I think I'm falling in love with my friend

LegacyUser

I'm in love with my friend who i just so happen to be sleeping with! Big woops there! I'm usually very easygoing and can block off emotion if i think there's nothing to chase. In this case i'm unsure however. At times he really seems to like me, before we got together it was him that used to be more flirty than i would have been. He was the one sendin the signals. But we somehow said or didnt say that it was just sex. I can't really remember. Now i want more, one of his close guy friends said he thinks it could easily be a mutual feeling because he has never been the type for just sleepin with someone and that be it. But I just dont know, I'm afraid to tell him i like him. It wouldn't change our friendship but i know it would stop the way things currently are which i don't really want. I just want to be sure i like him before i say anything. When i bear in mind i came out of relationship very shortly before we got together (our flirting may have been the nudge we needed) i wonder if its just the comfort of being with someone. But at the same time i'm just not sure. Shud i go for it?

towel401

just tell him.

LegacyUser

Just go for it! If you really believe that it could work, you should definitely tell him. You say that you've heard that he's not the type to be sleeping around, that should be enough of a signal for you to go ahead and take a chance. He sounds like a fairly decent lad, so if I were you I'd go for it. Don't worry about ruining your friendship, if that was going to happen it would have done when you first slept together. Good luck!!

Colonel_McCoy

I agree.......have no regrets

Wagon

Tell him.

MJOR

Tell him.. The longer it goes on the harder it'll be to tell him...

Looby_Loo

^^^^^^
What they said.

junior_apollo

Looby_Loo wrote: »

^^^^^^
What they said.

+1

forestfruits

You are sleeping with him, talking to him shouldnt be that difficult!
tell him. Cant see how talking to him could damage your friendship anymore than sleeping with him!:rolleyes:

RedXIV

You didn't list one good reason not to tell him, so guess what my advice is?

i'll give you a clue, it's been said already

ShawnRaven

+1
You're both sleeping together, you're both unattached. Bite the bullet. You've nothing to lose unless one of you are easily embarrassed.

VR!

LegacyUser

Ok seein as everybody thinks the same thing i'm going to go for it! I may need a few drinks beforehand!!!

MJOR

don't drink he'll think tis the drink talking:eek:

AngryBadger

Grr!! wrote: »

It wouldn't change our friendship but i know it would stop the way things currently are which i don't really want.

Say it for this reason alone.

If you don't then you're settling for the physical intimacy, instead of the emotional imtimacy you crave.

LegacyUser

AngryBadger wrote: »

Say it for this reason alone.

If you don't then you're settling for the physical intimacy, instead of the emotional imtimacy you crave.

True, I suppose it'll just be making things worse for me if i don't tell him now. I'm afraid of scaring him off completely though, you know, losing him as a friend if he has no interest in me in that way.

kittensoft1984

coming from someone who "told him" - DONT DO IT!!!!

I was in exactly the same place as you a while back and i told him.....and it ruined everything

if you are going to tell him, please make sure that you at least have a fair idea that he feels the same.......otherwise you will get hurt

Overheal

kittensoft1984 wrote: »

coming from someone who "told him" - DONT DO IT!!!!

I was in exactly the same place as you a while back and i told him.....and it ruined everything

if you are going to tell him, please make sure that you at least have a fair idea that he feels the same.......otherwise you will get hurt

do you really fell though things would have been better if you kept it from him?

petethebrick

I'm in sort of a similiar situation to you OP. Became friends with this girl a few months ago and during this time I've come to consider her one of my closest friends- crazy I know^^There were some feelings from the start on my part anyway, but she was going out with someone else until recently. They've split up now and in the past week or so we've been with each other a few times, haven't slept together or nothing though. I'm starting to really fall for her I think- the whole butterflies in stomach thing etc etc Not sure if she feels like this though as even when we'd kissed and all we both sorta brushed aside talking about it, I think it may be a case of her just wanting to stay friends. Think I'm just gonna tell her tbh though. I always think it's better to regret something you did than something you didn't do^^wish me luck...

LegacyUser

Oh i'm all nervous about it now! I still think i should tell him, cuz if he has no feelings for me at this stage (its been going on bout 4 months) then he won't have feelings for me in the future. He said we were too good friends to ever not be again over something like this anyway! At least if i tell him, i'll know and i can move on with him still as a very close friend. The majority of people are right i think, kittensoft, i'm sorry for you but i think if i kept this going with him not feelin the same way i'd be hurt even more in the long run. It will be easier to deal with it at this stage.

petethebrick

Yeah, go for it I reckon. Best of luck.