how to get her attention - HELP

LegacyUser

Hey, looking for a few ideas here, maybe you can help. I work in a small office and there is another small office on the same floor as us as well. The only time you would ever bump into any of the others is when going to the toilets or coming in/going home.

Anyway, there is a new girl there that ive seen around but never bumped into her and its quite difficult to bump into her on purpose if you know what i mean unless i hang around the loo's (bad idea!!).

so i how can i grab her attention, would like to go out for a drink/coffee with her but if im never around her and cant get to chat to her how can i do it. Obviously if it was valentines day i could do it in a cheesy way with flowers and what not but cant really do that in this instance.

thanks

RedXIV

If you have an email address, do a group email thing and invite everyone out for drinks, unless you actually have her email address in which case this is a very small problem of composing an email.

Do you know anyone in the other office? someone you could come up with an excuse to go over to or even to suss out the situation?

My first step would be getting to know people in the other office, once you get that sorted, either get people to suss things out for you or try and get over to meet your "new friends"

kaimera

Dont bother,

if she cba bumping into you already, it's not worth the trouble you'll go to/thru

LegacyUser

I dont have her email address, i dont even know her name! Occasionally i bump into her boss in the loo's, i could ask him, he's fairly chatty and would probably tell me what the story is, he might even drop a hint and she'd know that ive "noticed" her.....

srdb20

Is there a communal canteen or something, otherwise try to get her email of someone......

LegacyUser

whats "CBA"

i dont have her email as i dont even know her name but i do occasionally bump into her boss in the loo and he is quite chatty so i could suss it out with him.

no communal canteen unfortunately

do you love it?

try your very best to get into the same elevator as her

serco

no communal canteen im afraid and i dont know her name so cant get her email.

i do bump into her boss occasionally and he is very chatty so i could suss it out with him, even if i got her name off him i could figure out the email. or he might drop a hint to her...........

RedXIV

good thinking, ask him if they are taking on summer staff like your office, if your lucky you may get a name out of it. Depending on the relationship you have with the boss, you may even get more info than hoped out of him. He's your foot in the door, work with this

serco

alternatively, the building manager is in the know about everything and he is another option but he's the sort of guy who would let everyone know in the whole building whats going on........

srdb20

But dont come on real strong to the boss!

Keep it casual, and drop a hint or two first and see if that knocks something loose;)

impr0v

The fire alarm would empty both offices out on to the street....

jester77

She'll probably start going to lunch with certain people from her office and they will probably have a regular establishment that they visit. Bump into her there and you can use the old "Have I seen you..." to get the conversation going!

srdb20

impr0v wrote: »

The fire alarm would empty both offices out on to the street....

Ding Ding we have a winner!!!

Def the right username for this guy

Gross Halfwit

DONT approach the boss about her. It screams immaturity ... you know, I like your friend ... does she like me? Or the boos, no matter how chatty, probably wouldnt want an office romance taking place. Fair enough you are in different offices but it is in a rather close proximity. Bosses don't like that. I used to be oneso I kinda know.

If there is a communal area then I would suggest hanging out there. Not all the time but maybe take your break out there ... bring a book. Something she looks like she might like. She may notice you that way. This will take you sizing up her personality by her looks which is difficult.

My ultimate advice to you is this ... (And I've done this but in a large canteen, used to work in 3com & there was a girl I liked that I'd never have the opportunity to just talk to so I did this ...) ... If possible, walk directly into her office & just sit down at a desk near her. Preferably beside or opposite her. Sit down ... pause. Look bewildered & say quite loudly ... this isn't my office! Then get chatting from there. It's silly I know but desperate times call for desperate measures & you have to create your opportunities when none exist. It will be embarrassing but feck it it might work!

THIS WILL ONLY WORK IF YOU ARE SURE SHE HAS YET TOSEE YOU ... WHICH IS UNLIKELY ...
Failing that walk into her office, straight up to her & Introduce yourself & say sorry I'm new here ... Im looking for (your actual bosses name). She'll say I don't know who that is. You mention the name of the company. She'll say it's next door. You act all delightfully befuddled at the mix up & say it sure is a shamewe wont be working together ... & lead on from there gauging by her response. Chicks dig those fateful moments & diectness. If she says yes then make a date ... & on the date tell her what you did & why. She should be flattered.

ntlbell

Why not just go over to her and introduce yourself tell her you noticed she was new and would she like to go for coffee's or lunch?

snollup

ntlbell wrote: »

Why not just go over to her and introduce yourself tell her you noticed she was new and would she like to go for coffee's or lunch?

+1

Gross Halfwit

ntlbell wrote: »

Why not just go over to her and introduce yourself tell her you noticed she was new and would she like to go for coffee's or lunch?

Becasue he obviously lacks the resolve ... that's why he's talking to us & not her.

srdb20

ntlbell wrote: »

Why not just go over to her and introduce yourself tell her you noticed she was new and would she like to go for coffee's or lunch?

Simple and easy approach and it will save you a tonne of hassle

GirlInterrupted

Gross Halfwit wrote: »

DONT approach the boss about her. It screams immaturity ... you know, I like your friend ... does she like me? Or the boos, no matter how chatty, probably wouldnt want an office romance taking place. Fair enough you are in different offices but it is in a rather close proximity. Bosses don't like that. I used to be oneso I kinda know.

If there is a communal area then I would suggest hanging out there. Not all the time but maybe take your break out there ... bring a book. Something she looks like she might like. She may notice you that way. This will take you sizing up her personality by her looks which is difficult.

My ultimate advice to you is this ... (And I've done this but in a large canteen, used to work in 3com & there was a girl I liked that I'd never have the opportunity to just talk to so I did this ...) ... If possible, walk directly into her office & just sit down at a desk near her. Preferably beside or opposite her. Sit down ... pause. Look bewildered & say quite loudly ... this isn't my office! Then get chatting from there. It's silly I know but desperate times call for desperate measures & you have to create your opportunities when none exist. It will be embarrassing but feck it it might work!

THIS WILL ONLY WORK IF YOU ARE SURE SHE HAS YET TOSEE YOU ... WHICH IS UNLIKELY ...
Failing that walk into her office, straight up to her & Introduce yourself & say sorry I'm new here ... Im looking for (your actual bosses name). She'll say I don't know who that is. You mention the name of the company. She'll say it's next door. You act all delightfully befuddled at the mix up & say it sure is a shamewe wont be working together ... & lead on from there gauging by her response. Chicks dig those fateful moments & diectness. If she says yes then make a date ... & on the date tell her what you did & why. She should be flattered.

Oh yes, us chicks dig the fateful moments and the delightful befuddlement.
Are you telling me this has actually worked? And she didn't call a doctor?:rolleyes:

OP, do your best to be yourself and not somebody else, get her boss to big you up a bit, find out what time she exits the building, or where she has her lunch, and don't feed her a load of 'lines'.

Just smile, say hi, tell her you were hoping to bump into her...be natural.:)

serco

the problem isnt talking to her or asking her for a coffee etc, it's that i never get an opportunity to do that becuase i can never seem to bump into her

LegacyUser

Unregered3445 wrote: »

Hey, looking for a few ideas here, maybe you can help. I work in a small office and there is another small office on the same floor as us as well. The only time you would ever bump into any of the others is when going to the toilets or coming in/going home.

Anyway, there is a new girl there that ive seen around but never bumped into her and its quite difficult to bump into her on purpose if you know what i mean unless i hang around the loo's (bad idea!!).

so i how can i grab her attention, would like to go out for a drink/coffee with her but if im never around her and cant get to chat to her how can i do it. Obviously if it was valentines day i could do it in a cheesy way with flowers and what not but cant really do that in this instance.

thanks

Sorry but the mere fact that you would go so far as to give someone flowers who you have never spoken to and who has only just started working there screams premature social ejaculation.

Also she may be married/ have a boyfriend/ be a tranny / illegal alien/ extra terrestrial and all of the above. Find out if she smokes...if she does hang around where everyone goes for cigarettes and start chatting to her. IF she doesnt smoke, break into her office and cover everything in nicotine patches...Then play the waiting game.

Seriously if its going to be so difficult to even speak to her it might be better that you try a different approach....none of which i can think of which do not involve following her home from work or seeing where her local boozer is.

Bottom line.....

Find someone else.

srdb20

Walk up to her and say, "Hi how are you"... Take it from there!

GirlInterrupted

serco wrote: »

the problem isnt talking to her or asking her for a coffee etc, it's that i never get an opportunity to do that becuase i can never seem to bump into her

She's got to come in/go home sometime, can you engineer a coincidence?
Can you ask her boss her email/lunch habits?
Any friends who work near her?

_blank_

Get there really early some morning, but hang around a bit outside the offices, when you see her just kind of walk slowly until she catches up just enough so you can hold open the door for her.

Sephiroth_dude

well heres an idea,why not just go up to her desk and say hi and smile and then walk away leave her wondering who you were,mite work mite not but worth a try all the same .

Gross Halfwit

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

Oh yes, us chicks dig the fateful moments and the delightful befuddlement.
Are you telling me this has actually worked? And she didn't call a doctor?:rolleyes:

OP, do your best to be yourself and not somebody else, get her boss to big you up a bit, find out what time she exits the building, or where she has her lunch, and don't feed her a load of 'lines'.

Just smile, say hi, tell her you were hoping to bump into her...be natural.:)

As was alreayd said. I did do something akin to this but not in an office. I just accidentally on purpose sat down at her table in the canteen & started talking while sorting out my knife & fork etc. I said without looking up ... " Theres that CD you wanted" & placed it on the table. I then looked u pto see here just staring blankly at me. I said " You're not my friend ... " She said "No ..." I went " Well I feel like a fool now ... " & went off on a mixture of Hugh Grant & Chris Farley esque befuddlement. Before making my apologies & leaving.

Here's the really clever part ... I left the CD on the table. It was a mixed CD of rock/indie music. By the T-shirts she wore I knew she was into rock. I left it with her. I also left the canteen. About 2 hours later she came up to me &said you forgot your CD. I said of yeah thanks & all that. Was wondering where that went .. .etc. She then complimented my music tastes & we got talking from there. Giggles were had ... gambits were made but unfortunately she was already loved up. We became mates though ...

And as for fateful moments ... you just told him to orchestrate a coincidence! That's creating a fateful moment to use other terminology! And since you suggested it then that must mean you think it will work ergo "chicks dig fateful moments."

Skiddoosh!

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

well heres an idea,why not just go up to her desk and say hi and smile and then walk away leave her wondering who you were,mite work mite not but worth a try all the same .

Or smear your clothes with baby's blood ... it would be just as creepy!

darsar

I think on your first time of bumping into her have some humour that will light up her morning or send her home smiling leaving a mark with her.

Find out when she starts/finishes work, make it your business to bump into her and have something like the drawing in the link i give below and before you give her your drawing ,(do draw yourself), say that you noticed her last week and that your that good of an artist it only took you a week to draw her!!

She'll be expecting a gorgeous portrait and then you give it to her (with your number on the back) and say hope you like it and walk off. Ice broken.

http://www.lightworker.com/images/photos/stick_woman.jpg

GirlInterrupted

Gross Halfwit wrote: »

As was alreayd said. I did do something akin to this but not in an office. I just accidentally on purpose sat down at her table in the canteen & started talking while sorting out my knife & fork etc. I said without looking up ... " Theres that CD you wanted" & placed it on the table. I then looked u pto see here just staring blankly at me. I said " You're not my friend ... " She said "No ..." I went " Well I feel like a fool now ... " & went off on a mixture of Hugh Grant & Chris Farley esque befuddlement. Before making my apologies & leaving.

Here's the really clever part ... I left the CD on the table. It was a mixed CD of rock/indie music. By the T-shirts she wore I knew she was into rock. I left it with her. I also left the canteen. About 2 hours later she came up to me &said you forgot your CD. I said of yeah thanks & all that. Was wondering where that went .. .etc. She then complimented my music tastes & we got talking from there. Giggles were had ... gambits were made but unfortunately she was already loved up. We became mates though ...

And as for fateful moments ... you just told him to orchestrate a coincidence! That's creating a fateful moment to use other terminology! And since you suggested it then that must mean you think it will work ergo "chicks dig fateful moments."

Skiddoosh!



Or smear your clothes with baby's blood ... it would be just as creepy!

Obviously we live in alternate universes:).

Sephiroth_dude

Gross Halfwit wrote: »

My ultimate advice to you is this ... (And I've done this but in a large canteen, used to work in 3com & there was a girl I liked that I'd never have the opportunity to just talk to so I did this ...) ... If possible, walk directly into her office & just sit down at a desk near her. Preferably beside or opposite her. Sit down ... pause. Look bewildered & say quite loudly ... this isn't my office! Then get chatting from there. It's silly I know but desperate times call for desperate measures & you have to create your opportunities when none exist. It will be embarrassing but feck it it might work!

ya thats a great way alright :rolleyes: much better than mine :rolleyes:

Gross Halfwit

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

Obviously we live in alternate universes:).

Mores the pity ...

ntlbell

serco wrote: »

the problem isnt talking to her or asking her for a coffee etc, it's that i never get an opportunity to do that becuase i can never seem to bump into her

so walk over to her desk?

she's not a caged animal, she can only say no..

serco

you see i dont work in the same company as her, our companies are on the same floor.

i'll try to somehow create an encounter.........somehow!

ntlbell

serco wrote: »

you see i dont work in the same company as her, our companies are on the same floor.

i'll try to somehow create an encounter.........somehow!

who cares, you're in the same building, your excuse for "notcing" her is not like some pervert you're in the same building.

think about it like this.

You're at your desk, SHE walks over to you and says she noticed you had just started and thought you might like to join for lunch..

what would you think of her?

nutcase?

no, so why would she think the same of you? she'd be delighted!**

**(might not lead to lunch or coffee's)

Call Me Jimmy

Imo this thread is full of guys who watch romantic comedies. They say they were "just flicking" but they watch almost the entire thing. Seeing all these elaborate encounters that are dreamed up to entertain, they scarily think they should be applied to real life. When on the bus, theme music from some movie plays in their head as they imagine the camera focused on them from outside.

My advice is don't be a shady character. Having said that, the fire alarm idea was pretty class.