Majority of male workers feel sexually harrassed by female colleagues

tech77

http://www.independent.ie/national-news/majority-of-male-workers-sexually-harassed-by-female-colleagues-1425237.html

Anyone else read this story.
Seems a bit unbelievable .

A lot of guys here might be thinking where the fcuk is all this harrassment going on and why isn't it happening to me.

But seriously is sexual aggressivity in women something to be absolutely admired.

And to what point is it admirable.
Female sexual confidence of course is admirable but sexual aggression/acting and dressing like strippers- is it only a matter of time before that becomes a feminist ideal (or is it already?).

Is it sexist to think agressiveness is more naturally a male trait though
(biologically at least) and that it's a bit incongruous to have the roles reversed.

And what fuels this revolution- is it mainly a media-driven thing.

Not really arguing either way tbh- just genuinely interested in what people (women especially i guess) think reasonable female sexual aggressivity is.


Edit: can't seem to get the link to work sorry.
Maybe someone else could find it.

Looby_Loo

Heard that on the radio the other day. It said something like 75% of males in the workplace have experienced sexual harrassment and of that number 80 something % are afraid to report it.
I have no doubt that it happens but to that extent- I dont think so. The DJ said it was probably an Irish survey and the respondents were probably taking the piss.
I work in a predominantly female environment but that day I was working with 3 guys and they all joked about it

Supercell

I wish some female would get sexual with me in the workplace (as long as she's not a heifer).

kowloon

If that is true I'm either incredibly ugly or working with lesbians. :mad:

Firewalkwithme

Yeah make a joke out of it.

I know what it's like - for 75% of my working day I do nothing but try to fend off the perverted wimmin in my workplace. It's almost impossible to get anything done especially with my male boss who sexually harrasses me for the remaining 25% of my day. He says if I complain that he will sack me for not getting any work done so what's a guy to do?

Looby_Loo

Cartoon_Head wrote: »

Yeah make a joke out of it.

I know what it's like - for 75% of my working day I do nothing but try to fend off the perverted wimmin in my workplace. It's almost impossible to get anything done especially with my male boss who sexually harrasses me for the remaining 25% of my day. He says if I complain that he will sack me for not getting any work done so what's a guy to do?

You must be awful hawt altogether

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Oh, bring it on, baby, bring it on!

AlmightyCushion

Cartoon_Head wrote: »

Yeah make a joke out of it.

I know what it's like - for 75% of my working day I do nothing but try to fend off the perverted wimmin in my workplace. It's almost impossible to get anything done especially with my male boss who sexually harrasses me for the remaining 25% of my day. He says if I complain that he will sack me for not getting any work done so what's a guy to do?

Suck your boss off.

ThE_IVIAcIVIAIV

i get sexually harassed by the 2 women i work with

Wertz

Curse this lack of females in my particular field of work...

*wolf whistles at passing wimminz from scaffold*

Firewalkwithme

Looby_Loo wrote: »

You must be awful hawt altogether

yeah - these 12 hour days are tough. Even then I have to stand on the train home - me arse does me killin me after work.

Firewalkwithme

AlmightyCushion wrote: »

Suck your boss off.

I thought it was understood from my first post that I already have to

Looby_Loo

Wertz wrote: »

Curse this lack of females in my particular field of work...

*wolf whistles at passing wimminz from scaffold*

But if you are on scaffolding then you probably are being sexually harrassed- you just cant hear what the wimmins are saying about you

Wertz

Yeah but they're not my colleagues so it's okay.

Kold

Clitoral circumcisions. It works for some Muslim countries, it could work for us.

Sherifu

I'm not being sexually harrassed. ;_;

Wertz

Sherifu wrote: »

I'm not being sexually harrassed. ;_;

*slaps Sherifu on the arse*

Now where the hell is my coffee?

Firewalkwithme

Sherifu wrote: »

I'm not being sexually harrassed. ;_;

Your avatar suggests you may be more likely to be the harrassor than the harrassee.

dotsman

Well, 8 out of the 8 guys I work with said they have been so that's 100% where I am!

The definition we used is that "if the roles had been reversed and it was a guy doing/saying it to a woman, and the woman complained, then it would have been defined as sexual harrasment". This was mainly along the lines of sexual jokes/innuendo, porn (women have no problem putting up pictures of topless men as screensavers/images on their computer), or "offensive" comments about the male gender.

R0ot

Where are all these sexual harassing women?! I demand to know!

kaimera

I sexually harass myself @ werk

Faith

I sexually harrass all my male co-workers. They love it though.

Looby_Loo

My male coworkers were asking me to harrass them after they heard about the report- and they married men.:eek:

Wertz

Looby_Loo wrote: »

and they married men.:eek:

Yeah I mean what gives...you'd think they'd be harrassed enough by now...

dotsman

R0ot wrote: »

Where are all these sexual harassing women?! I demand to know!

pretty much every woman is a sexual harasser. Them and their bloody double standards:rolleyes:

kaimera

Faith wrote: »

I sexually harrass all my male co-workers. They love it though.

Looby_Loo wrote: »

My male coworkers were asking me to harrass them after they heard about the report- and they married men.:eek:

See R0ot...there's some harassing wimmen!

MissHoneyBun

Men get all the fuppin perks :mad:

Rb

Funny that if it were the other way around there'd be f*cking outrage. You'd have women chaining themselves to the rails at the Dail, women going on strike in work etc etc :rolleyes:

Agent Smith

nobody ever sexually harrasses me

Sleepy

I've certainly experienced colleagues displaying misandrist attitudes on a regular basis. If that qualifies as harrassment (like I'm sure many women would contend displays of misogneny does) then yes, I've been 'harrassed'.

jayteecork

Rb wrote: »

Funny that if it were the other way around there'd be f*cking outrage. You'd have women chaining themselves to the rails at the Dail, women going on strike in work etc etc :rolleyes:

Yeah anything to do against white males is seen as humourous.

You make a pass at a female it's harrasment, say a black guy isn't pulling his weight it's racism, chinese guy overlooked for a promotion racism again.

But anything directed against white males is just seen as a bit of a laugh.

jaffa20

Kold wrote: »

Clitoral circumcisions. It works for some Muslim countries, it could work for us.

i actually wrote an essay on female circumcision for my degree. very interesting indeed from a cultural perspective..

Rb

jayteecork wrote: »

Yeah anything to do against white males is seen as humourous.

You make a pass at a female it's harrasment, say a black guy isn't pulling his weight it's racism, chinese guy overlooked for a promotion racism again.

But anything directed against white males is just seen as a bit of a laugh.

Indeed. Good point about the racism, sexism etc. also

Sherifu

Wertz wrote: »

*slaps Sherifu on the arse*

Now where the hell is my coffee?

Ohhhh, that's better!

Cartoon_Head wrote: »

Your avatar suggests you may be more likely to be the harrassor than the harrassee.

I is innocentz!

R0ot

Faith wrote: »

I sexually harrass all my male co-workers. They love it though.

How about you me and a whip Saturday night? :pac:

Kold

jaffa20 wrote: »

i actually wrote an essay on female circumcision for my degree. very interesting indeed from a cultural perspective..

Pervert.

turgon

jayteecork wrote: »

You make a pass at a female it's harrasment, say a black guy isn't pulling his weight it's racism, chinese guy overlooked for a promotion racism again.

Shut up white boy!!!!


:D:D:D:D:D

Calibos

I would imagine the same amount of 'Harassment' goes on in the workplace by both genders.

The reason it seems to be men doing most of the harassing is this.

A man is sexually harassing his female co-Worker if she doesn't fancy him.

Men on the other hand nearly always take the 'harassing' as a compliment no matter how ugly the woman is and regardless of whether he fancies her, so to him its not harassment.

The men who do claim harassment? They're the men who only ever get harassed by munters and finally reach breaking point and take it out on the poor munter by filing a complaint, "Whats wrong with me, why is it only ugly munters that harass me. Why can't the gorgeous brunette down the hall harass me?"

jaffa20

Kold wrote: »

Pervert.

huh, u brought it up. i guess only the educated can understand it. anyway, comments like that aren't allowed on boards so i'd be careful because you came across as serious and abusive.

MissHoneyBun

jayteecork wrote: »

Yeah anything to do against white males is seen as humourous.

You make a pass at a female it's harrasment, say a black guy isn't pulling his weight it's racism, chinese guy overlooked for a promotion racism again.

But anything directed against white males is just seen as a bit of a laugh.

Tis true.

Dudess

jaffa20 wrote: »

huh, u brought it up. i guess only the educated can understand it. anyway, comments like that aren't allowed on boards so i'd be careful because you came across as serious and abusive.

It's not serious jaffa20. That's how some AH users roll. Ignore.

jaffa20

Dudess wrote: »

It's not serious jaffa20. That's how some AH users roll. Ignore.

32

grand but if it had been followed by "lol" or the likes it might have been clearer. anyhu, no worries

randylonghorn

jayteecork wrote: »

Yeah anything to do against white males is seen as humourous.

You make a pass at a female it's harrasment, say a black guy isn't pulling his weight it's racism, chinese guy overlooked for a promotion racism again.

But anything directed against white males is just seen as a bit of a laugh.

Calibos wrote: »

I would imagine the same amount of 'Harassment' goes on in the workplace by both genders.

The reason it seems to be men doing most of the harassing is this.

A man is sexually harassing his female co-Worker if she doesn't fancy him.

Men on the other hand nearly always take the 'harassing' as a compliment no matter how ugly the woman is and regardless of whether he fancies her, so to him its not harassment.

There's truth in both those statements ... not 100% of the time, but enough of the time for them to resonate ...

Calibos wrote: »

The men who do claim harassment? They're the men who only ever get harassed by munters and finally reach breaking point and take it out on the poor munter by filing a complaint, "Whats wrong with me, why is it only ugly munters that harass me. Why can't the gorgeous brunette down the hall harass me?"

Not so sure about that bit, could happen I suppose but I think often when a man actually shouts "sexual harassment" there's probably some basis for it, as the usual reaction even from his male colleagues will seldom be supportive ... men are conditioned to think that it is somewhat wussy to complain about any kind of sexual attention from a woman, no matter how inappropriate. As a result, most men wouldn't rush to make such a claim, believing they had more to lose than to gain.

jaffa20 wrote: »

grand but if it had been followed by "lol" or the likes it might have been clearer. anyhu, no worries

An emoticon might have helped, but aye, sounds like a tongue-in-cheek comment to me ...

Terry

Stop harassing me, Dudess.

Dudess

It's great being the only female moderating this forum (sometimes, depending on Tar's mood). I get to do SO much sexual harassing!

Dragan

Sexual harassment is a matter of perspective really. It's just that perspective changes between people, sexes, races, roles and situations.

I remember once a manager in work kicked off a meeting with "I wonder if we can make you wear tight t-shirts everyday?" ,aimed at myself.

I didn't give a ****, it was complimentary as far as i was concerned. Another guy might not have liked that particular attention.

Personally, a bit of sexual harassment never hurt....helps to pass the day.

Kiera

Dragan wrote: »

Sexual harassment is a matter of perspective really. It's just that perspective changes between people, sexes, races, roles and situations.

I remember once a manager in work kicked off a meeting with "I wonder if we can make you wear tight t-shirts everyday?" ,aimed at myself.

I didn't give a ****, it was complimentary as far as i was concerned. Another guy might not have liked that particular attention.

Personally, a bit of sexual harassment never hurt....helps to pass the day.

Got any pics of you in this tight t-shirt??

Black Swan

Wertz wrote: »

*wolf whistles at passing wimminz from scaffold*

Wolf whistles back! Ha!

Dragan

Kiera wrote: »

Got any pics of you in this tight t-shirt??

Why Kiera, are you harassing me?

Tis all getting very Disclosure in here.

Toto Wolfcastle

Agent Smith wrote: »

nobody ever sexually harrasses me

That's your choice.

Dudess

Leave him alone - he's not an object! :pac: