In love but don't know whether to go further

LegacyUser

.....Ok so I'm 20 and I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost 3 months. I've recently fallen hard for him but I'm reluctant to have sex. I really do want to but it worries me if something goes wrong.
I think he knows how strongly I feel for him but I don't know what to do from here.....

I know the answer from some will be "well if you really love him, you wouldn't be questioning it"....truth is, I think you have to question things like this. Am I better off talking to him about everything?

Dragan

Yes, you are much better off talking to him about things to be honest.

There is nothing wrong with a little confusion and even fear about this subject.

Go at your own pace.

RedXIV

If you can nail communication in a relationship, everything will fall into place, talk to the guy, trust me, it'll make things alot easier

Miss Fluff

consufed monkey wrote: »

I've recently fallen hard for him but I'm reluctant to have sex. I really do want to but it worries me if something goes wrong.

Hi OP, it's not clear from your post why you are reluctant to have sex. What do you mean "if something goes wrong"? Are you referring to something going wrong in your relationship or something going wrong while you are having sex? I'm confused.

STUBBORNGIRL

hey OP there is nothing wrong with holding out! it only matters if your boyfriend is putting pressure on you to have sex with him or if you feel obliged to. I think Communication is definitely the best course of action here!

Are you afraid you will get pregnant and be left as a single mother or what are your fears? Im not sure if you are a virgin or not but either way if you are unsure about having sex with someone then reality is you shouldnt have sex with them! well not until you have spoken to your boyfriend about your concerns first. He may well understand and give you all the time you need in the world!

I would definitely be of the opinion that you shouldnt be having sex with someone that you know you couldnt see sticking by you if you did get pregnant.

At the end of the day you are the only one that can decide if you are ready to have sex with your boyfriend and from what you have written in this thread i would say you are not. But enjoy spending time with your boyfriend and when it happens it happens and i am sure it will be brilliant :)Good luck

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies....

STUBBORNGIRL...really helpful! Thank you

MJOR

I get what you are saying.... Explain to him your rreasons and if he is a good guy he'll say "no problem".

There is no rush and you're right to hold out a little

LegacyUser

Planning to have sex or thinking about it to much ruins the whole thing and you usually both end up disappointed. Just continue as things are and the right opportunity will present itself. Just make sure to have some birth control .