When did you say 'I love you'??

SarahSassy

Just reading a thread in PI about a guy who didnt love his gf after 9 months :

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055327427

So I am curious - how soon did you or your OH say those little 3 words?? When is too soon? When is too late???

My OH and I took about 2 months which seems like such a short time but it felt right and we had spent a lot of time talking and seeing each other so it seemed normal....

Jules

You know when its right, but i think it is over used and seriously losing its mean.

Oh Sassy how the mighty have fallen!

Jules

now now love, love changes everything!!!!!

Puddleduck

Quite soon in to the realationship, but I gotta say, you just know when youve got one for keeps

Ickle Magoo

I think it was after about 6wks...

We spent all our spare time together after we met, stayed every night in one or others flat so it made sense to move in together when our leases came up a couple of months later. It was pretty instantaneous.

Looby_Loo

Both times after about two or three months.

SarahSassy

Moonbaby wrote: »

Oh Sassy how the mighty have fallen!

One of these days I may een be called a romantic

omb0wyn5ehpij9

Looby_Loo wrote: »

Both times after about two or three months.

X2

jellie

last bf think it was after about 4 months, hed said it after 2 and freaked me out a bit. but i think he falls in & out of love too easily..

last i remember the OP was trying to get threads for the single girls! nice to know theres some people falling in love when there seems to be so many other people breaking up.. happy for you SarahSassy

Dudess

SarahSassy wrote: »

My OH and I took about 2 months which seems like such a short time but it felt right and we had spent a lot of time talking and seeing each other so it seemed normal....

Wow! It only seems like yesterday since you were talking about being single.

Nice one girl! And if it took two months... seems like it's going along very nicely.

Best wishes to ya

SarahSassy

Thanks all Early days and I am taking it (relatively) slowly so we will see but I am just living in the moment and not planning ahead.... Meeting him was very, very random and not expected - just what I thought would never happen to me...

omb0wyn5ehpij9

SarahSassy wrote: »

Thanks all Early days and I am taking it (relatively) slowly so we will see but I am just living in the moment and not planning ahead.... Meeting him was very, very random and not expected - just what I thought would never happen to me...

After reading this, I have to ask.....how did you meet him!?

Mrs_Doyle

I can still remember making the incredibly monumental move to change 'LUV U' to 'LOVE YOU' in a text message to my boyfriend.
Ha! It was such a big deal to me at the time.
It felt like I was waiting ages for him to reply (it was probably only 5 minutes in REAL time), and when he finally got back to me he text "LOVE YOU TOO" and I was delighted!

MissHoneyBun

I remember being absolutely gobsmacked when himself first said those words I'm not even sure why because to be honest, it was literally tangible and felt so very right, despite being very early days. Im not one to bandy those words about and I know he's not either so I knew it was the start of something pretty special. Two and a half years later, life is more great than I could hope for. And this post sounds like a re-run of Oprah.

Nevyn

I am more likely to say I hate you and usually means there is passion and they are getting under my skin enough for me to notice it.

cuckoo

Leaving aside the relationship duration for a moment, anyone else find it tricky to find the right moment to say it for the first time?

For instance, i might feel comfortable saying it with someone i was tucked up in bed with, but only so long as both of us were in our pjs. As said upthread, those 3 words can be a little overused, and i wouldn't like the first time i heard it to be in the midst of passion for instance - i'd like it to be when both of us weren't 'distracted' by anything.

Also, saying it at the end of a phone call (again, for the first ILY only) seems a little abrupt. But - leaning across the candlelit dinner table to take their hands and look deeply into their eyes with the big declaration is a bit OTT....

Scary business, and then there's the fear that the response will be "i love U2...they're a great band".

CathyMoran

It sounds terrible, but I dont remember when we first said I love you, though he tells me that I said it first, I already knew from his actions that he did. I know that it was only a short while after we started dating and that it was not a big deal for us because of the above.

watna

I think it was about 2 months. Although, he said he knew before we even got together properly (he chased me for a little while!). When I said it, he'd already said it to me but I hadn't said it back. I didn't want to say it when I didb't mean it or it didn't feel right.

Now we say it to each other at least once a day and I always know he means it and isn't just saying it for the sake of it!

Laurs_civic

few weeks it was but it was right and we tell each other loads of times a day now
You know when its right

Reku

I said it when I felt it.
I tend to fall hard and fast though so it can be a while before they're willing to say it back, if ever. But then it wouldn't be so meaningful were it not exposing ourselves to the risk of it not being recipricated.

FlexiLexi

after two weeks... i know that seems a little soon, but each to their own i say, a year and a half and we are still happily together!!!

Malari

7 days! I remember the instant I fell in love with him, thinking "that was quick", but I didn't say anything.

And a few hours later he said "did I ever tell you I love you? Well I love you."

Still in love after 3 yrs.

Clare Bear

Dudess wrote: »

Wow! It only seems like yesterday since you were talking about being single.

Nice one girl! And if it took two months... seems like it's going along very nicely.

Best wishes to ya

+1 Another Ladies Lounge girl that deserves some happiness. Delighted for you SS Aww so happy to see that post, go you

With me, he kept hinting at it after a few weeks saying things like he's never felt like this before and he was falling for me etc....I think he probably saw from the look of horror on my face that I wasn't ready to say it (but it takes a lot for me to say those three words, I think some people say them too easily)....anyway 2 and a half months later we were sitting on a wall down the beach, he said it and I said it back and it was very lovely. Then a dog came along and jumped on me and ruined it all but it was nice while it lasted

All you need is love

ntlbell

Thaedydal wrote: »

I am more likely to say I hate you and usually means there is passion and they are getting under my skin enough for me to notice it.

such a romantic!

you're single right?

ntlbell

CathyMoran wrote: »

It sounds terrible, but I dont remember when we first said I love you, though he tells me that I said it first, I already knew from his actions that he did. I know that it was only a short while after we started dating and that it was not a big deal for us because of the above.

I was just thinking the same thing I haven't a clue when I said it.

Jules

ntlbell wrote: »

such a romantic!

you're single right?

Do you not remember the first interaction with boys/girls. Running around the play ground and chasing and hating them. I always remember my first boyfriend when i was 8, i remember cuz he is still my friend. I always used to say i hated him and he would pull my hair and be mean to me, but i always called around to his house to see if he was coming out to play.

When someone can push your buttons, right or wrong, there is always something more interesting about them.

ntlbell

Jules wrote: »

Do you not remember the first interaction with boys/girls. Running around the play ground and chasing and hating them. I always remember my first boyfriend when i was 8, i remember cuz he is still my friend. I always used to say i hated him and he would pull my hair and be mean to me, but i always called around to his house to see if he was coming out to play.

When someone can push your buttons, right or wrong, there is always something more interesting about them.

I remember it all right, when I was 8

Jules

I didn't mean it in the actual sense of the word. One of those things, your mum always ah look she has a little boyfriend. You really need to get a grip of yourself there.

Internets... Serious Business!

ntlbell

Jules wrote: »

I didn't mean it in the actual sense of the word. One of those things, your mum always ah look she has a little boyfriend. You really need to get a grip of yourself there.

Internets... Serious Business!

Too busy gripping my wife by neck!

you know, so she knows I care

Jules

I think if i was your wife i would have gotten to you first!

ntlbell

Jules wrote: »

I think if i was your wife i would have gotten to you first!

awww

You're so cute!

Jules

I know, if only i could pull your hair then i know it would be love!

ntlbell

Jules wrote: »

I know, if only i could pull your hair then i know it would be love!

I hate you.:mad:

Jules

Ok ok enough of the banter back on topic. With less of the comments about other users.

Kidd-o

ohh, he said it to me after 2 months, well we were together a month and had been seeing each other a month previous. i just didnt say anything!!! it was actually quite sad! :O but i said it the following week, and explained why i was quite!!

Lil' Smiler

My OH told me 3 months in but had wanted to tell me before that. Apparently I kinda ruined it when we were in Paris by saying "god it's so cheesy telling people you love them under the Eiffel Tower".. he had thought about doing it... I love cheesy-lovey-ness!!

So instead of January it was February, I'd felt it for a long long time as we'd been friends and had seen each other when we were younger and I always knew there was something different about the way I felt about him even compared to my 2 and a half year boyfriend!

He knew I'd been very hurt form my last relationship and said that he didn't want me to say it back to him if I wasn't ready or I didn't feel it.And then like a big gimp I started crying and then told him I love him too.Aww:rolleyes:

af_thefragile

It was about 2 months in i told my ex "i like you".
Another month, it became "i love you".
Another month, we were officially in a relationship!

Madame Razz

Slightly pissed....up against the wardrobe in my bedroom....we both said it almost simultaneously after a bit of hesitation.

We were together about two months at that stage and both of us had wanted to say it sooner but were worried that we might put the other off by revealing or feelings too soon!

We were together for three years and it was a fantastic relationship.

We're broken up 18months now but still are the best of friends; we decided we had been through too much to lose the friendship.


Ithink you just know when its right to say it; it is overused tho; but very special when you really mean it. Above is a moment i will cherish for the rest of my days!

mollybird

i think i said it after 7 months to my o/h. he said it to me 5 months after that to say it to me but i didnt' really feel it. so to me when he said it was 7 months after that. he ain't a man of many words but i know he loves me deeply:)

I really was sure but saying it felt so scary like its not just a statement
Its a declaration of love.. and with that comes a future and plans etc
Well it does with me as Love isn't something I take lightly
We were together 7 months and were both said it together
We say it probably too much now but I never stop meaning it

Crumble Froo

heh, we were such good mates first, that we'd been saying it before we actually copped that we fancied each other!

i do recall very clearly though, the first time he used the words 'true love'. absolutely no idea how long it took though.

Curio

Hmmm. He said it after 7 months.... I havent said it yet....a further 15 months later. Methinks there is a problem...

Before you judge however, I do love him. Not sure why I havent said it, but as a wild guess, I suppose I must have some 'issues' ;-)

Loopy

It was a long time before I said it.. I don't use the term lightly and had to be sure...

My last gf said it to me when she was hammered, I didnt say it back, we broke up a month later....its over used nowadays IMO. I think some people THINK theyre in love and can grow into it (this happened me and I realised that when Id first said it that I wasnt anywhere near "in love" as when I actually was "in love" it was much much stronger). Out of love now mind, it can go away as quickly so enjoy it!!! :pac:

Piste

"I love you"
"Really?"
"Yeah"
"Oh...thanks"


I felt really mean saying that


One week later I said it back though so it was all good


That was about 2 months in.

Dragan

Deleted User wrote: »

I think some people THINK theyre in love and can grow into it (this happened me and I realised that when Id first said it that I wasnt anywhere near "in love" as when I actually was "in love" it was much much stronger).

Agreed.

I was in the same boat with my first g/f. Just infatuated.

Malari

Piste wrote: »

"I love you"
"Really?"
"Yeah"
"Oh...thanks"

This is the way my conversation went with an ex about 5 or 6 years ago:

Ex: "I've fallen for you"
Me: "Have you?"
Ex: "Really? I love you too!"
Me: "...."

I never told him he was actually the first one to say it but it didn't really matter after that anyway

Kinetic^

10 months! :pac: Together 87 months now though! :pac:

Rozabeez

After being "in love" twice, I think there must be different kinds of love, because they both felt different, very different.

Rozabeez

Rozabeez wrote: »

After being "in love" twice, I think there must be different kinds of love, because they both felt different, very different.

How so?