Cheating boyfriend?

LegacyUser

Maybe this is all in my head and Im making a big deal out of it, so please let me know either way.

Iv know my boyfriend for about 6 years now, and we've been going out on an off over that time. We've been going out now for the last 2 years. But he hasn't said he loves me. He has done previous times we've been going out, but not this time. We've both said it drunkenly over the phone, but not face to face and sober. Is it something to be worried about? MAybe I should take the first step and say it first, but Im worried that he wont say it back.

Also, he's not interested in sex half as much anymore. Its a long distance relationship (always has been), and we only see each other on the weekends. And while we weren't going out neither of us were serious about anyone else. I have heard that if a person in a relationship isnt bothered about sex as much as they used to be, then there's a chance that their getting it elsewhere. I never thought he'd cheat on me, but I guess thats what alot of people say until it actually happens.


I do love him alot, and Id be devastated if we broke up.


Any advice?

Thanks

LadyE

Dont jump to conclusions because he hasnt said the L word and because maybe the sex isnt as frequent as it used to be.

I really think you should talk to him about this, have an honest frank conversation about what you said here and take it from there.

Martron

communication is the best policy. tell him that you love him. he might be thinking the same thing you are!!

Solarball10

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I have heard that if a person in a relationship isnt bothered about sex as much as they used to be, then there's a chance that their getting it elsewhere.

This totally isn't true. If you've been in a relationship that long, of course the sex isn't going to be as frequent. It's just a matter of being in a comfortable relationship where it's perfectly normal not be ripping the clothes of each other every night!

As for him not saying those 3 lil words..you said you've been in a relationship with each other twice before and he HAS said it...maybe he's just a bit afraid of putting himself "out there" for fear of things going wrong again?

I'd say have a good talk and a cuppa tea to go with it...(Not being blase, a cuppa works wonders!)

MJOR

Ok I am in a long distance relationship..... Trust is the most important thing

I think that drunken "i love yous" are a poor substitute for looking into someones eyes and meaning it.

Libido comes in ebbs and flows... So from that perspective I wouldn't worry.

Talk to him

jcoote

i'd say get everything out in the open because at least then you'll know where you stand.

nothin worse than wondering 'what if' and not communicating,that's ruined many a relationship in the past

MagicMarker

I'd say that if after 6 years you can't ask him about this then there's not a lot of hope for the relationship tbh.