wedding gift

jillyb

Hi

as i mentioned in another post i'm attending a wedding next week,of one of my friends from school.
I'm just finished college and am broke out.I know the amount of €100 is about right but i have these two things i'm thinking of getting.

Here's a link to each- http://www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10001_10001_66067_365538_-1
&
http://www.debenhamswine.co.uk/flowers/gifts-uk/DW_GF12/DWGF.html

let me know if think this is ok?thanks a mil.

boogle

I got married recently, and a good few of my guests gave un-fancy gifts. I didn't care at all what people gave, how much they spent or any of that crap. A lot of people don't have much spare cash. The last thing I wanted was people to be annoyed or stressed about getting us a gift. If the people you're buying for are the kind of people who would be bothered by a cash-strapped student not giving them a lavish, expensive gift, then they're idiots.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, I've just had it to the eyeballs with greedy, materialistic brides and grooms.

bensoneb

Hi,

Do you know that they would actually use the grill? It may be a waste of money if they already have one or have other methods of cooking. Would you think of giving them a gift voucher which they can use to buy what they actually need?

The wine is a lovely gift which people always love so if all fails, go for it!

Malari

boogle wrote: »

I got married recently, and a good few of my guests gave un-fancy gifts. I didn't care at all what people gave, how much they spent or any of that crap. A lot of people don't have much spare cash. The last thing I wanted was people to be annoyed or stressed about getting us a gift. If the people you're buying for are the kind of people who would be bothered by a cash-strapped student not giving them a lavish, expensive gift, then they're idiots.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, I've just had it to the eyeballs with greedy, materialistic brides and grooms.

It's a pity more people don't think like you do, Boogle, because I know not everyone does! I've been invited to a wedding where the bride has basically made it clear that she reckons guests should cover the cost of the meal, preferably in cash. :eek:

I think that's ridiculous! If I invite people to a dinner party, where it's polite to bring a bottle of wine, for example, I certainly don't expect the value of the gift to equal what I have spent on the meal! It's a bonus token of appreciation.

If you can't afford to have a big wedding then don't.

OP, give a present appropriate to what you can afford. I gave a different friend who married last year a framed drawing of the church where they were married and they loved it because they said it was personal

boogle

Malari wrote: »

It's a pity more people don't think like you do, Boogle, because I know not everyone does! I've been invited to a wedding where the bride has basically made it clear that she reckons guests should cover the cost of the meal, preferably in cash. :eek:

That's just outrageous! And don't get me started about wedding gift registers. They're so presumptuous. This is yet another Americanisation and I can't believe Irish people go for it. The whole point of a gift is that you choose something yourself for the recipient. "Oh but they might not want to end up with two identical coffee-makers, or maybe..." blah blah. That's what wedding gifts are all about. I got some ugly gifts, some useless gifts and mostly great gifts, and I loved them all.

Aquitaine

OP, could i just say that you are obviously putting a lot of thought into this gift and that is something quite refreshing. I really think that its not the money thats spent on the gift but rather the thought that went into it. as another poster said if you think they will used the grill go for it, if not think maybe more about the couple and maybe you can come up with a gift that they will really appreciate. people love gifts that are personal to them and ones that people have obviously thought about.

Good luck in your search

Whispered

OP, don't feel like you have to spend loads. Either of those gifts would be great! It's nice you are putting thought into it. That would mean more to people than someone going out and buying something expensive just for the sake of it.

As for the "outrage" at wedding lists :rolleyes:, while I'm not having a wedding list, I live with my fiance, in our own, fully furnished, fully fitted out house. We need absolutely nothing. When I go to a wedding of someone in the same situation as us I prefer to get a wedding list. Rather than wasting my money on something they don't need.

It's not like everything on a wedding list is expensive! The people who are outraged, have you actually seen a wedding list? A lot of things on the few I saw were less than €30, hardly something to get outraged about?

Malari

Yeah, I don't oppose wedding lists completely. I like to have ideas from people for their birthdays and Christmas so I don't see wedding lists as that different, if the couple accepts that guests can stray from the list if they so wish!

I like to be able to know that my gift of coffee machine, or whatever, would be appropriate if I haven't been in their kitchen and don't know if they have one!

kizzyr

jillyb wrote: »

Hi

as i mentioned in another post i'm attending a wedding next week,of one of my friends from school.
I'm just finished college and am broke out.I know the amount of €100 is about right but i have these two things i'm thinking of getting.

Here's a link to each- http://www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10001_10001_66067_365538_-1
&
http://www.debenhamswine.co.uk/flowers/gifts-uk/DW_GF12/DWGF.html

let me know if think this is ok?thanks a mil.

Or you could send them some chocolate:) I've used this site a lot and the gift of chocolate has always been appreciated. Its something a little different to send when you're broke and is something they're not going to get from someone else. This chocolate is also delicious.
www.hotelchocolat.co.uk

^^^^ Advertising not allowed ?^^^

OP, whatever you can afford is sufficient

kizzyr

rarnes1 wrote: »

^^^^ Advertising not allowed ?^^^

OP, whatever you can afford is sufficient

Jeeze I wasn't advertising simply trying to help. Is this the first time someone has posted a direct link to a site and been accused of advertising? :mad:
For the record I have no links to, associations with, affiliations to, interests in that company ok?!
Last time I try to help someone.

kizzyr

kizzyr wrote: »

Jeeze I wasn't advertising simply trying to help. Is this the first time someone has posted a direct link to a site and been accused of advertising? :mad:
For the record I have no links to, associations with, affiliations to, interests in that company ok?!
Last time I try to help someone.

wasnt you Kizzyr. The person advertising has had their post removed

kizzyr

rarnes1 wrote: »

wasnt you Kizzyr. The person advertising has had their post removed

Ok, and I apologise for my somewhat strong reaction.....'twas one of those days.

kizzyr

kizzyr wrote: »

Ok, and I apologise for my somewhat strong reaction.....'twas one of those days.