Privacy at home - your opinion

LegacyUser

I'd value your opinion on this:

I like in my own house where I share with 2 people, one male, one female. The girl has the downstairs room with windows to the front and side of the house. My dad has the habit of coming around the back of the house (at times letting himself into the house if he thinks no one there). To come around the back he has to pass the girl's windows which have curtain but not net. He's the only person who comes around the back. The kitchen at the back is very open with large windows and sliding door. Am I right to ask him to ring the doorbell when he calls. He has always had a habit of just turning up, sometimes he'll start doing work in the garden without being asked. I don't want my tenants/housemates to be surprised by him. We all adults and sometimes there may be "visitors" so I'd like them to feel their privacy is respected - am I going too far?

MagicMarker

Nope.

eVeNtInE

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Wagon

MagicMarker wrote: »

Nope.

+1

Beruthiel

It's no big deal to just mention to your Da that as her window is at the side of the house, it maybe better if he just rings the doorbell. That way he doesn't scare her by walking by the window. I'm sure he'll completely understand that.

Marksie

Beruthiel wrote: »

It's no big deal to just mention to your Da that as her window is at the side of the house, it maybe better if he just rings the doorbell. That way he doesn't scare her by walking by the window. I'm sure he'll completely understand that.

+1
dont make a big deal with it just let him know what you ahve told us (with the exception of the visitors part of course)

Deadeyes

Your tenants have a right to privacy, even a landlord shouldn't enter a house without prior notification never mind their father. I know you live there but I'm talking in general terms. The people you share with haven't brought up the issue so maybe they don't mind or perhaps they are afraid to raise the issue because his your father.

seamus

Beruthiel wrote: »

It's no big deal to just mention to your Da that as her window is at the side of the house, it maybe better if he just rings the doorbell. That way he doesn't scare her by walking by the window. I'm sure he'll completely understand that.

+2

This is a fairly common thing for families to do when calling over to eachother's homes, but you may just want to nicely remind him that it's not just your home, so he needs to ask permission from those you're sharing with, or at least let them know that he's there, by knocking on the door

Certainly when I was sharing with someone, it would have been weird if his Dad just arrived and started doing the garden, but if he knocked on the door and told me that he was here to do the garden, I would have let him in and stuck on the kettle.

dudara

seamus wrote: »

you may just want to nicely remind him that it's not just your home, so he needs to ask permission from those you're sharing with, or at least let them know that he's there, by knocking on the door

I think it's only fair to ask family and visitors to knock on the front door.

MJOR

Just ask him to use the front door.... do it in a nice way and explain that the girl downstairs might be in the pelt when he walks by her window:eek:

Clink

He should ring the doorbell, as someone else said even a landlord doesn't have the right to go straight into the house never mind your dad.

My uncle owned the last house that I rented and even though he was family (my cousins- his children- also lived there) he'd always ring the bell. Common courtesy.

Beerlao

if one of my housemates' parents just swanned on into my house by the back door anytime they felt like it i'd certainly have a problem with that. if your housemates don't mind that's fair enough, but if you were living with me i'd ask you to tell your dad to use the doorbell like anyone else.

marti101

Especially the girl downstairs doesnt want to be caught in a compromising position.Just be nice about it and tell him to ring doorbell.

hockeygirl

If this is a rented house the landlord must give prior notification if he is to enter the building.... even if he is related to you....

Maybe it would be a good idea to organise a specific day in the week or time when he will be there so that the housemates wont be surprised if he shows up.

Redpunto

yeh, even though hes doin ya a favour by workin on the garden i think he should just the bell a ring so as if there is anyone in the house they know someones around. It shows respect and common courtesy.