!

Just really sad and so annoyed / angry that I am going to lose some of my best friends over this :(:( (girls are evil :mad:)

p.s. apologies for the cryptic post!

g'em

No matter what the information is, the only one who'll come out of this looking bad is her. She's proven herself to be untrustworthy and sly and your friends will quickly realise that.

dreamr

so friend A told you that your ex told him/her everything. did ur ex tell friends B and C, or did A do that for your ex?

sorry to here ur ex is a sh*te.

Looby_Loo

Ah I dont think you will lose your friends, like g'em said your ex will come out of this looking a lot worse. You dont have to badmouth her in retaliation, if its brought up by anyone again just say that those things were told in confidence and you were/ are upset that she told others and then leave it at that

Beruthiel

courageoussteve wrote: »

Anyway Best friend A let slip over the weekend that my ex had spilled all.
Not sure what to do, I know, I can’t face my friends now, knowing what they know !!!

She's a bitch with zero class.
Whatever you decide, do not be dragged down to her level.
Say nothing and leave her to show her true colours.

courageoussteve

Cheers folks, kind of knew it already,
but great to have people who agree with me .

Beruthiel wrote: »

She's a bitch with zero class.
Whatever you decide, do not be dragged down to her level.
Say nothing and leave her to show her true colours.

I had thought about spilling her beans,
but that would make me a sh*te, so I won't do that.

Ah it's just cr*p situation, don't want to start a row (mostly because I won't win :P:P).

Good friends are hard to come by!

And there's going to be all those weddings.

Which I'm going to go to mortified or not (can't miss those!)

MJOR

What a total b!itch. I cannot get over that ! She won't be smelling of roses i can tell you and nobody will be rushing to confide in her:mad:

Aurora Borealis

She is definitely the one who looks worse in this.
Head up high!

Marksie

courageoussteve wrote: »

I had thought about spilling her beans,
but that would make me a sh*te, so I won't do that.

Well now, if someone says something to you, that is the perfect response

AngryBadger

g'em wrote: »

No matter what the information is, the only one who'll come out of this looking bad is her. She's proven herself to be untrustworthy and sly and your friends will quickly realise that.

+1

Lucy Locket

Have not got advice sorry, but she is def a cow, and an imature person - that is going to come back and bite her in the bum - We call always count on Karma!!!

You did good by not dropping to her level!!

MagicMarker

Don't worry about your friends. If they are true friends then they won't think badly of you regardless of what they know now.

Personally though, i'd be giving her a call and telling her to keep her mouth shut in future.

Grawns

If I'm reading this right, she broke up with you and then betrayed your confidence. What a cow. It can be true that hell hath no fury etc... but she broke up with you and then did this!

Redpunto

Classy lady :P

MissHoneyBun

Unfortunately I know all too well what this feels like OP. It's pretty crushing but retain your dignity and take comfort in the fact that your ex obviously has none.

allybhoy

Yeh man thats happened once or twice to me and a few of my mates with ex's. Dont mean to sound sexist or anything but from my experience girls are a lot more vindictive and nasty when things go pear shaped in relationships. A friend of mine split up with a girl last october (he thought amicably) and xmas week we were all in a nightclub when about 4bouncers came over to him and dragged him into an underground carpark and battered him, his ex was in the club aswell and told the bouncers that he had punched her in the face! Then she walked over to all of us and said "Tell x I said happy christmas" The best thing you can do though is just to hold your head high and show her you have moved on.

Karen_*

Op your friends will all have things that they would like kept in confidence and therefore they will feel bad for you that you ever met her and think she's a total wagon. Which she is.

the_syco

allybhoy wrote: »

about 4bouncers came over to him and dragged him into an underground carpark and battered him, his ex was in the club aswell and told the bouncers that he had punched her in the face!

I don't condone vio... ah, actually I would in this case. Hope she got what was due.

=-=

OP: if they're yer mates, they'll have a fair idea of the sh|te, and even if she told a few bad truths about them, chances are they won't believe her, as she's spreading sh|te like a farmer spreading manure. And they'll laugh at the rest. If they can't be your mates after a vindictive b|tch told them a few lies, they ain't really good mates.

courageoussteve

Hi Folks,

Cheers for all the replies

She's probably been at this for a while and the sky has not fallen.

I'm a big boy, so I going to grow a pair and brazen it out. (i'm very bave when on boards!)

The thing that got me is, I was talking to my flatmate about this and she said girls do this all the time,
and that it was our friends fault for letting it slip,
Apparently there is some unwritten rule between girls

P.s.

She's definitely off my Christmas card list

Singer73

I want to know the details. Sounds like this is bad stuff. Did you rob a bank? Sleep with the president?

courageoussteve

Robbed a bank and Sleep with the president (Ah Mary!). And that was just for starters :P

g'em

courageoussteve wrote: »

She's probably been at this for a while and the sky has not fallen...
She's definitely off my Christmas card list

courageoussteve wrote: »

Robbed a bank and Sleep with the president (Ah Mary!). And that was just for starters :P

You have a sense of humour about it, you're being level-headed and practical about the situation and that in itself is proving that you're the better person. Fcuk her, she sounds like a troubled child tbh.

turgon

The way I see it, your dad could have been Josef Stalin, but what she has done has made you a WAY better person than her.

Take some comfort that you have bit of dignity.

Then put on the Gladiator soundtrack -> song no. 3, you will always get of confidence from Roman style music!